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Unconditional Parenting
- Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason
- Narrated by: Alfie Kohn
- Length: 8 hrs and 41 mins
- Unabridged Audiobook
- Categories: Relationships, Parenting & Personal Development, Parenting & Families
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Summary
One basic need all children have, educator Alfie Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including "time outs"), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful and largely unknown research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send.
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- sarah
- 15-04-17
This book has been thought provoking and a revelation.
This audio has been so thought provoking I felt I needed to leave a review (the first I've ever written).
This audio has challenged the way I have been interacting with my child on every level. It's made me stop and think and treat my 5 year old with respect and as little human being in his own right with his own thoughts and feelings.
I'd fallen into the trap of do this, do that, do as I say and then getting cross with him when he didn't, leaving me struggling to get him to comply.
The best words of advice from this audio... talk less, listen more!
We now discuss things, work out solutions together. Explain why we are doing things or not to do things. I'm teaching my son empathy, problem solving, negotiating skills instead of teaching him to just follow rules!
We've a long way to go but Ina few short weeks we're connecting more, have less tears, life is easier and more fun!
Although a little slow to get going, do bare with it because the tools you will take away will be invaluable.
Highly recommended.
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- pepperstree
- 22-02-17
must read
In the multitude of trends and advice on disciplining practices this book is a breath of fresh air, concentrating on principles of education. When you love your child this way is a no brainier as it does not require that you be mean or manipulative. The only but is that it is really hard work as it requires sooo much patience and often time.
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- Andrew Gibson
- 21-01-22
Good concept, but verbose
I grew tired of Kohn labouring the same point chapter after chapter and his vague approach to citing research. His writing style is longwinded and lacks impact. I upped the replay speed again and again before opting for a refund. Similar concepts are communicated far more effectively in the work of Dan Siegel and Tina Bryson.
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- Anonymous User
- 09-08-20
Bring an end to the power struggle with kids
I enjoyed this book because it
> coherently articulates what's dangerous about how we mindlessly control our kid's
> Identifies parental fears
>Gives reasons as to why most parents fall into the usual traps
>Gives very practical strategies of how we can build more harmonious and happier relationships
> speaks to reason
> I didn't feel the need to make notes as it just brings to light principles we hold in our heart but have been made to ignore by the way we were raised and how society is shaped today.
What I didn't enjoy so much :)
>some points were overly laboured
>Authors tone of voice was at times patronising but also very passionate so overall it didn't matter.
This is my favourite book on parenting so far. I've previously read
> The brain child
> Raising our children raising ourselves
> The book you wish your parents had read
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- Megan
- 08-09-17
Thought provoking and uplifting
If you open your mind to the worldview of Alfie Kohn presented in this book then it will change your life! Or it has for me. Rather than suggesting a parenting methodology, this book presents a parenting philosophy. It will certainly be difficult to change my actions in accordance with my new beliefs about human cognition and behaviour, but I'm excited to try!
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- indykatley
- 28-05-22
If you need to listen to ONE parenting book....
... Listen to this one. Alfie Kohn provides very helpful (and powerful) information about why it is so important to treat children respectfully and show them that we love them unconditionally. Based on scientifical evidence, his book provides an extensive guide with a hint of humor, which really makes this book the most pleasant parenting audiobook that I have listened to - and I have listened to quite a few. In the last chapters, practical information about problem solving is offered, but this isn't a guide of what exactly you should do and say, rather than a vision that requires the cooperation of parent and child in order to achieve long term results.
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- Susan
- 06-05-22
Life changing.
This book has given me very practical ways to parent away from the usual manipulative way (which wasn't working anyway), to a more loving and actually practical and peaceful way.
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- marie
- 21-04-22
Absolutely Brilliant, very informative .
Alfie Kohn is very inspiring, I have not only purchase the audible, I have purchased a few of his books. I wish others in power would share these values, children's lives would be so much better.
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- mustafa s.
- 17-02-22
Good start bad ending
Show his case very well but in my opinion failed to offer really applicable alternative ways or how to apply his hypothesis.
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- Luna
- 02-06-21
Fabulous
Absolutely brilliant book and narration. I love how this book essentially examines the evidence to date and has a critical analysis of the different approaches. Alfie makes this so clear and easy to understand for anyone. Even if you aren't a parent this is a fantastic book and a must read for anyone who thought there may be a better way to be raised. This makes better humans and I have recommended it to everyone!
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- Katie
- 20-06-19
Liberating!
