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  • 4108 The Road After Failure

    4108 The Road After Failure
    Jun 29 2026
    Failure isn't just a setback — it's a message disguised in discomfort and disappointment. It arrives uninvited, often at the worst possible time, and it doesn't come quietly. It brings shame, regret, second-guessing, and a chorus of voices — most of them your own — asking how you could have let this happen. But if you're letting the anguish and frustration of failure call the shots on your next step, you're likely circling the same block, not advancing. The road after failure is real. It exists. But it doesn't open itself to those still standing in the wreckage, rehearsing the crash. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com Step Back Before You Step Forward Proverbs 3:5–6 says, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct your paths." Notice what this doesn't say. It doesn't say your paths will be straight because you figured it out fast, or because you were hard enough on yourself, or because you refused to rest until you recovered. It says in all your ways acknowledge him — which requires the willingness to stop, to release control, and to trust something wiser than the storm inside you. God's got you! Failure floods the mind with emotion: panic, self-blame, the urgent need to do something. Those feelings rush in, pretending to save you. In reality, they often keep you stuck — reactive rather than strategic, spinning rather than moving. Wisdom demands that you step back from the chaos of your emotions and seek clarity beyond what feels immediate and urgent. The smarter move is to decouple feeling from learning. Failure as a Lesson, Not a Trap When failure happens, two responses compete for your attention. The first is emotional: panic, self-doubt, retreat. The second is analytical: examine what went wrong, extract the lesson, identify the next best step. Only the second will free you. The first puts you on repeat — exhausted, spinning your wheels, and no closer to where you're trying to go. Romans 8:28 offers a perspective that changes everything: "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." All things. Not just the victories. Not just the comfortable seasons. The failures, too, have a purpose — and that purpose is not to paralyze you but to reposition you. The question is whether you'll stay long enough in the lesson to receive what it's actually offering. C.S. Lewis put it plainly: "Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny." Failure is one of those hardships. It is doing something to you, whether or not you're paying attention. The only choice you have is whether to be shaped by it intentionally or dragged by it blindly. Turn failure into forward motion. The K.I.S.S. ~ Turn failure into forward motion! Three Strategic Steps to Turn Failure Into Forward Motion 1. Separate Your Feelings From Your Facts Name the emotions without judgment — anger, embarrassment, disappointment, grief. They are real, and they deserve acknowledgment. But don't make your next decision inside that storm. Journal it. Talk it out with someone you trust. Then step away. Return when you're emotionally neutral and ready to dissect the failure clearly, not reactively. The facts of what happened will look different when you're not standing in the smoke. 2. Extract the Lesson, Then Map Your Next Step Against It Ask honest questions: What exactly went wrong? What part was within my control? What assumptions did I make that turned out to be false? Your next step must logically address the core failure — not just react to the pain of it. There's a difference between a move that solves the actual problem and a move that simply makes you feel like you're doing something. One builds; the other just burns energy. Jeremiah 29:11 reminds us, "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." That future is real — but it's built on honest reckoning, not avoidance. 3. Anchor Your Next Step in Principles, Not Passions If your next move relies primarily on feeling better or proving something to someone, it's built on unstable ground. Decisions driven by wounded pride or emotional urgency rarely lead where you actually want to go. Anchor instead in values, clear criteria, and strategic goals. Ask: Does this align with who I'm trying to become? Does this address the real problem, or does it just feel good right now? This is how you stay clear-eyed. This is how you stop letting "save me" emotions masquerade as forward momentum. You Are Not Who You Were The person who failed is not the person standing here now. Something has shifted — your awareness, your humility, your understanding of what you were missing or what you assumed too confidently. ...
