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Summary

Internationally acclaimed parenting experts Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish have helped millions of families with their breakthrough, best-selling books How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk, Siblings Without Rivalry, and Liberated Parents, Liberated Children. Now, they return with a lively, down-to-earth guide that tackles the tough issues teens and parents face today. After years of research, lecturing, and feedback, Faber and Mazlish have developed an innovative approach to maintaining a candid, open, mutually respectful dialogue between parents and teens. It's a strategy that curbs conflict, reduces frustration, and promotes thoughtful communication about everything from curfews and drugs to schoolwork and sex.

Written in Faber and Mazlish's trademark accessible style, How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk takes you inside their acclaimed workshops where you will hear, in the words of both parents and teens, what's on the minds of families today. Packed with suggestions that are easy to implement, and reinforced with stories, this indispensable volume will help build a foundation for a healthy relationship that puts the emphasis on rapport rather than reprisals. From age-old concerns about cliques and dating to contemporary worries about binge drinking and cyberbullying, Faber and Mazlish help parents tackle problems before they get out of hand. In their warm, lucid, unpatronizing manner, the authors show families how to be supportive and stay connected during the challenging teenage years.

©2005 Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish (P)2005 HarperCollins Publishers

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Excellent and actionable

There are a lot of good examples and realistic scenarios to learn from. It's not easy to get something this simple right in reality but in the weeks since I finished the book I have found my relationship with my kids much better. Most importantly I'm not always coming across as angry or against them. I am very grateful for this book, simple!

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Narration made me cringe

There are some useful tidbits in this book but the narration made me cringe. Really cringe! Also there doesn't seem to be any evidence to back up the theory. The story describes a few weeks of parenting seminars and it isn't clear what real issues the parents' faced or whether they were resolved aside from 'improved communication'.

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expository analysis

hard truth and reality of dealing with teens. a reference to reckon with when overwhelmed

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Really helpful for teenagers

I would have liked some easier to find summary points or a pdf with them on but overall really helpful to stay calm and keep the communication going

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Excellent

Really helpful, easy to understand book. This book can be helpful by both reading the whole book or just some of the chapters.

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Great sensible advice

It was a very easy book to listen too. A bit short but very worthwhile. I'm looking forward to trying the advice with my children.

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wounderful book about parenting, l enjoy every part of it, must read book, thanks alot

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super helpful

I am putting some of these ideas into practice with my teen - highly recommend!

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useful

I found the contents very useful and I will be trying hard to follow the advice. the narrator however was, as was said in numerous other reviews, quite difficult to listen to. I would however recommend it to all parents!

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  • 18-06-21

Informative, insightful, helpful and calming

Great tone and helpful illustrative stories from a parent's experience. Clear tips. Highly recommended 10/10

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  • 08-05-17

The authors are terrible at narration!

What would have made How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk better?

Use the book for facts and helpful advice rather than a play by play story of their visit to a high school to give a workshop. Hire professional narrator, the authors are terrible at narrating. To get the best info, just read their How to Talk so Teens will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk

What do you think your next listen will be?

I will try another book by this author as long as they are not the narrator!

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Get a professional narrator and use facts rather than stories.

If you could play editor, what scene or scenes would you have cut from How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk?

The book is written like a play in which the author reads all characters but in different annoying voices.

Any additional comments?

I could not take another minute of listening to the author narrate the book. I returned the audio for my money back.

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  • SG
  • 24-06-19

Terrible Narration and Outdated Stories

I really wanted to like this book and find good insight for dealing with my older teens. After the first twenty minutes of listening, I wanted to turn it off because the narrators were doing a terrible job. Their voices for other roles, both parents and teens, was completely unbelievable and the example stories they gave were woefully outdated. Worse than that, the quick resolution of how to handle various scenarios was laughable. The authors' general advice is sound, but so out of date. Will continue searching for better, more contemporary books in this genre.

Sadly, I cannot recommend this book in any form.

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  • psu1989
  • 01-01-20

What year is it?

I'm 50 and this was like listening to my grandmother talking about pre-teens. Might be better with different vocals and a timely refresh.

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  • Lisa S.
  • 04-05-18

Insiteful, helpful & hopeful bk 4 parents of teens

Loved it!! The authors give real life examples of struggles between parents & teens. Followed with great examples of how to effectively communicate with your teens!!!

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  • Gera Campbell
  • 20-03-18

Fantastic!

Wonderful insight and guidance. I really enjoyed and appreciated how she viewed both parents and teens perspectives. I highly recommend this if you have, or will soon have, teens.

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  • Maureen R.
  • 16-08-17

A good listen

I would recommend this for any parents with teens to help with the issues we face and to learn to be able to talk and engage with them differently

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  • Margaret T
  • 15-05-17

Very helpful advice.

I really enjoyed the suggestions in this book. These suggestion helped to enlighten me in seeing the difficult situations that arise with teens from their point of view. I cringed listening to the scenarios that were played out and how these parents reacted, because I had similar reactions in handling my teen. I was comforted in that I wasn't the only one thinking along these same lines. These tools presented in speaking with teens and seeing things thru their eyes make me feel better equipped to handle situations going forward. Thank you Adele and Elaine.

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  • Sara Crowder
  • 10-07-15

Good info kind of cheesy presentation

I thought I hated the format of the book, with the "story" of the meetings and the people...I thought it was really cheesy. However, I must say I felt there was great info in the book, and I am going to listen to it a second time to really get all the concepts that I can then put into action. I do feel the info learned here is valid and will be helpful. In addition I read "if I have to tell you one more time" and it melds nice with this book. Same type of principles, but with more action plan specifics. I think the two together will really benefit my parenting.

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  • Sconi05
  • 21-03-15

Incredibly helpful!

Love all of the How to Talk books and Siblings Without Rivalry too! My 10 year old twin girls have responded wonderfully to these techniques!

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  • Tricia Kowalski
  • 30-01-15

Extremely helpful in starting the conversation

Would you listen to How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk again? Why?

Yes, for reference information. It was alot to take in at first, but once I opened my mind to possibilities them I felt like I was taking in information.

What did you like best about this story?

The banter back and forth between the parents. Everyone seems to think that "it" won't happen to their child, and quite frankly, it certainly can happen to anyone.The

Which scene was your favorite?

The final meeting between the parents, when they realized that the group was just as beneficial to them to continue.

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

I had alot of "aha" moments, where I realized that I jump to conclusion way too fast with my teenager.

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