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  • Confidence Part 3

    Confidence Part 3
    Jun 26 2026
    Teachable Woman PodcastConfidence – Part 3Hosts: Rev. Michele Owes & Rev. Diana P. CherryIntroductionIn Part 3 of the Confidence series, Rev. Michele Owes and Rev. Diana P. Cherry continue exploring what it means to have true confidence—not in ourselves, but in God. Drawing from Hebrews and 1 John, they remind listeners that biblical confidence is rooted in trusting God's character, obeying His will, and remaining steadfast through every season of life. Whether facing uncertainty, silence from God, or life's unexpected challenges, believers are encouraged to examine their hearts, remain still, and confidently trust that God is always working for their good.1. True Confidence Is Confidence in GodKey Scriptures: Hebrews 3:14; 1 John 5:14God calls believers to hold "the beginning of our confidence steadfast unto the end."Biblical confidence is centered on God's faithfulness—not personal ability or self-reliance.Self-confidence that excludes God often becomes pride, arrogance, and overconfidence.We can ask confidently according to God's will because He hears us.Key Takeaway:Confidence begins and ends with trusting God rather than trusting ourselves.2. Examine Your Heart When Your Confidence WaversKey Scripture: 1 John 3:19–22When our confidence in God weakens, God has not changed.Our hearts may be condemning us or revealing areas where we have drifted.Instead of blaming God, believers should honestly examine themselves.Confidence grows as we keep God's commandments and seek to please Him.Key Takeaway:If your confidence feels shaky, examine your heart before questioning God's faithfulness.3. Don't Solve Life Without Asking God FirstLife presents challenges we cannot solve through human reasoning alone.It's easy to assume we know how to handle situations without consulting God.God's thoughts and ways are higher than ours.Trying to work everything out ourselves often leads to unnecessary frustration, wasted energy, and disappointment.Key Takeaway:Begin every challenge by asking:"Lord, what do You want me to do?""How do You want me to handle this?"God's solution is always better than our own.4. Confidence Means Trusting God Even When He Is SilentOne of the most encouraging lessons discussed came from notes of a message titled "It's a Good Thing."The message taught that it is:Good when life is pleasant.Good when life is difficult.Good during unpleasant seasons.Even good when God seems silent.When God is silent:He still sees.He still hears.He is still working.Our responsibility is to:Be still.Be patient.Be hopeful.Key Takeaway:God's silence never means God's absence.5. Encourage Yourself While You WaitWaiting is often the hardest part of faith.Like David, believers must sometimes encourage themselves in the Lord by reminding themselves:God has never failed.God has never forsaken us.God is working everything together for our good.His track record is perfect.He will move at the right time.Sometimes faith requires preaching God's promises back to yourself until your heart rests in Him.Key Takeaway:Confidence often grows through speaking God's truth to yourself while waiting.6. Trust God in Every Season of LifeThe hosts reflected on their own experiences as widows and ministers.Regardless of whether someone is:MarriedSingleWidowedDivorcedEmployedUnemployedSuccessfulFacing hardshipEveryone still needs God.Challenges come in every stage of life, and every obstacle prepares believers for the next season of growth.The hosts also cautioned that prosperity can become just as dangerous as hardship if it causes us to forget God.Key Takeaway:Our circumstances should never determine our confidence—our confidence must always remain in God.7. Pray for God's Will Above Your OwnReturning to 1 John 5:14, the hosts connected confidence with praying according to God's will.They encouraged listeners to pray:"Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done."Giving God permission to work means accepting that His answer may differ from our expectations.God may:Delay an answer.Redirect our plans.Prepare us for something greater.Bless us in ways we never imagined.Proverbs 3 reminds believers to acknowledge God in every area of life, trusting Him to direct every path.Key Takeaway:The greatest confidence comes from knowing God's will is always better than our own.SummaryConfidence is not self-assurance—it is unwavering trust in the unchanging character of God. When life becomes uncertain, believers are called to examine their hearts, seek God's direction before acting, remain still during seasons of silence, and encourage themselves with His promises. Every circumstance, whether joyful or difficult, is an opportunity to deepen faith and rely on God's wisdom rather than personal understanding. As we acknowledge Him in all our ways and pray according to His will, we can confidently believe that He is working everything together for our good. The challenge is simple but profound: Be still. Be patient. Be hopeful. Keep your confidence firmly ...
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    30 mins
  • The Beginning of Our Confidence - Part 2

