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The Power of Showing Up

How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

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The Power of Showing Up

By: Daniel J. Siegel M.D., Tina Payne Bryson
Narrated by: Daniel J. Siegel M.D., Tina Payne Bryson
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Parenting isn’t easy. Showing up is. Your greatest impact begins right where you are. Now the bestselling authors of The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline explain what this means over the course of childhood.

“There is parenting magic in this book.”—Michael Thompson, Ph.D., co-author of the New York Times bestselling classic Raising Cain

One of the very best scientific predictors for how any child turns out—in terms of happiness, academic success, leadership skills, and meaningful relationships—is whether at least one adult in their life has consistently shown up for them. In an age of scheduling demands and digital distractions, showing up for your child might sound like a tall order. But as bestselling authors Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson reassuringly explain, it doesn’t take a lot of time, energy, or money. Instead, showing up means offering a quality of presence. And it’s simple to provide once you understand the four building blocks of a child’s healthy development. Every child needs to feel what Siegel and Bryson call the Four S’s:

Safe: We can’t always insulate a child from injury or avoid doing something that leads to hurt feelings. But when we give a child a sense of safe harbor, she will be able to take the needed risks for growth and change.
Seen: Truly seeing a child means we pay attention to his emotions—both positive and negative—and strive to attune to what’s happening in his mind beneath his behavior.
Soothed: Soothing isn’t about providing a life of ease; it’s about teaching your child how to cope when life gets hard, and showing him that you’ll be there with him along the way. A soothed child knows that he’ll never have to suffer alone.
Secure: When a child knows she can count on you, time and again, to show up—when you reliably provide safety, focus on seeing her, and soothe her in times of need, she will trust in a feeling of secure attachment. And thrive!

Based on the latest brain and attachment research, The Power of Showing Up shares stories, scripts, simple strategies, and tips for honoring the Four S’s effectively in all kinds of situations—when our kids are struggling or when they are enjoying success; when we are consoling, disciplining, or arguing with them; and even when we are apologizing for the times we don’t show up for them. Demonstrating that mistakes and missteps are repairable and that it’s never too late to mend broken trust, this book is a powerful guide to cultivating your child’s healthy emotional landscape.

This audiobook includes a downloadable PDF of The Refrigerator Sheet, a summary of the four S’s to remember in forming secure attachments.
Child Psychology Developmental Psychology Neuroscience & Neuropsychology Parenting & Families Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Health Mental Health Emotional Intelligence For Kids

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Found this book so helpful, hopeful, encouraging and practical
Coming from a place rooted in the realities of parenting not just theory

Practical and helpful advice

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I love all of these authors books but this one so far is my favourite. I liked this time they talked about reflecting how us parents were raised and parented and that is very enlightening as I think is crucial we understand ourselves to be able to understand and connect with our children.

Amazing practical and mindful advice for parents

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Wonderful book., empowering, insightful, full of knowledge and just pleasure to listen to. If you read one parenting book- this is the one

wonderful book

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Very accessible and relatable. Cements knowledge gained from previous books. Such an important read for parents. Thank you!

Another brilliant book by Daniel and Tina

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I truly loved every second of this book. It is easy to read/listen/understand. Daniel and Tina have so much knowledge amd so extremely important message for the world. Read it 😉

A must read

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