In this episode of Call Me Courage, Kena discusses the bystander effect, a social phenomenon where individuals are less likely to help a victim when others are present. The conversation explores the concept and the importance of courage and kindness in addressing it.

It delves into the impact of being a bystander and the ways to intervene effectively, emphasizing the power of individual action in making a positive difference.

Kena reflects on her own experiences as a bystander and emphasizes the importance of stepping forward to help others.

She introduces the five D's of bystander intervention: distract, delegate, document, delay, and direct, providing listeners with practical strategies to intervene in situations of bullying or harassment.

The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to choose courage and kindness in their daily lives.

TAKEAWAYS

• The bystander effect is a real phenomenon that affects our actions.
• Courage often means standing up for others in need.
• Kindness can be contagious and can change the world.
• Silence can be harmful; we should choose to act.
• The five D's of bystander intervention are essential tools.
• Distracting can be a safe way to intervene.
• Delegating to someone in authority can help.
• Documenting incidents can provide valuable evidence.
• Checking in with victims can help them feel supported.
• Choosing courage can be a quiet but powerful act.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to the Bystander Effect

02:55 Understanding the Bystander Effect

05:51 The Five D's of Bystander Intervention

06:49 Choosing Courage Over Silence

RESOURCES

• Right to Be - Bystander Intervention Resources
• NST Attorneys at Law - Child Safety
• CMC Blog

Connect with Kena

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kena-campbell-88643814/
• Follow Call Me Courage on Instagram
• Listen to us on Apple Podcast, Spotify, Amazon Music
• Watch on YouTube

**The opinions shared on this podcast are solely those of the hosts, Kena. If you are in crisis or feel you may be in danger, please seek professional help. Additional support resources can be found on the Call Me Courage blog page. https://www.callmecouragepodcast.com/blog

#bystandereffect #courage #kindnessiscontagious #kindness #choosecourage #callmecouragepodcast #callmecourage

In this week's Call me Courage Midweek Inspiration and Motivation Kena shares her journey with meditation, emphasizing the power of the 'Mindful Minute' to reconnect with inner wisdom, reduce stress, and foster courage through stillness.

Discover how just one minute of mindful breathing can reshape your day, reduce stress, and help you reconnect with your inner self.

MAIN TOPICS:

• The concept of the "Mindful Minute" and its transformative impact
• Overcoming barriers to meditation: starting small and being present
• How the mindful minute creates space to hear your inner wisdom
• Practical advice: setting reminders and making meditation accessible
• Benefits of daily mindfulness practice: stress reduction, focus, clarity
• Encouragement to prioritize small moments of stillness in busy lives
• The significance of breath and presence in meditation

TAKEAWAYS

• Start small: one minute of mindfulness can be transformative.
• Breath is a powerful tool for grounding and clarity.
• Consistency in practice enhances connection to inner wisdom.
• The noisy mind often drowns out inner guidance.
• Even brief moments of stillness foster courage and insight.

SOUND BITES

• "Meditation does not have to happen on a mountaintop"
• "Just one mindful minute can be life-changing"
• "Sometimes the smallest practices create the biggest transformation"

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Mindfulness and Meditation

02:51 The Mindful Minute Practice

04:32 Benefits of the Mindful Minute

RESOURCES

Call Me Courage Blog on the Mindful Minute: https://www.callmecouragepodcast.com/post/the-mindful-minute-a-simple-practice-that-changed-my-life

Awakening the Buddha Within - Lama Surya Das

Connect with Kena: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kena-campbell-88643814/

Follow Call Me Courage on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/callmecouragepodcast/

Listen to us on Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/call-me-courage/id1870941728

Watch our videos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CallMeCourage

**The opinions shared on this podcast are solely those of the hosts, Kena. If you are in crisis or feel you may be in danger, please seek professional help. Additional support resources can be found on the Call Me Courage blog page. https://www.callmecouragepodcast.com/blog

#meditation #mindfulminute #mindfulness #stressreduction #innerwisdom #courage #selfcare #mentalhealth #spiritualgrowth #clarity #confidence #wisdom #callmecourage #callmecouragepodcast #breathe #breath #focus #concentration #calm #stillness

In this episode of Call Me Courage, Kena explores the meaningful journey of discovering and living your life's purpose. Through personal insights and reflections, she encourages listeners to recognize the clues they've been leaving in their own lives, emphasizing that purpose often resides in love, kindness, and authenticity.

Your purpose is broad, often expressed through passions and actions that feed the soul. Kena encourages listeners to find clarity through reflection.

