Have you ever believed you're only worthy of attention when you're performing and perfect?

What if the thing you fear your kid will inherit is the exact thing you've never worked through yourself?

Tori Kelly, a Grammy-winning vocalist who's been sharing her voice with the world since she was a kid, sits down with Miles for a conversation about identity, motherhood, and what happens when the performance stops.

Tori opens up about growing up in a mixed-race householdwhere she often felt othered, getting signed at 12 and "shelved" before she'd lived enough life to have something to say, and the lie she quietly believed for years: that she wasn't worthy of attention unless she was singing. She talks about touring stadiums with Ed Sheeran while pregnant, writing her new album, God Must Really Love Me, in two weeks while holding her newborn son, and why his first cry made the record.

Tori and Miles go deep into the perfectionism she traces back to her earliest days on stage, the phone cleanses she uses to fight comparison, and why motherhood has made her want her son to see her mess up, say sorry, and be human. Miles shares a mentor's metaphor about gratitude that reframes how you see whatever you're circling right now, and Tori tells the story of the drive where the phrase "God must really love me" came out of her mouth before it became an album title.

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In this conversation, you'll learn:

• How to Trace Perfectionism Back to the Stage Instead of the Story You Tell Yourself
• How to Stop Performing for Approval and Start ActuallyFeeling It
• How Becoming a Parent Can Break a Pattern You Didn't Know You Were Repeating
• How to Use a Phone Cleanse to Get Your Voice Back FromComparison
• How to Write an Album in Two Weeks Once You Stop Editing Yourself
• How to Let Your Kids Watch You Mess Up on Purpose
• How to Reframe a Career "Setback" as the Setup for Something Better
• How Growing Up Feeling "Othered" Shapes the Way You Tell the Truth Later
• How to Turn Gratitude Into a Practice Instead of a Mood
• How to Know the Difference Between Being a Vocalist andBeing Yourself

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What We Discuss:

00:00:00 – Meet Tori Kelly

00:01:51 – Her Grand Ole Opry Debut, One Night Before ThisConversation

00:05:34 – Genre-less on Purpose

00:08:41 – The Vocalist Everyone Expects, the Storyteller She's Becoming

00:10:51 – The Soundtrack of Her Childhood

00:12:43 – Signed at 12 & Promised the World

00:23:05 – A Career Built on Slow Builds, Not Big Breaks

00:28:24 – How Becoming a Mom Rewired Her as an Artist

00:29:24 – Touring Stadiums With Ed Sheeran While Pregnant

00:31:13 – What Motherhood Cracked Open

00:36:29 – She Doesn't Want Her Son Thinking He Has to BePerfect

00:38:46 – Tracing Her Perfectionism Back to the Root

00:40:59 – How Approval Got Tangled Up With Her Voice

00:47:31 – The Phone Cleanse That Gave Her Mind Back

00:56:06 – The Story Behind "God Must Really Love Me"

01:01:46 – The Vulture Metaphor: Reframing Gratitude

01:04:41 – Congruence, Not Perfection

01:09:25 – Her Husband and Life on Tour

01:13:34 – Ending on the Only Line That Fits

What's the real difference between showing up for someone and rescuing them?

Can a single pair of socks undo years of not letting yourself feel anything?

Bobby Bones went from a campus radio station in Arkansas to the National Radio Hall of Fame, two #1 New York Times bestsellers, and a syndicated morning show heard by millions, turning his own story into a reason other people feel less alone in theirs. He sits down with Miles Adcox eight weeks into fatherhood, in a season that's forced him to slow down after two decades of never having to.

Bobby opens up about being raised by a 16-year-old motherwho struggled with addiction his whole childhood, the trailer he bought her the first time he made real money, and the hard lesson in what enabling actually looks like when you love someone who's sick. He reveals the moment a stranger's kindness at a therapy intensive at Onsite finally broke him open, and shares the four-letter word his mother never said but it’s the one his grandmother said so consistently it became the only safety he knew. Miles and Bobby go deep into being triggered by both praise and criticism, why Bobby only checks hiscomments on Tuesdays, and the grief of having a daughter who'll never meet the grandmother who shaped him most.

