Have you ever started an argument over something as simple as a dirty sock on the floor, and 30 minutes later you're fighting about something that happened three years ago? We are taught that communication is the ultimate key to a happy marriage, but what if you're communicating about the wrong things?

In this episode of The Work Behind The Vows, Julanda and Words put their own marriage under the microscope to dissect three of their recent "intense fellowships." We dive deep into the everyday, ordinary conversations to reveal the underlying triggers you might be missing. We discuss why you can't just treat the symptoms of an argument, how your physical environment impacts your mental peace, and why you need to stop bringing the venom from your workday into your living room.

Home is for restoration. Outside is for battle. Let's do the work.

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In This Episode:

- The myth that communication is the key to a happy marriage

- Putting our "intense fellowships" under the microscope

- The Sock Incident: Boundaries, disrespect, and the ego

- How a messy environment impacts your spouse's mental peace and safety

- Treating the root cause instead of just managing the symptoms

- The "Single Parent" joke and why timing is everything

- Taking off your armor: Why your home must remain a sanctuary for restoration

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We often think marriage will fix our loneliness, heal our trauma, or resolve our insecurities. The reality? Marriage doesn't cure the battle with self; it amplifies it.

In this episode of The Work Behind The Vows, Julanda and Words share letters to their younger selves, exposing the biggest myths about tying the knot. We discuss why you can't abandon your personal healing just because you got married, and how to put a "reconciliation system" in place so you actually know HOW to reconnect after an argument.

God first. Healing second. Let's do the work.

In This Episode:

- The biggest lie about getting married

- Letter to Word’s younger self

- Letter to Julanda's younger self

- What we thought marriage would automatically fix

- Why your spouse can't be your only source of healing

- How to create a system for reconciliation

- The hilarious truth about setting boundaries (Water Bottle drama!)

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Have you ever wondered if you married the right person? Not because you want out, but just because marriage got harder than you expected!

Welcome back to another episode of The Work Behind the Vows! Today, Words and Julanda are breaking down 5 clear signs you married the right person. We’re talking about what it looks like when life gets messy, how a good spouse responds in turbulence, and why true love isn’t about perfection, it’s about character.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why being 100% yourself (the good, the bad, and the goofy) is a major green flag.
• How a strong marriage reacts when an outside force tries to bring drama.
• The critical difference between a spouse challenging you to build you up versus trying to break you down.
• Why we trust character over perfection.
• The importance of genuine apologies and taking real accountability.
• A fun "Green Flag Awards" segment where we reveal what we almost overlooked about each other!

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Have you ever looked at a couple and thought, "If anybody is going to make it, it’s them" only to find out they are getting a divorce?

Welcome back to another episode of The Work Behind the Vows with Words and Julanda Taylor! Today, we are having a heavy but necessary conversation about the celebrity couples we thought would make it, and the splits that shocked us to our core. We’re talking about the danger of making assumptions based on highlight reels and the myths we believe guarantee a successful marriage.

We also get incredibly vulnerable about our own marriage, discussing the seasons where we looked happier than we actually were, how we navigated church hurt, and the extreme parenting lessons we've had to navigate behind closed doors.

In this episode, we cover:

- The Willie Moore Jr. split and the myth that Christian marriages are on "autopilot."

- Why Words felt completely duped by Will and Jada’s separation.

- Julanda’s heartbreak over Swizz Beatz and Mashonda (and why she stopped listening to Alicia Keys!).

- The intense parenting lesson Words taught his daughter about betrayal.

- The only true thing that guarantees a successful, lasting marriage.

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We've all seen the picture-perfect celebrity couples online and thought, "I want what they have." But do we really know what it takes to build a marriage that lasts?

In this episode of The Work Behind the Vows, Words and Julanda Taylor settle into their new studio for a fun, honest conversation about what "couple goals" should actually mean. Together, they unpack the difference between admiration and comparison, discuss why longevity alone doesn't define a healthy marriage, and explain why being labeled "couple goals" can sometimes become a burden instead of a blessing.

