• #156: The Motivation Problem: How To Solve It and Quit Porn For Good
    Apr 21 2026

    Have you ever felt a huge surge of motivation to quit porn for good, taken real action, built some momentum, and then a week or two later found yourself right back where you started? Have you ever wondered why that motivation never seems to last long enough to actually get you free?


    In this episode you are going to discover why motivation alone will never be enough to break the porn relapse cycle, and exactly what to do instead. You are going to hear a simple three step framework for turning occasional bursts of motivation into sustained daily fuel for your freedom journey. Using a powerful airplane analogy, you are going to walk away understanding why most guys are doing motivation completely wrong, and how to be part of the one percent who actually do it right.


    After listening to this episode you are going to walk away with a clear, practical three step plan you can start today. No complicated strategies, no willpower required. Just three simple steps that take five to ten minutes once, and then one minute every single morning after that. This is the missing piece that keeps most guys stuck in the relapse cycle for years longer than they need to be.


    Ready to take the next step? Download the free PATH Plan at heisfree.me/plan and start building the daily habits that lead to lasting freedom.

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    17 mins
  • #155: Re-Release - Struggling to Quit Porn? Try Self-Compassion (On the No More Desire Podcast with Jake Kastleman )
    Apr 14 2026

    Have you been trying to quit porn for years, doing all the right things, and still can't figure out why it's not working? Have you ever wondered if there is a piece of the puzzle that nobody has told you about yet?


    In this episode, you're going to hear a conversation between two coaches and experts who have both lived this struggle personally and now help men find lasting freedom. You're going to hear the full story of how one 20 year porn addiction finally ended, what was tried along the way, why most of it wasn't enough, and what the actual missing piece turned out to be. You're also going to discover why self-compassion is one of the most overlooked and underestimated ingredients in the freedom journey, and why without it, even the best tools and strategies will fall short.


    After listening to this episode you're going to walk away with a fresh perspective on why you may still be stuck despite your best efforts, and a new understanding of what it actually takes to find lasting freedom from porn. This is a honest, shame free conversation between two guys who get it because they've lived it.


    Ready to take the next step? Visit heisfree.me/plan to get the free PATH Plan and start your freedom journey today.

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    1 hr and 8 mins
  • #154: What a Porn Free Day Actually Looks Like (A Practical Walkthrough)
    Apr 7 2026

    Have you ever made it through one good day only to feel completely unprepared and back to square one the next morning? Do you wish someone would just walk you through exactly what a successful day on the freedom journey actually looks like from start to finish?


    In this episode you are going to get a practical, step by step walkthrough of what an optimal day pursuing freedom from porn looks like. You will hear exactly what to do in the morning to fuel and prepare yourself before the urge even hits, what to do when the urge shows up during the day, and how to get your head on the pillow at night feeling genuinely proud of how you handled it. You will also get a specific tweak to make if your urges tend to hit first thing in the morning before you even get out of bed.


    After listening to this episode you will walk away with a clear, simple daily structure you can start using tomorrow morning. No more guessing, no more winging it, and no more feeling unprepared when the urge shows up. This is what it looks like to stop reacting to porn urges and start running a daily game plan instead.


    Ready to take the next step? Download the free PATH Plan at heisfree.me/plan and start your first optimal day tomorrow morning.

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    16 mins
  • #153: How To Handle Your Next Porn Urge (And Every Urge After That)
    Mar 31 2026

    Have you ever felt like you were doing everything right on the freedom journey — accountability, filters, community, counseling — but still felt powerless when the urge hit? Have you ever wondered if there is something missing, some piece of the puzzle that nobody has told you about yet?


    In this episode, Dan shares the personal turning point that changed everything for him after over 20 years of struggling with porn. He walks through exactly what was missing, what he discovered in the summer of 2020 that flipped the switch, and the single most important truth he learned through one specific, intense urge.


    After listening to this episode you will walk away with one powerful, life changing truth that will completely reframe the way you think about urges forever — and a clear, practical challenge to try with your very next urge. If you have ever believed that an urge was just too intense to handle, this episode is going to change that belief for good.


