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It's Not You

How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People

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It's Not You

By: Ramani Durvasula
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REDISCOVER WHO YOU ARE AFTER YEARS OF INVALIDATION.

Dealing with a narcissist is hard. One day their confidence and charisma pull you in, the next day they gaslight, wreck your self-confidence, and leave you wondering what you could have done differently. Clinical Psychologist and narcissism expert Dr Ramani is here to help. Drawing on more than 20 years of studying, teaching and helping people navigate the challenging landscape of narcissism, you’ll learn how to:

  • Spot the tell-tale signs of a narcissist
  • Confront toxic cycles
  • Protect your energy
  • Create realistic boundaries
  • Reclaim and embrace your true self

Packed with expert tips and detailed advice, this book will equip you with the tools to stop blaming yourself, regain your power, heal, and take back your life.

©2024 Ramani Durvasula (P)2024 Penguin Audio Abuse Best of 2024 Dysfunctional Families Love, Dating & Attraction Mental Health Parenting & Families Personal Development Personality Disorders Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Self-Esteem Narcissism Inspiring

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“A compassionate roadmap and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships, helping them understand how to heal and thrive during and after these challenging relationships.” - Jay Shetty
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One of the only books tackling narcissism from the victims point of view. Very well written and easy to follow, full of practical and helpful advice.

Recommended reading for everyone!

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It's changing my life. I still struggle to process all the information but I start to have hope that I can be better

Everything. The accuracy is amazing!

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I bought this so I could better understand the impact of my friend's vulnerable narcissistic mother and why she kept entering narcissistic relationships. I now get. I'm going to buy her a copy of this for Xmas. Check out Dr.Ramani on Lisa Bilyeu's Women of Impact podcast, that's how I first found out about the book.

Insightful and worth the credits.

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To everyone reading this book - please know that you are not alone. I hope that this book can start a movement….know your truth, know your worth, find yourself!

Thank you Dr Ramani!

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Amazing book to support survivor’s journey in understanding the path of healing within and out of a narcissistic relationship. Explores grief and the possibilities of rewriting our narrative as people in our own right. Well worth being read twice.

Insight and support

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An essential listen for anyone in an abusive relationship, you’ll learn what to do to regain your true identity

Her determination to get the message across

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A must read. This book is simply genius and dr Ramani never disappoints. Highly recommend.

Genius

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A great narrative, with many relatable stories and inspires hope for a way through the future at your own pace.

A great re-framer

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So insightful, validating and chock full of helpful advice and approaches for healing and rebuilding.

One of the best books I've read on narcissist abuse.

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This book has changed my life. Struggling to release myself from a malignant narcissist estranged husband this book came at exactly the right time. It has enabled me to finally realise after many many years of abuse that it's not me. It is such a relief to have this book validate what I already knew. More importantly it provides help, advise and strategies on how to cope with a narcissist. This will always remain an important and necessary book in my life as being an empath I'm easily manipulated by narcissists and now have the tools to cope with the narcissistic personalities surrounding me. Thank you Dr. Durvasula xxx

Life Changing

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