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    24 mins
  • 4107 Faith Moves First

    4107 Faith Moves First
    Jun 28 2026
    There is a moment before every miracle. A quiet, often terrifying pause between the word of God and the evidence of it — a space that can only be crossed one way. Not by strategy. Not by certainty. Not by the accumulation of enough resources or enough confidence in our own ability. It is crossed by faith, and faith alone; faith moves first. God does not ask us to leap after everything is guaranteed. He asks us to step forward because He has guaranteed it. That is the tension at the heart of the Christian life — and it is one of the most beautiful invitations in all of Scripture. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com The Water Does Not Part Until Your Feet Are Wet The story of Israel's crossing of the Jordan River in Joshua 3 is one of the most striking pictures of this principle in the entire Bible. The Israelites stood at the bank of a river swollen with floodwater, carrying the Ark of the Covenant, with no visible way across. God's instruction through Joshua was clear but audacious: the priests were to step into the water first. "Yet as soon as the priests who carried the ark reached the Jordan and their feet touched the water's edge, the water from upstream stopped flowing." — Joshua 3:15–16 NIV You noticed that the water did not part while they stood on the shore debating it. It did not part while they prayed for clearer conditions or waited for a better season. It parted the moment their feet touched the water. The miracle was contingent on the movement. God was not waiting for better circumstances — He was waiting for faith. This is not an isolated moment in Scripture. It is a pattern. Small Steps, Sovereign God We often disqualify ourselves from stepping out because what we have to offer seems too small. The task looks too large. The resources feel too thin. The gap between where we are and where God is calling us to seems impossible to cross. But the Word speaks directly to this fear: "Do not despise these small beginnings, for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin." — Zechariah 4:10 NLT The context of this verse is significant. The prophet Zechariah spoke it to Zerubbabel, the governor tasked with rebuilding the temple in Jerusalem after the exile — a monumental work that had stalled, that the people had largely given up on, that seemed laughably inadequate given the grandeur of what once stood. Zerubbabel had only a small foundation laid. A remnant of a people. Modest tools. And yet God said: begin. He did not say "wait until you have enough." He said "I rejoice to see the work start." God is not moved by our finished products. He is moved by our first steps. Not in Our Strength, But His The essential shift that faith requires is a fundamental reorientation of trust. We are not stepping out because we believe in our own ability to hold things together. We are stepping out because we believe in His. The Apostle Paul understood this deeply. Writing from a Roman prison — about as stripped of human resources as a person could be — he testified: "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." — Philippians 4:13 NKJV This verse is often quoted as motivation, but read in context, it is something far more profound: it is a declaration of utter dependence. Paul had learned — through shipwreck and imprisonment, through abundance and hunger — that his own strength was not the variable. Christ's was. That changed everything. Faith is not the courage to try harder. Faith is the surrender that says: I cannot, but He can, and so I will move. The K.I.S.S. ~ Faith moves first! Abraham Walked Without a Map Perhaps no figure in Scripture embodies this principle more completely than Abraham. When God called him to leave Ur for a land he would be shown, there was no itinerary provided. No map. No timeline. No guarantee of comfort along the way. "By faith Abraham obeyed when he was called to go out to a place that he was to receive as an inheritance. And he went out, not knowing where he was going." — Hebrews 11:8 ESV Not knowing where he was going. That phrase should stop us in our tracks. We tend to think of faith as the thing we exercise once we understand the destination. Abraham teaches us that faith is often what moves us before the destination is revealed. The direction came one step at a time — and only to someone who was already walking. God rarely shows us the whole staircase. He illuminates the next step. Why God Works This Way Why would a gracious God require the step before the miracle? Why not show us the parted water, the open road, the guaranteed outcome — and then invite us to walk? The answer is worth sitting with. When we step out in faith and watch God move, something irreplaceable happens in us. We learn, at the level of lived experience, that He is faithful. Not as a theological proposition, but as a personal history. Each step of faith ...
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    16 mins
  • 4106 Don't Cross the Line

    4106 Don't Cross the Line
    Jun 27 2026
    Have you ever drawn a boundary in your marriage—a clear line keeping your spouse on their side, preserving your pride like a fortress around your heart? Maybe you think that protecting yourself means shutting down tough conversations, rejecting correction, or dodging the deeper questions about who you are. But stop and ask: who really wants a love so fragile that it breaks under honesty? Don't cross the line. Marriage isn't about guarding your ego at all costs. It's not a delicate dance where criticism is a threat and probing questions are an ambush. