In this deeply honest and emotional episode, Becky shares what it’s really like to be married to an alcoholic and the hidden trauma that comes with loving someone who is struggling with alcoholism. She opens up about living in constant uncertainty, the emotional toll of addiction on a marriage, and the strength it takes to keep going when you feel invisible, exhausted, and alone.

Alongside this, Becky speaks candidly about her own past trauma, including her experience with cancer, and how those unresolved experiences shaped the way she coped, survived, and ultimately began to heal. This conversation explores the reality of being the “strong one,” the impact addiction has on partners, and the difficult but necessary journey of recovering yourself, not just hoping the addict will change.

This episode is about resilience, boundaries, self-worth, and learning how to rebuild after years of emotional survival mode. If you’ve loved an addict, supported someone through illness, or are trying to heal from trauma that was never yours to carry alone, this conversation will resonate deeply.

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Christmas can be one of the hardest times to co-parent, especially when your ex thrives on control, conflict, or last-minute chaos. As a family lawyer, at this time of year I get asked the same questions every year, around various Christmas disputes separated parents face. From sudden plan changes and silence tactics to withheld handovers, gift battles, excessive FaceTiming, and emotional manipulation through the children.

Using real-life examples and years of court experience, this guide explains what the law actually expects at Christmas, how judges view “high-conflict” behaviour, and how to protect your children emotionally while staying calm, child-focused, and legally safe. You’ll learn what to do if your ex refuses contact, won’t confirm plans, uses Christmas as leverage, bad-mouths you to your child, or tries to control the narrative, and why your response matters more than their actions.

If you’re dreading Christmas because of a narcissistic or high-conflict ex, this episode will give you clarity, confidence, and practical steps to get through the holidays with your dignity intact and your children protected.

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Matt spent over two decades trapped by gambling, losing money, trust and years of his life, until a string of physical symptoms, panic and shame forced him to confront it.

In this episode, Matt traces the roots of his addiction, the relapses, the bankruptcy, and the moment he chose recovery. Now sober and building a recovery community online, Matt explains the tools, meetings and routines that saved him, and why he believes gambling addiction is one of the biggest problems society faces in the next few years.

If you or someone you love is struggling, this episode offers hope, practical steps and the real-life cost of staying silent.

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⌚️ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 - Intro

01:07 - Matt’s Early Life & First Signs of Addiction

10:15 - The Start of the Gambling Addiction

16:55 - Lying, Deception & Hiding the Problem

21:25 - How Addiction Consumes the Mind

24:45 - The Spiral: Debt, Bankruptcy & Failed Attempts to Quit

38:55 - Relapse Cycles: Why Willpower Alone Doesn’t Work

52:24 - The Link Between Addiction and Neurodivergence

1:01:20 - Breaking Point: Health Issues, Rock Bottom & Asking for Help

1:09:48 - Launching “Addicted to Growth” & Helping Others Online

1:11:30 - The Truth About Gambling Addiction Today

1:14:40 - Matt’s Advice for Anyone Who Feels Trapped

1:23:05 - Final Thoughts: Hope, Recovery & What Comes Next

From a rising young golf talent to the depths of addiction, loss and rebuilding, this is Ross’s powerful and brutally honest story.

In this episode, Ross opens up about his childhood, falling in love young, supporting his wife through cancer, becoming a father, and chasing his dream of becoming a professional golfer. But behind the success was a growing dependence on alcohol that slowly took everything from him — his marriage, his career, his confidence, and his sense of self. Ross shares the moment he hit rock bottom, the painful reality of addiction, the therapy that changed his life, and the long road to sobriety.

Today, he’s a father, business owner, and a man rebuilding with purpose, discipline and gratitude. This conversation is raw, uplifting, and full of lessons for anyone facing their own struggles. If you’ve ever battled addiction, trauma, or the pressure to hold everything together, Ross’s story will stay with you.

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⌚️ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 - Intro

02:15 - Early life in Scotland & moving to England

03:27 - First discovering golf

05:25 - Meeting my wife

07:45 - Becky’s cancer diagnosis

10:50 - Miracle pregnancy and becoming a father

13:27 - Returning to golf

15:30 - Starting PGA training

18:19 - Life as a young pro golfer

20:40 - Early signs of alcohol addiction

24:10 - Drinking escalates & the pressures build

27:20 - The breaking point and being kicked out

29:36 - Trying to quit alone & relapsing

31:20 - Losing everything & confronting rock bottom

32:35 - Therapy, forgiveness & the breakthrough moment

35:27 - Starting Cash Fore Clubs

39:10 - Lessons learned: discipline, honesty & self-care

45:27 - Advice for anyone struggling with addiction

47:08 - The return to professional golf?

48:00 - What does happiness looks like today?