In this conversation, you'll learn:

• How to Turn Your Own Insecurities Into a Bridge for Someone Else's
• How to Tell the Difference Between Supporting Someone in Addiction and Enabling Them
• How to Stay Consistent With Someone Even When It Feels Like Nothing Is Changing
• How to Recognize When Both Praise and Criticism Are Actuallya Threat
• How to Build Boundaries So Social Media Doesn't Run YourNervous System
• How to Respond Instead of React When You Feel Challenged
• How to Find Safety in a Relationship After a ChildhoodWithout It
• How to Let a Stranger's Small Act of Kindness Actually Land
• How to Talk to Your Kids About the Parts of Your Story ThatStill Hurt
• How to Know You Were Consistent Enough, Even When Nothing Else Felt Certain

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What We Discuss:

00:00:00 – Meet Bobby Bones

00:03:47 – Why every performer is secretly insecure

00:05:09 – The secret to connecting with people in interviews

00:15:47 – Finding the line between public and private life

00:17:56 – Getting rejected to 2 Bestsellers

00:22:32 – Bobby’s Mom: 16 years old, no support, and anaddiction that never let go

00:31:57 – What to say to someone who is supporting an addict

00:38:06 – "I wish our baby could meet my mom"

00:39:33 – The four-letter word his grandma never stoppedsaying

00:47:11 – Why compliments feel like threats to him

00:50:29 – The boundaries that keep him from spiraling online

00:53:35 – Property and therapy: the two best investments he'smade

00:58:27 – His Onsite story he's never told quite like this

01:07:03 – The TEDx talk that flopped & the one that gothim back on stage

01:11:06 – What watching his wife become a mom taught himabout love

01:13:43 – His message to his daughter, twenty years from now

Have you ever lived a dream so fully that you felt the quiettug to walk away? Not because it failed you, but because something new was calling.

What does it look like to anchor your identity in somethingthat can never be taken from you, even when everything you've built your life around closes a chapter?

Reece Weaver spent her entire third season as a Dallas Cowboys Cheerleader (DCC) carrying a decision nobody outside her closest circle knew about yet. The preacher's granddaughter from Jacksonville, Florida who started dancing at three, earned a scholarship to the University of Alabama —where she also met her husband Will — and felt something shift in her chest the moment she walked into AT&T Stadium as a sophomore. In the years to follow she has become the most-followed DCC in the franchise's history, a breakout presence on Netflix's America's Sweethearts: Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders,and then spent a year in therapy, prayer, and conversation with people she trusts, processing a feeling of “what’s next?” she couldn't explain and couldn't ignore.

In this conversation, Miles Adcox and Reece gets to the story underneath her retirement announcement. Reece opens up about the mental and emotional toll that the spotlight created long before the headlines caught up. She talks about the comparison trap that quietly became perfectionism, not being able to ignore people’s opinions and critiques on social media, her mom's reminder that "if that crown ever gets too tight, we can easily take it off," and why the word "retirement" still doesn't sit right with her. Miles and Reece also get to explore the joy of this next season and what is to come: a book, new hometown, being a cheerleader to her friends, and open hands for more opportunities.

In this conversation, you'll learn:

• How to Know When a Dream Is Finished vs. When You Are
• How to Separate Your Identity from the Thing You're Best At
• How to Let "Two Things Can Be True" Change YourNext Decision
• How to Carry Perfectionism Without Being Carried By It
• How to Survive Being Watched Without Being Defined By It
• How to Hear the Tug Before It Becomes a Roar
• How to Find Community That Tells You the Truth
• How to Serve Something Bigger Than Your Own Highlight Reel
• How to Take a Leap of Faith Into a Blank Canvas
• How to Turn a Page Without Calling It Quitting

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What We Discuss:

00:00:00 – Meet Reece Weaver

00:04:10 – Jacksonville, Florida & the Preacher's Granddaughter

00:09:39 – "I Was a Sponge" — How It All Started at Three

00:22:33 – Dance as an Expressive Therapy

00:24:34 – When Dance Becomes Your Whole Identity

00:27:44 – Who defines your identity?