    Ready to take the next step? Download the free PATH Plan at ⁠heisfree.me/plan⁠ and start practicing with your very next urge.

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    14 mins
  • #152: Ever Talk To Your Urge? 3 Phrases To Use the Next Time You Feel Tempted
    Mar 24 2026

    Have you ever felt completely hijacked by a porn urge with no idea what to do in that moment except white knuckle your way through it or give in?


    What if there was a simple, research backed experiment you could try with your very next urge that takes just a few seconds?


    In this episode, you're going to walk away with a practical experiment you can begin using immediately — talking directly to your urge.


    It sounds unconventional, but it is backed by research and proven to reduce urge intensity, engage your thinking brain, decrease shame, and keep you in the driver's seat when temptation hits.


    You're going to get three specific, easy phrases to try with your next urge, plus a bonus hack that takes this approach even further.


    Ready to take the next step? Download the free PATH Plan at heisfree.me/plan and start practicing with your very next urge.

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    25 mins
  • #151: Urge Surfing and Why You Don't Need More Willpower to Quit Porn (You Need This Instead)
    Mar 19 2026

    Do you feel like your biggest problem on the freedom journey is that you just don't have enough willpower or self control? Have you ever white knuckled your way through an urge, only to eventually give in anyway and wonder what is wrong with you?


    In this episode, we're flipping the script on one of the most common beliefs in the porn struggle — that freedom requires more willpower and self control. We're going to break down why fighting against an urge is like trying to push back against a powerful ocean wave. You're going to learn about concept of urge surfing, and most importantly, discover the one ingredient you actually need to handle urges effectively. Spoiler: it has nothing to do with being stronger or more disciplined.


    After listening to this episode, you'll walk away understanding why willpower has been working against you, and the clarity about what to begin doing instead. Freedom does not have to be a struggle!


    Ready to stop fighting and start surfing? Download the free PATH Plan at heisfree.me/plan and begin practicing with your very next urge.

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    25 mins
  • #150: Why Tracking Your Streaks Is Keeping You Stuck (And What To Track Instead)
    Mar 10 2026

    Do you measure your progress on the freedom journey by how many days you've gone without porn? Have you ever felt the crushing pressure of a long streak — terrified to lose it — only to slip, hit zero, and binge for days before starting over again?


    In this episode, we're diving into one of the most common and counterproductive things almost every guy does on the freedom journey — tracking his streak — and why it's actually making it harder to get free. You're going to hear 3 reasons why streak tracking is keeping you stuck, and most importantly, what to track instead that will actually move the needle toward lasting freedom.


    After listening to this episode, you'll never look at your streak the same way again. You'll walk away with a completely new way to measure your progress — one that removes the pressure, survives a slip without sending you back to zero, and builds real momentum over time. This is one of those mindset shifts that changes everything.


    Want to know EXACTLY what to do when the urge hits? Download the free PATH Plan at heisfree.me/plan — your clear, practical, go-to plan for every urge. Start accumulating wins and building exciting momentum!

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    19 mins
  • #149: What To Pursue Instead of Porn (3 Positive Porn Replacements)
    Mar 3 2026

    Do you ever feel like the freedom journey is nothing more than white-knuckling your way through urges, saying no, and just trying not to look? Are you tired of freedom feeling like nothing more than abstaining from something — and longing for it to mean so much more than that?


    In this episode, we're diving into one of the most energizing and practical sides of the freedom journey — what you're pursuing freedom for. Dan breaks down three powerful categories of positive porn replacements: your relationships, your health and fitness, and your dreams. These aren't just nice ideas — they're what becomes possible when porn loses its grip on your time, your mental bandwidth, and your confidence.


    After listening to this episode, you'll walk away with a fresh sense of inspiration and a clear, practical direction for what to pursue as porn decreases in your life. Instead of just saying no to something harmful, you'll start saying yes to something life-giving — and that shift will fuel your freedom journey for the long haul.


    If you want to take the next step on your freedom journey, head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Heisfree.me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and download the free Missing Piece Guide. It gives you the simple tools you need so you can stop feeling blindsided by urges and start feeling confident and in control.

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    21 mins