    The Beginning of Our Confidence - Part 2
    Jun 12 2026
    Podcast Notes: The Beginning of Your Confidence – Part 2Teachable Woman Podcast with Rev. Michele Owes & Rev. Diana P. CherryIntroductionIn this episode, Rev. Michele Owes and Rev. Diana P. Cherry continue their discussion on “The Beginning of Your Confidence”, focusing on Hebrews 3:14 and the importance of maintaining the same confidence in Christ that we had when we first believed. They challenge listeners to examine their spiritual walk, identify areas where confidence may have shifted from God to self, and return to the wholehearted trust and dependence that marked the beginning of their faith journey.1. Examine the Beginning of Your ConfidenceKey Scripture: Hebrews 3:14 – “For we are made partakers of Christ, if we hold the beginning of our confidence steadfast unto the end.”Take time to remember how your relationship with Christ began.Reflect on God's faithfulness during the early days of your salvation.Consider how easily you trusted God before life's responsibilities and achievements accumulated.Compare your confidence in God then to your confidence in Him now.Ask yourself: Have I maintained that same trust and dependence on God?Takeaway: Spiritual growth begins with honest self-examination.2. Are You Still Teachable?Rev. Cherry opens with an important challenge:Are you receiving and applying what God is teaching you?Hearing truth is not enough; transformation comes through obedience.It is easy to become distracted by daily life and lose sight of the centrality of Jesus.Apart from Christ, we can do nothing and are nothing.Takeaway: A teachable spirit remains open to correction, growth, and God's direction.3. Confidence Must Remain in God, Not in OurselvesThe hosts discuss how confidence can subtly shift:Successes, accomplishments, certifications, and recognition can create self-reliance.Small victories may tempt us to believe we can manage life without seeking God's direction.What begins as natural decision-making can become operating from personal confidence rather than dependence on God.Even good intentions can lead us into situations God never intended us to carry alone.Takeaway: The danger is not always rebellion; sometimes it is slowly replacing confidence in God with confidence in ourselves.4. The Enemy Works Through Subtle ShiftsRev. Cherry emphasizes that Satan's strategy is often gradual.Spiritual decline rarely happens all at once.Small compromises and "slippages" weaken steadfastness.The enemy understands how to pull believers off course through subtle distractions.Believers must know their strengths and weaknesses and remain vigilant.The hosts note that weakness is not always obvious sin—it can be overestimating our own strength and abilities.Takeaway: Remaining steadfast requires spiritual awareness and humility.5. Confidence Produces Hope and ExpectationThe discussion moves to biblical hope.Three definitions of hope highlighted in the episode:A happy anticipation of good.What we fully expect to receive.Confidence in the outcome.Important truths:Hope is not wishful thinking.Hope and confidence are connected.Believers can trust God's outcome even when circumstances seem uncertain.God is always working on behalf of His people.Takeaway: Biblical hope rests on confidence in God's character and promises.6. Don't Cast Away Your ConfidenceKey Scripture: Hebrews 10:35–36"Cast not away therefore your confidence, which hath great recompense of reward."The hosts explain:Confidence carries rewards.Losing confidence can affect our participation in God's purposes.Patience is necessary after doing God's will.God's timing is often different from our expectations.Trusting God means waiting for His promises without abandoning faith.To return to the beginning of our confidence:Remember where you started.Repent for areas where trust has shifted.Return to spiritual disciplines that once strengthened your faith:PrayerQuiet time with GodChurch attendanceBible studyGivingWitnessingTakeaway: Confidence grows when we intentionally return to the practices that nurtured our relationship with God.7. Return to Your First Love and Dependence on GodThe hosts stress that all accomplishments ultimately come from God.Degrees, awards, promotions, and achievements are gifts God enables.Human accomplishments should never replace dependence on God.God often equips believers to serve others, not simply to profit personally.Every gift and ability should be submitted to God's purpose.Rev. Cherry shares how aging has increased her awareness of her need for God:Thanking Him for daily abilities.Living in continual prayer.Depending on Him for guidance, protection, and provision.Rev. Owes reflects that she actually liked herself better at the beginning of her confidence because she worried less and trusted God more completely.Takeaway: The goal is not perfection but returning to childlike trust and dependence on God.SummaryThis episode challenges believers to revisit the confidence they had when they first came ...
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    32 mins
  • The Beginning of Our Confidence - Part 1