00:32:42 – What Belonging Really Means

00:33:46 – One Song, Two Auditions, & Dreams She Didn't Know Yet

00:37:22 – Running Out on Bryant-Denny for the First Time

00:39:32 – Learning to Fail Well

00:42:21 – Where Perfectionism Really Comes From

00:50:18 – How Cutthroat Is It Inside the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders?

00:55:37 – Reminder from Mom: "If That Crown Ever Gets Too Tight"

00:59:17 – What to Tell a Young Girl in the Comparison Trap

01:02:18 – America’s Team: The Dallas Cowboys

01:06:52 – The Cotton Bowl Moment That Changed Everything

01:09:47 – The Mental Weight Nobody Talks About

01:17:05 – What’s next for Reece?

01:19:59 – Moving Onto the Next Phase of Life – Goodbye DCC

01:23:17 – Why She Refuses the Word "Retirement"

01:26:47 – What the Tears are Saying

Have you ever fought the hardest battle of your life and then not known what to do once it was over?

What if the story you thought defined you was actually the prologue to something even bigger?

Clea Shearer is co-founder of The Home Edit — the brand, the Netflix show, the New York Times bestselling books. But the Clea in this conversation has spent four years navigating a cancer journey her own doctors call a medical anomaly. From her diagnosis to a double mastectomy, followed by many emergency surgeries, she has faced complications most people never encounter. And she's done it all publicly, because she made a promise in Paris the day after her diagnosis: she was going to make her cancer purposeful.

Miles and Clea go into all sides of facing a cancer treatment, especially the ones no one mentions. She opens up about the depression that hit after ringing the bell, being medically induced into menopause, losing her breast for the third time, and the first real fight she and her husband, John, had in 21 years. But she also shares how making her suffering public became the thing that saved her, why she considers cancer one of the great honors of her life, and what she's learned about building community and finding purpose on the other side.

In this conversation, you'll learn:

• How to find purpose in the middle of the worst thing that's ever happened to you
• How the “ring the bell” moment can become its own kind of rock bottom
• How illness fatigue affects even the most loving support systems
• How to receive help without guilt or resistance
• How sharing your story publicly can become the thing that heals you
• How to tell the difference between relief and healing and why you need both
• How to rebuild meaning when you don't know what you were fighting for anymore
• How the community becomes your greatest medicine when nothing else works
• How to find the honor inside the hardest thing you've never asked for
• How to keep going when you don't know if there's another side

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What We Discuss:

00:00:00 – Meet Clea Shearer

00:03:31 – Hot Flashes & Getting Drop-Kicked Into Menopause

00:06:23 – Diagnosis Day: March 8, 2022

00:07:45 – What Happens After Active Treatment Ends

00:13:35 – The Medical Anomaly Nobody Wants to Be

00:17:52 – The Dark Month No One Saw Coming

00:21:05 – Eight Surgeries and a Year of Reconstruction

00:26:47 – Losing Her Breast for the Third Time

00:29:28 – The Undertow Nobody Else Could See

00:34:25 – The First Real Fight in 21 Years of Marriage

00:38:28 – 2026: The Year of the Fire Horse

00:42:48 – Presence Over Words: Horse Therapy

00:49:30 – The Two Things the Human Brain Fears Most

00:50:06 – Champagne, a Kindle, and Unconventional Coping

00:52:02 – Why She's Never Really Done Therapy

00:54:02 – Inner-Circle Friendship: Sitting Like a Chicken on an Egg

00:56:14 – Community Is the Most Powerful Antidote

01:00:30 – The Moment in Paris That Changed Everything

01:04:46 – Why Cancer Became the Honor of Her Lifetime

01:06:04 – A taste of what they didn’t get to

What does it actually look like to rebuild from the insideout — before the world even knows you needed to?