The opinions shared on this podcast are solely those of the hosts, Kena. If you are in crisis or feel you may be in danger, please seek professional help. Additional support resources can be found on the Call Me Courage blog page. https://www.callmecouragepodcast.com/blog

KEY TOPICS

• The importance of living on purpose
• Using astrology to understand oneself
• Purpose as a broad, evolving concept
• The difference between profession and purpose
• Practical steps to discover your purpose

TAKEAWAYS

• Purpose is often broader than your career.
• Your life leaves clues—look for recurring themes.
• Love is a fundamental purpose for many.
• Reflecting for 10 minutes can reveal your purpose.
• Challenges shape your purpose, not define it.

TITLES

• Discover Your True Purpose in 10 Minutes
• How Astrology Reveals Your Life Blueprint

SOUND BITES

"Your life leaves clues."

"My life's purpose is love."

"Be courageous, be curious."

CHAPTERS

00:00 Discovering Life's Purpose

07:34 The Essence of Purpose

10:40 Embracing Your Journey

RESOURCES

Call Me Courage Blog: https://www.callmecouragepodcast.com/blog

Kena’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kena-campbell-88643814/

Podcast Links are Home Page: https://www.callmecouragepodcast.com/

#Purpose #selfdiscovery #astrology, #lifecoaching #innercourage #passion #personalgrowth #love #clarity #motivation #confidence #courage #callmecouragepodcast #callmecourage

HOST: Kena

GUEST: Christa

TOPIC: Power of Getting Coaching

In this inspiring Call MeCourage Good Conversations interview, Christa shares her transformative journey through confidence coaching, highlighting how it changed her life both professionally and personally. Discover practical insights and real stories that demonstrate the power of self-belief and coaching.

Christa details how targeted strategies helped her overcome internal doubts, enhance her professional growth, and cultivate a more peaceful, self-assured life. Discover practical insights and inspiring stories that underscore the power of investing in self-development.

Christa Quote - Kena loved this one:

“Coaching is about working toward the future, therapy is about working on the past.”

KEY TOPICS

• Christa’s initial feelings of being stuck and the role confidence coaching played in her career shift
• How high-level women in corporate settings seek confidence coaching and dispel stereotypes
• The unique approach of confidence coaching—focusing on self-awareness rather than traditional therapy
• The significance of core values and understanding one’s true self in building confidence
• The impact of coaching on overcoming “monkey chatter” and internal self-criticism
• Real-world examples: how coaching led to a new job, promotions, and increased self-trust
• The mental shift from questioning to action and embracing authenticity in everyday life
• Lessons on active listening and asking meaningful questions to foster better relationships
• Importance of asking questions and listening
• The importance of foundational tools like mission and vision statements in long-term growth
• Christa’s advice for those feeling stuck: “Do it, it’s worth it,” emphasizing coaching as a future-focused investment

TAKEAWAYS

• Confidence is rooted in self-knowledge and authenticity.
• Coaching can reveal hidden strengths and unlock potential.
• Consistent effort and exercises lead to lasting change.
• Having a supportive manager or mentor boosts confidence.
• Listening to understand, not reply, improves relationships.

SOUND BITES FROM CHRISTA

"Confidence coaching helped me know who I really am."

"It changed me in so many ways I can't even explain."

"Coaching set me on a path to see things differently."

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction and Background

06:19 The Decision to Seek Coaching

09:00 The Coaching Experience

11:49 Transformative Moments in Coaching

14:31 Life Changes Post-Coaching

17:31 Internal Growth and Mindset Shift

20:32 Tools and Techniques That Worked

23:20 Advice for Those Considering Coaching

26:14 Conclusion and Reflections

30:50 Closing

RESOURCES

Kena's Call Me Courage Coaching - https://www.callmecouragepodcast.com/

Christa's LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/christadutoitbrown/

Kena’s LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kena-campbell-88643814/

#confidence #coaching #PersonalDevelopment #ProfessionalGrowth #SelfBelief, #transformation #clarity #courage #callmecourage #callmecouragepodcast #goodconversations

In this Call Me Courage episode, Kena shares a personal journey of transformation through understanding keystone habits and the domino effect of courage. If you’ve ever struggled to maintain motivation or wondered how to create lasting change, this episode offers practical insights to reframe your approach and build momentum one courageous step at a time.

A single positive habit can trigger a domino effect of improvements in life, emphasizing the importance of starting small and focusing on one change at a time.

The opinions shared on this podcast are solely those of the hosts, Kena. If you are in crisis or feel you may be in danger, please seek professional help. Additional support resources can be found on the Call Me Courage blog page.

https://www.callmecouragepodcast.com/blog

KEY TOPICS

• Keystone habits and their impact
• The importance of starting with one habit
• How habits influence multiple areas of life
• Recognizing and changing negative keystone habits
• Building confidence through small wins

TAKEAWAYS

• Every keystone habit begins with one decision repeated daily.
• You don't become confident first; you start the habit and confidence grows.
• Finding your first domino is crucial for lasting change.
• Focus on one habit at a time to create a domino effect.
• Negative habits can also create a domino effect of decline.