    The Beginning of Our Confidence - Part 1
    Jun 8 2026
    Teachable Woman PodcastThe Beginning of Your Confidence – Part 1

    Hosts: Rev. Michele Owes & Rev. Diana P. Cherry

    Introduction

    In this heartfelt conversation, Rev. Michele Owes and Rev. Diana P. Cherry explore the meaning of spiritual confidence and the importance of maintaining the same trust in God that we had when we first came to faith. Drawing from Hebrews 3:14, they discuss how life's responsibilities, disappointments, and experiences can subtly shift our confidence from God to ourselves. Through personal testimonies, honest reflection, and biblical encouragement, they remind listeners that God remains faithful and worthy of complete trust.

    Show Notes1. Hebrews 3:14 and the Call to Hold Fast Our Confidence

    The episode centers on Hebrews 3:14: "For we are made partakers with Christ, if we hold the beginning of our confidence steadfast unto the end." The hosts examine what it means to remain spiritually confident in God throughout every season of life.

    2. When Self-Reliance Replaces Childlike Faith

    Rev. Michele shares a recent experience that revealed how she had gradually shifted from trusting God completely to trying to figure everything out herself before obeying Him. She reflects on how painful it was to recognize that her confidence had moved from God’s ability to her own understanding.

    3. God Challenges Our Need for Control

    Through prayer and conviction, Rev. Michele sensed God asking, "Why do you have to work everything out?" This moment became a reminder that God is still the Way Maker and that believers are not called to manufacture solutions before they step out in obedience.

    4. The Unique Challenges of Widowhood and Independence

    Both hosts discuss how widowhood has required them to make decisions independently after years of sharing responsibilities with their husbands. They acknowledge that while God understands these challenges, He still calls His daughters to seek Him first and trust His guidance.

    5. God’s Faithfulness in the Details

    After surrendering her concerns and agreeing to trust God, Rev. Michele witnessed Him work out every detail surrounding an assignment she believed He had given her. The experience reinforced the truth that where God guides, He also provides.

    6. Discovering God's Purpose Beyond Our Expectations

    What began as a trip with one anticipated purpose turned into an opportunity to correct misunderstandings of Scripture in a Christian class. This unexpected assignment reminded Rev. Michele that God’s plans are often greater than what we initially perceive.

    7. Returning to the Beginning of Our Confidence

    The hosts encourage listeners to remember the faith they had when they first gave their lives to Christ. They discuss how confidence in God produces peace, patience, and rest, while confidence in self often leads to striving and frustration. True spiritual maturity is found in continually returning to childlike trust and dependence on God.

    Key Scriptures Referenced
    • Hebrews 3:14
    • Proverbs 3:5-6
    • John 14:1
    • Hebrews 10:35-36

    Memorable Takeaways
    • "What God wants, He funds."
    • "Where there is purpose, there is always opposition."
    • "God is worthy of our trust."
    • "The beginning confidence was our salvation."
    • "Cast not away therefore your confidence, which hath great recompense of reward."

