We often think marriage will fix our loneliness, heal our trauma, or resolve our insecurities. The reality? Marriage doesn't cure the battle with self; it amplifies it.

In this episode of The Work Behind The Vows, Julanda and Words share letters to their younger selves, exposing the biggest myths about tying the knot. We discuss why you can't abandon your personal healing just because you got married, and how to put a "reconciliation system" in place so you actually know HOW to reconnect after an argument.

God first. Healing second. Let's do the work.

In This Episode:

- The biggest lie about getting married

- Letter to Word’s younger self

- Letter to Julanda's younger self

- What we thought marriage would automatically fix

- Why your spouse can't be your only source of healing

- How to create a system for reconciliation

- The hilarious truth about setting boundaries (Water Bottle drama!)

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Have you ever wondered if you married the right person? Not because you want out, but just because marriage got harder than you expected!

Welcome back to another episode of The Work Behind the Vows! Today, Words and Julanda are breaking down 5 clear signs you married the right person. We’re talking about what it looks like when life gets messy, how a good spouse responds in turbulence, and why true love isn’t about perfection, it’s about character.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why being 100% yourself (the good, the bad, and the goofy) is a major green flag.
• How a strong marriage reacts when an outside force tries to bring drama.
• The critical difference between a spouse challenging you to build you up versus trying to break you down.
• Why we trust character over perfection.
• The importance of genuine apologies and taking real accountability.
• A fun "Green Flag Awards" segment where we reveal what we almost overlooked about each other!

WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! What is one sign you knew you married the right person? Drop it in the comments!

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Have you ever looked at a couple and thought, "If anybody is going to make it, it’s them" only to find out they are getting a divorce?

Welcome back to another episode of The Work Behind the Vows with Words and Julanda Taylor! Today, we are having a heavy but necessary conversation about the celebrity couples we thought would make it, and the splits that shocked us to our core. We’re talking about the danger of making assumptions based on highlight reels and the myths we believe guarantee a successful marriage.

We also get incredibly vulnerable about our own marriage, discussing the seasons where we looked happier than we actually were, how we navigated church hurt, and the extreme parenting lessons we've had to navigate behind closed doors.

In this episode, we cover:

- The Willie Moore Jr. split and the myth that Christian marriages are on "autopilot."

- Why Words felt completely duped by Will and Jada’s separation.

- Julanda’s heartbreak over Swizz Beatz and Mashonda (and why she stopped listening to Alicia Keys!).

- The intense parenting lesson Words taught his daughter about betrayal.

- The only true thing that guarantees a successful, lasting marriage.

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