TITLES

• The Power of One Habit: How to Trigger a Domino Effect in Your Life
• Start Small: The Secret to Lasting Change

SOUND BITES

• "Every keystone habit begins with one decision."
• "Start with the first domino, and confidence will follow."
• "Focus on one habit, and the rest will follow."

CHAPTERS

00:00 The Struggle with Motivation

00:52 My Weight Loss Journey

02:48 The Power of Keystone Habits

05:31 Finding Your First Domino

#keystonehabits, #personaldevelopment, #habits, #motivation, #self-improvement, #courage, #ifestylechange #dominoeffect #clarity #confidence #startatbeginning #callmecourage #callmecouragepodcast

RESOURCES

Lifestyle RX Program - https://lifestylerx.ca

Kena's Reflection on Habits -https://www.callmecouragepodcast.com/post/the-power-of-one-how-a-single-habit-can-transform-your-life

Understanding Fawning: The Survival Response Behind People-Pleasing

You have heard of fight, flight or freeze response. What if I told you there is a fourth one? Well there is, fawning

Discover how what we often labeled as people-pleasing might actually be a complex trauma response called fawning. In this Call Me Courage Midweek Inspiration & Motivation episode, Kena explores the emotional roots, signs, and healing journey associated with this behavior, offering insights for anyone looking to reconnect with their true self.

• The difference between people-pleasing and fawning, and how it’s rooted in survival mechanisms
• The concept of fawning as a trauma response linked to complex PTSD, explained through Pete Walker’s insights
• How childhood experiences shape adult behaviors of codependency and constant caretaking
• Recognizing the signs of fawning in relationships: hyper-vigilance, emotional monitoring, loss of self-awareness
• The importance of understanding that fawning is not a flaw but a coping strategy
• Steps toward healing: setting boundaries, self-awareness, seeking support, and reconnecting with personal needs
• The role of therapy, support groups, and spiritual communities in the healing process
• How awareness can empower you to live more authentically and courageously

CHAPTERS

• (0:02) - Introduction: Are you a people pleaser? Fawning as a survival response
• (0:30) - Understanding fawning and complex PTSD
• (2:10) - The distinction between character flaws and trauma responses
• (3:36) - Reframing codependency: Trauma, not character defect
• (4:27) - Childhood conditions that lead to fawning behaviors
• (5:24) - The cycle of sacrifice and the illusion of love
• (5:54) - The hyper-vigilance of fawners and loss of safety
• (6:24) - Reflection on childhood needs and adult resilience
• (6:55) - The liberation of understanding your survival mechanisms
• (7:25) - The impact of unresolved pain on loved ones
• (7:53) - Steps toward healing: boundaries, self-worth, and support
• (8:04) - Practical tips for reclaiming your true self
• (8:53) - Resources for healing: therapy, community, spiritual practices

RESOURCES - Below are Amazon Canada Links, books can be found on other Amazon platforms in other countries.

• Fawning by Ingrid Clayton https://a.co/d/07X8D6U0
• CoDependent No More by Melody Beattie https://a.co/d/01nWrvjR
• Complex PTSD from Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker https://a.co/d/062UWsoP

Connect with Kena:

https://www.callmecouragepodcast.com/contact-8

The opinions shared on this podcast are solely those of the hosts, Kena. If you are in crisis or feel you may be in danger, please seek professional help. Additional support resources can be found on the Call Me Courage blog page. https://www.callmecouragepodcast.com/blog

#fawning #fawner #codependent #codependency #peoplepleaser #c-ptsd #trauma #traumaresonse #healing #clarity #confidence #courage #callmecourage #callmecouragepodcast

In this episode of the Call Me Courage Podcast, Sandra and Kena explore how to shift from shame and inadequacy to power and self-trust. They discuss practical methods like the VALID framework, the importance of self-awareness, and healing old wounds to reconnect with the true self.

The conversation delves into the understanding of inadequacy and shame, emphasizing the importance of recognizing inadequacy as a signal, not a truth.

Sandra shares the three words she says when connecting to her true self, truth, peace and power”

• Bring me truth
• Bring me peace
• Bring me power

Sandra references the Secret Language of Feelings by Calvin D. Banyan 1-2-3 Steps

1. Identify / name the feeling.
2. Identify the cause of the feeling (unfilled need, want or desire).
3. Identify a satisfying response - that is an action that fulfills the need, want or desire.