    Summary

    In Part 1 of "The Beginning of Your Confidence," Rev. Michele Owes and Rev. Diana P. Cherry invite listeners to examine whether their trust remains rooted in God or has slowly shifted toward self-reliance. Through personal stories, biblical insight, and honest conversation, they encourage believers to return to the simple, unwavering faith they had at the beginning of their walk with Christ. As they prepare for Part 2, they leave listeners with a challenge: keep your confidence in the Lord, trust His plans, and patiently wait for Him to fulfill His promises.
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    27 mins
  • The Power to Stay - Teachers of Good Things - Part 1

    The Power to Stay - Teachers of Good Things - Part 1
    May 23 2026

    Sat 12/9/2023 6:28 PM

    Show Notes:

    Title: Teachers of Good Things P1-enhanced

    Host: Rev. Michele Owes

    Guest: Rev. Diana P. Cherry

    In this unscripted episode, Rev. Michele Owes interviews Rev. Diana P. Cherry, who shares insights from her 43 years in ministry. Despite the unscripted nature of their conversation, the hosts demonstrate an openness to the Holy Spirit's guidance and aim to answer the questions of their listeners' hearts.

    Key Discussion Points:

    1. Staying Committed: Rev. Cherry reflects on her steadfast commitment to her husband and her submission in ministry, highlighting the importance of focusing on the greater purpose and the will of God to stay rooted in one's calling.

    2. Pivotal Teachings: Rev. Cherry shares two teachings that have had a profound impact on her and the world: "God's Plan for the Woman" and "The Virtuous Woman," emphasizing their enduring significance.

    3. Ministry Highlights: The joy and fulfillment derived from transforming lives and receiving heartfelt testimonies emerge as pivotal highlights of Rev. Cherry's ministry journey.

    4. Words of Encouragement: In a two-minute challenge, Rev. Cherry encourages listeners to change their thinking, associations, and pursuit of God's purpose, offering practical advice for personal transformation.

    5. Special Message for Women: Rev. Cherry urges women to embrace their unique purpose, strive for excellence, and align their thoughts and actions with the will of God, promoting empowerment and spiritual growth.

    6. Personal Touch: Rev. Michele Owes shares a heartwarming testimony of how Rev. Cherry's correspondence and teachings profoundly impacted her early experience in the body of Christ, highlighting the significance of personal connections.

    Throughout this enriching conversation, Rev. Cherry's humility, dedication, and unwavering faith shine through, illustrating the transformative power of a life aligned with Christ's teachings.
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    16 mins
  • ABOUT MARRIAGE - Part 2

    ABOUT MARRIAGE - Part 2
    May 17 2026

    Teachable Woman Podcast

    Hosts: Reverend Michele Owes & Tamara Johnson

    Introduction

    Welcome back to the Teachable Woman Podcast! In this episode, Reverend Michele Owes and Tamara Johnson dive deeper into the sacred institution of marriage, exploring what it truly means to enter a relationship “naked and not ashamed.” From understanding followship and leadership to evaluating character over materialism, they share practical, faith-based advice for women seeking lasting love.

    Show Notes

    1. Revisiting the Biblical Foundation of Marriage

    Reverend Michele opens the episode by revisiting Genesis 2, reminding listeners that marriage begins with leaving the old and cleaving to one another. Being “naked and not ashamed” sets the tone for honesty, openness, and authentic connection before stepping into the altar.

    2. Leadership vs. Followship in Marriage

    Tamara and Michele discuss how issues with a husband’s leadership may actually be linked to a lack of followship. Women who have long managed life independently might struggle to allow a husband to lead, highlighting the importance of evaluating one’s own approach in a marriage.

    3. Heart Over Hand: Evaluating Character Before Wealth

    They explore the modern trap of valuing financial assets over character. The hosts emphasize that true compatibility is measured by integrity, commitment, and godly love—not bank accounts or material possessions.

    4. Media Influences on Unrealistic Expectations

    Tamara highlights the impact of TV and social media in shaping skewed expectations of marriage, wealth, and relationships. Listeners are encouraged to differentiate between “pie in the sky” fantasies and the realities of daily life and shared responsibilities in marriage.