Then the competition begins.

Words and Julanda put together their own Celebrity Couples Draft, debating some of the most recognizable marriages in culture to determine their official Top 5. Will Barack and Michelle Obama take the top spot? Do Devale and Khadeen Ellis make the list? Which couple would they actually want to double date?

This episode is filled with laughs, thoughtful conversation, and practical reminders that every healthy marriage has work happening behind the scenes.

In This Episode

• What "relationship goals" should really look like
• Why longevity matters, but isn't the only measure of a healthy marriage
• The hidden pressure of being labeled "couple goals"
• Our Celebrity Couples Draft and official Top 5 rankings
• Which celebrity couple we'd love to go on a double date with
• Why comparison can quietly damage your own relationship

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Marriage isn't strengthened by occasional grand gestures.

It's strengthened by consistent daily choices.

In this episode we discuss the practical rhythms, rituals, and routines that help couples stay connected through every season of marriage.

From daily check-ins and weekly marriage meetings to prayer, conflict resolution, and intentional family time, they share real examples from their own 16-year marriage and explain why consistency often matters more than chemistry.

The conversation also explores the difference between desire and discipline, why faith without action won't transform a relationship, and how small moments of intentional connection can prevent larger issues from growing over time.

Plus, in this week's "Who's At Fault?" segment, Words and Julanda debate whether repeated date-night cancellations are a sign of poor prioritization or a cry for support from an overwhelmed spouse.

• Daily rituals that build emotional connection
• Weekly marriage meetings and check-ins
• Family prayer and faith-centered routines
• Conflict resolution and reconciliation after disagreements
• Desire versus discipline in marriage
• Why consistency beats chemistry
• Creating healthy rhythms for long-term connection
• Date nights, overwhelm, and emotional communication

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A lot of couples pray for a better marriage but won't do the work to become better people.

In this episode of The Work Behind The Vows, Words & Julanda explore the spiritual work required to build a healthy, God-centered marriage.

From conviction and repentance to prayer and obedience, they discuss what happens when God begins addressing your heart instead of your spouse's behavior.

Together they unpack:

• Why spiritual maturity matters in marriage
• When God confronts you instead of your spouse
• The role of conviction in personal growth
• Praying for change vs. praying for control
• How to stop over-spiritualizing problems
• What it looks like to invite God into everyday marriage challenges
• Why obedience is often more important than outcomes

This conversation is a reminder that healthy marriages are not built by perfect people. They are built by people willing to surrender, grow, and allow God to do His work in them first.

✓ Spiritual maturity in marriage

✓ Conviction and personal responsibility

✓ Prayer, repentance, and obedience

✓ Letting God lead your marriage

✓ Bringing faith into everyday conflict

✓ The difference between control and surrender

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Most marriage problems don't start with communication.

They start with emotions that haven't been processed.

In this episode of The Work Behind The Vows, Words and Julanda Taylor discuss the role emotional regulation plays in healthy relationships and why learning to manage your emotions may be one of the most important forms of relationship work you'll ever do.

Together they unpack:

• The difference between venting and communicating
• Why emotional dumping is not intimacy
• How childhood experiences shape adult relationship behaviors
• Emotional maturity vs emotional immaturity in marriage
• Why pausing before responding can change everything
• How to regulate anger without suppressing emotions
• Biblical principles for handling strong emotions
• The hidden danger of reacting from hurt instead of healing
• How emotional triggers create conflict and disconnection
• A "Who's At Fault?" scenario involving trust, transparency, and phone passwords

This conversation is honest, practical, funny, and deeply relevant for couples who want to strengthen communication, deepen connection, and create healthier patterns in their marriage.

Because the work behind the vows starts long before the conversation. It starts in the heart.

Emotions are not the problem. The problem is allowing emotions to govern your actions.

Learning how to pause, process, pray, and communicate with wisdom can transform your marriage and create space for deeper intimacy and connection.

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