I won't sugar coat it, this book will feel like a punch in the gut at first. I have been gentle/positive parenting for a number of years and when I first started reading this it felt like a nasty blow that some of my more gentle approaches were still part of the problem in our family. My son has OCD and anxiety. I stuck with it, listening to Alfie's suggestions. As I have been applying these practices in my own life and with my children my son's OCD symptoms have dropped dramatically! I feel like I have my son back. We laughed together for the past week without any anxious meltdowns and minimal ocd rituals. I highly recommend listening to this book along with 'Non-Violent Communication'. I feel empowered as a parent and love that I get empower my children and witness them growing and flourishing. One day they will be parents and will get to be even better with their children.
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- Ty Curtis
- 05-05-18
A different, more effective lens for parenting
A wonderful change of perspective on how the traditional "common sense" approach to parenting is probably causing just as many problems as it solves.
As a father of 4 kids under age 7, Unconditional Parenting caused some uncomfortable moments of reflection. However, the overall message is optimistic and positive, and the changes in approach are easy to practice. I enthusiastically recommend this to parents of children at any age, but the earlier the better.
My only critique of the book has to do with structure, not substance. The book spends a great deal of time reviewing how common parenting practices are ineffective in creating the long-term characteristics we want in our kids (kindness, empathy, patience, persistence, Independence, etc.). The chapters are well written and well argued, but the reader must make it through half of the book being told how and why the way we parent is well intended but probably wrong before the positive approaches recommended by the author are explained in detail. As a reader/listener, this made it difficult to persevere as I questioned my self image as a good father, and I did leave the book unfinished for a long period before returning to it and finishing. The benefits of finishing are worth it, but it seems that balancing discussion of why common practices do not work with explaination of the recommended alternative practices within each chapter would, at least for me, have helped to keep me engaged and encouraged.
Great book that should be required reading for any new parent
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- Heather
- 18-08-16
Best parenting book I've read!
Funny, practical, filled with anecdotes and puns between research and a lot of reality checks. It just makes scary sense. I wish the whole world could get this as a required course for having kids and getting into a relationship. The world would be a better place. No scripts for when child said A you say B, but an entire paradigm shift about what you really want your child to become and whether your immediate B will even get you there. This is a total wakeup call, even if you think you're on the right track. We parents can always learn a little more and do a little better so our kids end up stronger, more empathetic as well as independent and healthy.
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- nycgirl
- 22-11-16
Pretty solid stuff here
I enjoyed it. I already had an idea as to what works for my 7 year old, but this confirms it even more. Writer isn't boring with his voice and really gives you some Ah Ha moments. Love that.
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- Scott
- 12-03-21
An ironic mocking tone
The most ironic thing about this book is the author’s continual use of a mocking and belittling tone when he is mimicking bad parenting practice. Many of the phrases I have used in my parenting, so I can’t help but listen to his sarcasm and feel he is judging me, or believes I am inferior to him as a parent.
The concepts are solid. The delivery would be a lot better received if the reader could feel unconditional positive regard from the author.
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- amberdallas33
- 10-03-18
He doesn’t think much of parents
I wanted to like this book. Kohn seems to love and respect children and makes some interesting points about the dangers of dominating your child. He doesn’t seem to have the same respect for parents, however, who love and KNOW their own children. He makes a lot of good observations about the failings of modern discipline and I kept waiting to hear some ideas that would work. Instead I heard him insult religion in an arrogant and incredibly ignorant way, and draw conclusions out of thin air. He uses a mocking tone when voicing parents’ concerns and (although I admit I didn’t quite make it to the end) seems to think you can work everything out with your child simply by talking through it and saying yes as much as possible. His methods might work for some, but they certainly won’t work for all, and while I am as soft and loving a mama as it gets, I will not be treating my children as my equal any time soon. They need me and my husband to use our own wisdom drawn from experience to set boundaries and guide them into adulthood. I trust us a lot more than Alfie Kohn does.
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The best book on parenting I've read
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- 30-09-19
Very Inspiring and Thought Provoking
Lots of details and research listed on WHY you should be an unconditional loving parent. Also explaing the theory behind it and how it is a better alternitive than traditional or authoratative methods. Stating the Why's very clearly on how Gentle parenting is misunderstood and misrepresented. Gives different examples and guidelines toward the end of the book. Very Montessori & RIE aligned IMO.
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- Sid Horadagoda
- 28-02-17
Eye opening, great audio.
Really enjoyed this book. Lots of studies quoted. A must read for those of us living in the west
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