    5. Recognizing a Godly Match

    Michele emphasizes that peace in a relationship and alignment with God’s will are critical signs of a true match. She encourages women to trust God’s guidance, rather than relying solely on personal “types” or societal standards, for a fulfilling lifelong partnership.

    6. Maintaining Self-Worth and Healthy Boundaries

    Both hosts stress the importance of self-respect and awareness of one’s value in Christ. Women are reminded not to accept being treated as a “side piece” and to ensure relationships are built on transparency, respect, and mutual investment.

    7. Practical Advice for Lasting, Honest Relationships

    From Tamara’s personal journey, listeners learn the value of stopping games and embracing honesty early in relationships. Michele reinforces that openness and authentic communication should begin before the altar, ensuring a foundation for lifelong commitment.

    Summary

    In this episode of Teachable Woman, Michele and Tamara provide a roadmap for women navigating relationships and marriage. By focusing on biblical principles, character over materialism, and self-worth, they help listeners discern genuine, lasting love. Key takeaways include embracing honesty, evaluating relationships through God’s lens, and refusing to settle for anything less than a respectful, committed partnership.
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    36 mins
  • On Being A Mother

    On Being A Mother
    May 10 2026
    Teachable Woman Podcast Show NotesEpisode: On Being a MotherWith Michele Owes and Diana P. CherryIntroductionIn this heartfelt Mother’s Day episode of the Teachable Woman Podcast, Reverend Michele Owes and Reverend Diana P. Cherry reflect on the true meaning of motherhood through the lens of Scripture, compassion, prayer, and purpose. Together, they explore what it means to be a “life-giver,” reminding listeners that motherhood extends far beyond biology. Whether you are raising children, mentoring others, praying for your family, or simply bringing encouragement wherever you go, this conversation offers wisdom, healing, and spiritual perspective for every woman.1. Motherhood Is a Calling of Patience and LoveThe episode opens with a candid reflection on the realities of motherhood. Reverend Owes shares how parenting is not a “quick gratification” role but one that requires years of patience, sacrifice, consistency, and unconditional love. From sleepless nights to daily responsibilities, mothers are called to demonstrate the fruit of the Spirit in every season.Key Takeaways:Motherhood is a long-term investment, not instant gratification.Children need love, time, consistency, and presence more than material things.The role of a mother reflects God’s nurturing heart.2. Women as God’s Life-GiversReverend Cherry beautifully explains the biblical significance of womanhood, referencing Eve as the “giver of life.” She emphasizes that every woman carries the God-given ability to bring life, hope, encouragement, healing, and compassion into the world.Key Takeaways:Women are uniquely created by God to nurture and strengthen others.You do not have to physically give birth to be a mother or life-giver.A mother’s compassion and kindness can bring healing and restoration.Memorable Moment:“There’s something about a mother’s kiss… many times as soon as we kiss that little boo-boo, they stop crying.”3. The Family of God and Spiritual MotherhoodDrawing from Matthew 12:50, Reverend Owes reminds listeners that Jesus defined family by obedience to God’s will. This message encourages those who may feel disconnected from biological family relationships.Scripture Highlight:“Whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother.”Key Takeaways:Spiritual family is formed through doing God’s will.No one is alone in the family of God.Spiritual motherhood includes mentoring, nurturing, and encouraging others.4. Raising Children in the Nurture and Admonition of the LordThe hosts discuss the responsibility and privilege of raising children according to God’s wisdom. Even with parenting books and experience, they stress the importance of continually seeking God for guidance.Key Takeaways:Children are God’s heritage.Parenting requires prayer, humility, and dependence on God.God’s wisdom surpasses every parenting method or trend.Discussion Themes:Sacrifices of motherhoodDaily caregiving responsibilitiesThe importance of spiritual guidance in parenting5. The Power of a Praying MotherPrayer becomes a central focus as Reverend Cherry reflects on generations of praying mothers, grandmothers, and aunties whose prayers helped sustain families through difficult times.Key Takeaways:A praying mother carries tremendous spiritual influence.Mother’s Day should also be a reminder to pray for families, leaders, pastors, and children.God’s will must remain central in every home.Memorable Reflection:“Perhaps Mother’s Day should be more focused on praying than on what we are looking to receive.”6. Redefining Honor and Appreciation on Mother’s DayThe conversation shifts to expectations surrounding Mother’s Day gifts and recognition. Reverend Owes encourages listeners to examine what honor truly means and to value expressions of love, gratitude, and connection over material things.Key Takeaways:Honor does not have to come from expensive gifts.Genuine love, calls, hugs, flowers, and appreciation matter deeply.Eternal things bring greater joy than temporary possessions.Important Reminder:“A well done from God is really sufficient.”7. Encouragement for Every Mother and CaregiverIn a deeply encouraging closing discussion, the hosts speak directly to single mothers, women raising children under difficult circumstances, and caregivers raising children not biologically their own. They emphasize that mistakes, hardships, or broken relationships do not diminish a woman’s worth or calling.Key Takeaways:Every child is a blessing and heritage from God.Mothers should not live in despair or shame over past mistakes.Caregivers, guardians, aunties, and mentors are also called to give life and encouragement.Encouragement:“Be strong, be encouraged, and don’t forget to give life wherever you go.”ConclusionThis powerful Mother’s Day episode reminds listeners that motherhood is more than a title—it is a daily ministry of love, prayer, sacrifice, and ...
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  • The Resurrection and You