What happens to a person when tragedy arrives not as a slowunraveling, but all at once — and the only thing left standing is who you actually are?

What does it look like to grieve something you can't talkabout, for a family you can't reach, while the world keeps watching?

Country singer-songwriter Conner Smith landed his firstpublishing deal on Music Row at 16 years old. By 21, he was opening for his heroes. By 24, he'd gone independent, walked away from a label, and released a raw 10-song acoustic record, not because anyone told him to, but because it wasthe first music he ever actually believed in.

In this conversation, Conner opens up to Miles about themoment he stopped writing songs for approval and started writing them for himself, why going independent felt less like a career risk and more like self-respect, and the story of June 8th — the night he was involved in a fatal accident. He shares how grief, silence, and the community that showed up becamethe foundation for the most important growth of his life, what it was like to sit with the family of the woman who died, and why honoring her legacy is now woven into who he's becoming.

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In this conversation, you'll learn:

• How to know when you're writing someone else's song with your own life
• How early success can quietly steal your sense of self
• How to rebuild your artistic identity from the inside out
• How to tell the difference between stewardship and striving
• How community carries you when you can't carry yourself
• How to redefine success before the milestone redefines you
• How forgiveness can be the most unexpected turning point in a tragedy
• How to let suffering shape you without letting it define you
• How your greatest weakness becomes your greatest strength
• How to let people carry what you've spent your whole lifecarrying alone

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What We Discuss:

00:00:00 – Meet Conner Smith

00:04:49 – Growing Up Inside the Dream Before You're Ready

00:08:20 – What Thomas Rhett Taught Him About Priorities

00:10:23 – The Story behind Milestones

00:13:50 – When He Stopped Writing for Himself

00:16:06 – Songwriting & Why He Put the Record Out Anyway

00:21:41 – The First Time He Believed the Compliments

00:28:17 – Redefining Success Without Losing the Dream

00:31:34 – Stewardship vs. Striving

00:34:16 – "Industry Plant": The Song That Got Him in Trouble

00:39:22 – What Happens Before You Find Who You Are

00:41:26 – What He Told a 14-Year-Old About to Sign a Deal

00:47:20 – June 8th: The Night Everything Stopped

00:50:33 – The Weight No One Could Prepare Him For

00:54:46 – Getting Help Early Helped

01:01:48 – Forgiveness Around a Table with Miss Dot's Family

01:03:03 – Miss Dot & Why Her Legacy Matters

01:05:34 – How Tragedy Changed Him

01:14:00 – The 18-Year-Old Who Shared His Story

01:15:32 – Friends Who Showed Up Without Asking

01:18:09 – Transactional vs. Transformational Relationships

01:27:11 – Closing Blessing for Listeners

What if the songs you've been writing were actually thetherapy you desperately needed?

What if the version of you that felt like the black sheep your whole life was the one who would help the rest of us feel less alone?

Alana Springsteen has been performing since before she knewwhat performing cost her. She signed her first publishing deal at 14, earned a gold record before she turned 25, CMT's Next Women of Country, and has shared stages with Keith Urban and Tyler Hubbard — all while quietly carrying a version of herself she hadn't yet figured out how to put down. Her sophomorealbum, I Hope This Helps, is the result of what happened when she stopped grinding and started digging.

Miles and Alana go deep into the fear woven into her faith,the people-pleasing that had her questioning “why,” the EMDR session that surfaced a memory from four years old, and the eating disorder she kept hidden until she was finally ready to let her mom in. This is a conversation about what it costs to become who you were always meant to be and the honesty aboutthe journey to get there.