Please Note - The opinions shared on this podcast are solely those of the hosts, Sandra and Kena. If you are in crisis or feel you may be in danger, please seek professional help. Additional support resources can be found on the Call Me Courage blog page. https://www.callmecouragepodcast.com/blog

SANDRA’S KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Inadequacy is a signal, not a truth — and shame grows when we mistake the feeling for our identity.
• Avoidance is protection, not failure — it shows us where something deeper needs care.
• The VALID method and Banyan’s 123 process help us separate past from present and find a satisfying, grounded response.
• Reconnecting with our True Self — through intention and not taking things personally — is the antidote to self betrayal.

KEYWORDS: self-awareness, shame, inadequacy, healing, VALID method, self-trust, emotional intelligence, personal growth

KEY TOPICS

• The VALID method for emotional healing
• The role of shame and inadequacy in self-betrayal
• How to reconnect with your true self
• Using feelings as signals for growth
• Separating past wounds from present triggers

TAKEAWAYS

• Inadequacy is a signal, not a fact.
• Naming feelings validates our true selves.
• Healing involves separating past beliefs from present reality.
• The VALID method guides from feeling to empowerment.
• Patience and self-compassion are crucial in growth.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Healing from Shame

04:19 The Valid Method: Naming Feelings

07:09 Identifying the Cause of Inadequacy

10:18 Shifting from Inadequacy to Empowerment

13:26 The Process of Learning and Growth

16:14 Reconnecting with the True Self

18:59 Inadequacy as a Signal for Growth

21:59 Conclusion and Key Takeaways

26:23 NEWCHAPTER_2

RESOURCES

The Secret Language of Feelings by Calvin Banyan - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07VJX7V7X

VALID Method Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jsLGuM1jZqA

#Shame #Betrayal #Inadequacy #feelthefeeling #namethefeeling #namefeeling #truth #peace #power #innerself #VALID #clarity #confidence #courage #callmecouragepodcast #callmecourage

In this episode, Sandra explores the deep roots of shame, inadequacy, and the ultimate betrayal of self when we abandon our true identity. She shares personal stories and insights on how these feelings impact our lives and how reconnecting with our true self can lead to healing and fulfillment.

The opinions shared on this podcast are solely those of the hosts, Sandra and Kena. If you are in crisis or feel you may be in danger, please seek professional help. Additional support resources can be found on the Call Me Courage blog page. https://www.callmecouragepodcast.com/blog

SANDRA’S KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Inadequacy whispers “I can’t,” and shame twists it into “I’m not enough.”
• Avoidance isn’t failure — it’s protection from pain that feels too heavy to face.
• The real wound is the disconnection from our True Self — the part of us that knows our worth.
• Healing begins when we stop abandoning ourselves and return to alignment with who we truly are.

KENA’S NEW MANTRA FROM THIS EPISODE

“Can’t skip steps.”

This can from Sandra explaining that you need to do the work in order to uncover feelings especially the underlying feelings. There are no shortcuts, you cannot skip any of the steps.

KEYWORDS

shame, inadequacy, true self, emotional healing, self-trust, personal growth, vulnerability, self-awareness

KEY TOPICS

• The roots of shame and inadequacy
• The concept of the true self and alignment
• The impact of shame on self-trust and confidence
• The betrayal of self through shame and avoidance
• Strategies for reconnecting with the true self

TAKEAWAYS

• Inadequacy whispers, 'I can't,' and shame twists it into 'I'm not enough.'
• Avoidance isn't failure, it's protection from pain that feels too heavy to face.
• The real wound is the disconnection from our true self.
• Healing begins when we stop abandoning ourselves and return to alignment with who we truly are.

SOUND BITES

• "When shame and inadequacy pull us away from our true self, we abandon ourselves."
• "People will forget what you did, but never how you made them feel."
• "The ultimate betrayal is when we do it to ourselves."

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Shame and Inadequacy

03:28 The Personal Weight Struggle and Shame

12:10 Understanding the Ultimate Betrayal

14:03 Connecting with the True Self

23:43 Conclusion and Next Steps

27:12 NEWCHAPTER

RESOURCES

The Secret Language of Feelings by Calvin D. Banyan - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N6V7V7Q

Maya Angelou's quote on feelings - https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/maya_angelou_121993

The Valid Method for emotional healing - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D4hk6F3LbSQ&list=PLnX06q4KztMpozh8lBxBV2xZJy3gZDAUv&index=5

#TrueSelf #Shame #Betrayal #BabySteps #Inadequacy #Avoidance #Frustration #TrueSelf #AuthenticSelf #QuietSham #Clarity #Confidence #Courage