    The Resurrection and You
    Apr 29 2026
    Podcast Show Notes:

    The Resurrection and You

    Teachable Woman Podcast with Rev. Michele Owes & Rev. Diana P. Cherry

    1. Introduction: Beyond Tradition to Truth

    Rev. Michele Owes and Rev. Diana P. Cherry welcome listeners back and reflect on Resurrection Sunday (Easter). While traditions like Easter egg hunts, new outfits, and family gatherings are meaningful, the episode calls listeners to refocus on the true purpose: the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus Christ—and what it means for our lives today.

    2. Understanding the True Meaning of Resurrection Sunday

    Resurrection Sunday commemorates Jesus rising from the dead with all power, which is why Christians gather on Sundays. This moment is not just historical—it is foundational to the Christian faith:

    • Jesus suffered, was crucified, buried, and rose again
    • His resurrection gives believers access to life, freedom, and victory
    • It marks the shift from ritual to relationship with Christ

    3. The Reality of Christ’s Sacrifice

    Rev. Cherry vividly recounts the suffering Jesus endured:

    • Betrayal by one of His own disciples
    • Physical torture, humiliation, and crucifixion
    • Carrying the cross and dying for humanity’s sins

    This reflection challenges listeners to develop a deeper appreciation for the cost of their freedom and salvation.

    4. Freedom Through the Resurrection

    Because Jesus rose:

    • We are free from sin and spiritual death
    • We can live abundant, purposeful lives
    • We are empowered to choose righteousness daily

    Freedom is not automatic—it requires intentional obedience and awareness of what Christ has done.

    5. Dying and Rising Daily: A Personal Responsibility

    Rev. Michele highlights a powerful truth:

    • Jesus’ death reminds us there are things we must die to
    • His resurrection reminds us there are new levels we must rise to

    This is a daily decision:

    • Let go of habits, mindsets, and behaviors that bind you
    • Rise to God’s standards, even when you don’t fully understand how

    6. Faith, Obedience, and Belief

    Using the story from Matthew 28, the discussion explores how even Jesus’ disciples struggled to believe He had risen.

    • Many people today still wait for undeniable proof before obeying God
    • We often hear the Word but hesitate to act on it
    • True faith requires trust without needing constant confirmation

    The resurrection calls believers to move from hearing to doing.

    7. Reflection, Communion, and Identity in Christ

    The Lenten season, fasting, and communion are highlighted as ways to reflect and remember Christ’s sacrifice.