In this conversation, you'll learn:

• How to Tell the Difference Between Faith and Fear
• How Performing for Love Slowly Erodes Your Identity
• How to Use Curiosity as a Tool for Deconstruction
• How People-Pleasing Becomes a Mask You Can't Take Off
• How to Pick Up the Mirror Instead of the Microscope
• How EMDR Unlocks Childhood Memories Still Running Your Adult Life
• How to Recognize When Validation Has Become a Drug
• How to Write Your Way Through Seasons That Would Otherwise Break You
• How to Let Your Parents See Who You Actually Are
• How to Stop Waiting for Permission to Love Yourself

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What We Discuss:

00:00:00 – Meet Alana Springsteen

00:04:39 – The Two Years That Reshaped Everything

00:08:02 – Growing Up in Small Town Virginia

00:12:16 – The Gift and the Burden of a Religious Upbringing

00:18:57 – Moving to Nashville at 14

00:20:11 – Learning to See Your Parents as Human

00:21:17 – Advice for those Questioning Faith

00:23:27 – The Story Behind "Same God"

00:29:57 – Learning to Trust Your Own Inner Voice

00:31:48 – Wearing So Many Masks You Forget Your Own Face

00:36:52 – Being Public Before You Know Yourself

00:41:02 – Rick Rubin’s Influence on Creating Art

00:45:42 – Learning to Love Yourself Without Conditions

00:48:56 – EMDR Therapy and What It Surfaced

00:51:49 – Picking Up the Mirror Instead of the Microscope

00:56:52 – The Story Behind "Note to Self"

01:00:13 – “It's Never Too Late to Have a Happy Childhood.”

01:00:58 – Affirmations from Alana

Have you ever felt like becoming quieter was the only way to survive being too much?

What if the chaos you chased and the life you almost missed were both pointing you home?

Skylar Grey is a five-time Grammy-nominated artist, SpotifyBillions Club member, and one of the most distinctive voices of the last two decades. Known for her work with Eminem and Dr. Dre, she sits down with Miles Adcox to talk about the parts of her story the highlight reel never shows: a 1,500-person Wisconsin town, being told she was too much, a friendship breakup she never forgot, and a teacher who said music wasn't a career — the last day she went back to class.

Skylar opens up about retreating to an Oregon cabin afterher record deal fell apart, how that silence gave her "Love the Way You Lie," and the fears that kept her shrinking even as the world grew louder. She shares what it took to believe she deserved real love, why she's letting the wild little girl back out, and how Wasted Potential became a story she wrote for herself — one that might save someone else.

In this conversation, you'll learn:

• How childhood fractures quietly shape your adult life
• How being "too much" can become what makes youunforgettable
• How to find yourself after the world trains it out of you
• How to tell the difference between influence and inspiration
• How burnout signals you've drifted from your own voice
• How fear of criticism shrinks your art and your life
• How to know when you've earned the right to want what you want
• How polarizing art finds the people who need it most
• How to write through darkness without forcing a resolution
• How to build a life that makes the work worth doing

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What We Discuss:

00:00:00 – Meet Skylar Grey

00:02:19 – What it feels like to be truly seen

00:04:25 – Turning 40 and why now was the time to tell her story

00:06:49 – Growing up in a small town

00:10:48 – The childhood fractures that still live in her

00:13:50 – Carrying the past into the music industry

00:19:12 – A Celtic harpist mom and a barbershop quartet dad

00:21:36 – "Generations" – the duo that started her career

00:24:11 – Going solo at 12 and buying her first piano

00:27:18 – Influenced vs. inspired

00:34:24 – Tunnel vision work ethics

00:41:30 – The teacher who said "music isn't a career"

00:44:16 – Running off stage in tears & what the crowdfelt in it

00:47:09 – Her message to those who feel like they don't belong

00:51:29 – The grocery store pick-up line & dream partner

00:54:03 – "Love the Way You Lie" Origin Story

01:05:11 – How Eminem's "Stan" changed everything

01:11:53 – What setbacks taught her

01:14:16 – The burnout she didn't see coming

01:16:18 – Why success scared her & fear held her back

01:28:16 – "Bubble Grunge" Era

01:33:54 – The story behind "Bruises"

01:37:06 – Her journey to the "That'll Be Fine" girl

01:38:48 – What the younger Skylar would think of all this

01:41:08 – Meet Time - the AI stuffed animal voiced by Skylar Grey