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In this powerful episode, former Royal Marine and Special Boat Service operator James Hill takes us deep inside the world of the UK’s most elite military unit. From a tough childhood and finding purpose in the Marines, to surviving brutal commando training, multiple Afghanistan tours, piracy missions at sea, and the gruelling Special Forces selection process, James reveals the reality behind the uniform.

He opens up about firefights, IED blasts, live combat, the mental toll of constant danger, and the moment he was shot five times during a daring operation. James also shares rare insight into SBS culture, selection, evasion training, and what civilians never truly understand about the people who protect the country in complete silence. This is a raw, honest and emotional conversation about courage, brotherhood, trauma, sacrifice and the price paid by the few who stand between danger and the rest of us.

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⌚️ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 - Introduction: Inside the UK’s elite SBS

02:08 - Childhood and early struggles

04:37 - Discovering the Royal Marines

08:54 - Joining the Marines: first shocks & toughest lessons

12:22 - Commando training

21:26 - The military brotherhood

28:30 - Qualifying and the first tour

36:54 - The Afghanistan tour

45:20 - The brutal reality of the UK Special Forces

56:34 - The mission that ended my military career

01:10:30 - The aftermath: recovery, identity & trauma

01:18:45 - Leaving the military and finding purpose again

01:34:40 - Final reflections: what civilians should know

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Helen Villiers, psychotherapist and narcissist expert, joins me to unpack the hidden dynamics of narcissism. From love bombing and gaslighting to the trauma bond that keeps victims trapped, we explore why it’s so hard to leave, how narcissists use empathy as a weapon, and the powerful steps to reclaiming your identity and self-worth.

Helen Villiers is a psychotherapist, coach, and author specializing in narcissism, emotional abuse, neurodivergence, and recovery. She is the co-author of the Sunday Times bestseller 'You're Not the Problem: The Impact of Narcissism and Emotional Abuse', hosts the popular podcast 'The Liberation Effect', and has been featured on BBC Radio 4’s Woman’s Hour and in publications including The Independent, The Telegraph, The Mirror, and Hello! Magazine.

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⌚️ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 - Introduction

04:15 - The Most Surprising Thing About Narcissism

05:50 - The Five Core Traits of Narcissism

08:53 - Narcissism: Personality Type, Disorder, or Both?

10:15 - When Self-Absorption Becomes Harmful

10:55 - Love Bombing and Early Red Flags

14:14 - The Science Behind Trauma Bonds

17:00 - Do Narcissists Know What They Are Doing?

18:10 - Do Narcissists Target Empaths?

21:01 - Confidence vs Control: How to Tell the Difference

22:48 - The Narcissistic Abuse Cycle Explained

28:15 - The Emotional Fallout After The Discard

31:06 - The “Gray Rock” Method: How To Escape a Narcissist

32:45 - Rebuilding Identity After Narcissistic Abuse

38:00 - Overcoming the Fear of Being “Selfish”

39:30 - Perfectionism and the Fear of Judgment

45:30 - How Therapy and Community Help Recovery

47:16 - Choosing the Right Therapist (and Avoiding the Wrong One)

50:28 - How to Begin Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

51:58 - How Long Healing Takes (and What It Looks Like)

54:45 - Why People-Pleasing is Toxic

56:35 - Can You Heal Without a Therapist?

59:04 - What a Healthy Relationship Really Looks Like

01:01:15 - Final Message: It’s Not You.

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From being £730,000 in debt to building a million-pound law firm, this is my story.

In this first episode of Tea with the Queen, I open up about how I went from a young mum in Australia to a family law barrister, and later rebuilt my entire career after losing everything. I share the lessons learned from failure, resilience, and starting over at 50 and how that journey led to becoming The Legal Queen, with over 1.8 million followers on social media and a law firm that earns over £1 million every year. If you’ve ever faced setbacks, self-doubt, or felt like giving up, this episode is proof that it’s never too late to rebuild your life and thrive.

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⌚️ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 - Introduction

02:23 - Early life and moving to Australia

04:45 - My early law career

09:06 - Returning to the UK

10:55 - Taking on my first law firm

12:05 - The moment everything fell apart

15:45 - The hardest time of my life

23:50 - Taking on a business partner

25:14 - Being betrayed by my partner

27:40 - Closing down my first law firm

30:08 - My new full-time job

33:48 - Starting social media

38:18 - The beginning of a new law firm

40:55 - The biggest lessons I have learned

45:14 - The goal of this podcast

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Ep:13 - Join me for my Live Phone In

Tea with the queen is a podcast where Tracey aka 'the legal queen' discusses all things family law. Touching base on those controversial topics and highlighting current affairs. Todays episode contains questions from parents on how to make an application to the court, if a solicitor is needed when going to court, how to begin divorce proceedings and many more. I really hope you enjoy listening and remember if you have a question that you would like me to answer then drop me a line at tracey@moloneyfamilylaw.com