    • Communion is a sacred act of remembrance—not routine
    • Believers are the “bride of Christ,” called to faithfulness
    • The question becomes: What kind of bride are you?

    This season invites deep self-examination and spiritual renewal.

    Summary: Living the Resurrection Daily

    This episode reminds us that the resurrection is not just an event to celebrate once a year
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    25 mins
  • ABOUT MARRIAGE

    ABOUT MARRIAGE
    Apr 21 2026
    Podcast Notes: Teachable Woman – About Marriage

    with Rev. Michele Owes & Tamara Johnson

    Introduction

    This episode of the Teachable Woman Podcast features a heartfelt and honest conversation between Rev. Michele Owes and Tamara Johnson. Blending wisdom, humor, and lived experience, they explore marriage through a biblical lens—discussing communication, submission, leadership, personal growth, and the role of faith in sustaining a godly union. The conversation speaks not only to married women but also to those preparing for marriage.

    1. Marriage Begins with God’s Design
    • Foundation scripture: Genesis 2:24 — leaving parents, cleaving to a spouse, becoming one flesh.
    • Marriage is not just emotional—it is spiritual and covenantal.
    • “Leaving and cleaving” means forming a new, God-centered household.
    • Challenges in marriage should be taken to God first—not just family or friends.

    2. Oneness Means Shared Impact
    • When two become one, everything affects both partners.
    • One partner’s struggles (work, health, family) become shared burdens.
    • Marriage can feel like an emotional rollercoaster—but that’s part of unity.
    • A healthy marriage rejects the mindset: “That’s not my problem.”

    3. Naked and Unashamed = Honest Communication
    • “Naked” goes beyond physical—it means:
    • Open
    • Honest
    • Vulnerable communication
    • Tone, intent, and delivery matter more than just words.
    • Effective communication requires:
    • Respect
    • Listening without interruption
    • A desire for understanding, not winning
    • Prayer before difficult conversations transforms outcomes.

    4. The Heart Posture Matters More Than Being Right
    • God is not concerned with who is right—but what is right.
    • Entering arguments to “win” leads to failure.
    • Our perspectives are often flawed—God’s perspective is higher.
    • True communication starts with humility and a surrendered heart.

    5. Encouragement Over Comparison
    • Couples must encourage one another daily.
    • Avoid comparison (“keeping up with the Joneses” mindset).
    • Every marriage has:
    • Different timing
    • Different challenges
    • Different assignments
    • Focus on your household—not others’.

    6. Roles, Leadership & Letting Go of Control
    • A key tension: strong, capable women learning to step back and allow leadership.
    • Problems arise when:
    • Decisions are made independently
    • Financial or life choices exclude the husband
    • Important realization:
    • “Sometimes he’s not leading because we’re not following.”
    • Submission is not weakness—it is alignment with God’s order.
    • Marriage requires daily intentionality to stay aligned.

    7. Transformation Starts With You, Not Your Spouse
    • You cannot “fix” or “save” your spouse—only God can.
    • Your role is to live a godly example.
    • Real change happens when:
    • Christ is seen through your actions
    • Not forced through pressure or punishment
    • Growth takes time—don’t rush your spouse’s process.
    • Even in unequally yoked situations:
    • Stay consistent
    • Stay authentic
    • Stay faithful

    Key Takeaways from Tamara’s Journey
    • Learning godly communication required intentional growth.
    • Past trauma can lead to control issues in marriage.
    • A major financial mistake revealed the need for partnership and submission.
    • A turning point came through:
    • Honest apology
    • A willingness to follow
    • Recognizing her husband as both partner and child of God

    Summary

    This episode powerfully illustrates that marriage is not about control, perfection, or performance—it is about unity, growth, and surrender to God. Through transparency and biblical wisdom, Rev. Michele Owes and Tamara Johnson highlight that strong marriages are built daily through prayer, humility, communication, and intentional alignment with God’s design. Ultimately, transformation in marriage begins within—when each commits to becoming who God has called them to be.
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    42 mins