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com When you say, "Don't cross the line," what line are you protecting? Your pride? Your comfort zone? Or is that line an invisible prison trapping you both apart? Yes, there's a natural fear of letting someone see your cracks. The "prying" can feel like an invasion of privacy, pushing you to put up walls or erase the moments shared. Yet this kind of communication avoidance doesn't keep your marriage safe—it keeps it stuck. You might feel like you're winning when you hold the line, but every "no" to vulnerability chips away at your love's foundation. Marriage asks you to be brave. To weather criticism, to hear tough truths, and to give each other space to grow—even when it stings. If you want to stop the slow erosion of love, you have to stop hiding behind boundaries that shut connection down. So how do you find the middle ground? How do you avoid the extremes of either tearing each other apart or building cold walls that prevent true intimacy? The K.I.S.S. ~ Walk the line! Life is all about choices, and you get to choose how you show up in your marriage every day. You can be the one who demands and controls. But that will not get you anywhere except in front of a judge. You must be willing to learn more about your spouse and share a part of you too, so your foundation can become stronger and less brittle. Here are three things spouses can do to walk that line—and sometimes, cross it courageously: Set Boundaries… But Not Silos It's healthy to say what's off-limits—like disrespect or harmful accusations—but don't confuse boundaries with avoidance. Make sure the line you draw invites open dialogue on tough topics rather than shuts it down. Boundaries should protect your heart, not isolate it. Choose Vulnerability as a Strength, Not a Weakness Being open about fears, failures, and doubts isn't giving your spouse ammo—it's giving them trust. When you invite honesty, you model courage and create a safe space where love can deepen. Vulnerability is the soil where connection grows. Practice Constructive Feedback, Not Criticism It's not about pointing fingers or "fixing" each other. It's about sharing observations with kindness, focusing on solutions, and making "we" the priority. When your spouse hears "I want us to be better," instead of "You're wrong," the line becomes a path to growth—not a barrier. Now, it's time to reflect: What invisible walls have you quietly built to protect yourself and your pride? When have you crossed the line between protecting your heart and putting up a fortress? Are you ready to invite your spouse deeper into your world—and let them speak more honestly into yours? Love isn't about staying safe. It's about risking closer, learning harder, and sometimes crossing the line together. Guard your pride, yes—but never at the cost of your connection. Don't just protect the line. Know when to cross it—and watch how your marriage changes. "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!" #RelationshipBuilders #CreateYourNow #LoveAndMarriage 🔔 Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will discuss your specific situation while gaining tools and strategies to move you forward. (https://form.jotform.com/62988215824163) 🙏 Create Your Now TV on Pray.com (https://pray.com) 🎥 Create Your Now on YouTube (https://youtube.com/createyournow) 🎧 Create Your Now on Spotify, Pandora, and Audible. 🎶 Create Your Now on iHeart Radio (http://www.iheart.com/show/263-Create-Your-Now-Your-Best/) ✍️ YourBestSelfie@CreateYourNow.com Instagram @CreateYourNow @KristianneWargo Twitter @KristianneWargo @CreateYourNow Facebook www.facebook.com/TheKISSCoach www.facebook.com/CreateYourNow Cover Art by Jenny Hamson Photo by Canva.com Music by Mandisa - Overcomer http://www.mandisaofficial.com Song ID: 68209 Song Title: Overcomer Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia Copyright © 2013 Meaux Mercy (BMI) Moody Producer Music (BMI) One Songs (ASCAP) Ariose Music (ASCAP) Universal Music - Brentwood Benson Publ. (ASCAP) D Soul Music (ASCAP) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) ...
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    30 mins
  • 4105 How Heavy is Your Diaper Bag?

    4105 How Heavy is Your Diaper Bag?
    Jun 26 2026
    Mom life isn't for the faint of heart. You start by carrying your baby — literally — and then you carry a bag full of every imaginable thing that might save the day: diapers, wipes, bottles, snacks, toys, extra clothes. The diaper bag becomes your lifeline, kind of like Mary Poppins, stuffed to the brim with solutions for every little crisis. And then one day, everything changes. How heavy is your diaper bag? And that one day, you have a strange wish for the diaper bag to disappear. The weight, the clutter, the constant reminder of your need to be everything for your child — maybe you're tired of lugging all of it around. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com But then, you look inside the bag, and it's still there. Just not diapers anymore. Instead, it's filled with new things: permission slips, cell phone chargers, water bottles, homework notes. Your child's needs evolve, but the bag — that relentless, ever-heavy diaper bag — never really goes away. It just changes shape. So here's the question: How heavy is your diaper bag now? The Diaper Bag as a Mirror of Mom Life Your diaper bag has always been more than just a bag. It's a symbol — a perfect reflection of the stage of motherhood you're in. When you peek inside, you don't just find pacifiers and rash creams. You find the tools to solve screaming meltdowns, soothe thirsty lips after a playground run, replace a fidgety hand held too tightly. That bag, no matter what you call it, carries the weight of your love, responsibility, and endless giving. But what happens when your child grows — and so do you? When the demands don't disappear, but just morph? When you still feel like you need to carry the weight of it all, even if the load looks different? Here's the truth: the diaper bag you carry now isn't about baby gear. It's a mental and emotional burden that can weigh you down just as heavily. The same supermom magic can quickly turn into overwhelm and exhaustion, leaving you feeling worn thin without a clue how to drop the load — or even if you should. How Heavy is Your Diaper Bag? You might not call it a diaper bag anymore — maybe it's a backpack, a tote, or just that corner of your mind packed full of "shoulds" and "have tos." But it's still there, still heavy. QUESTION: How do you lighten your load without losing the essence of who you are as a mom? How do you step back without feeling like you're stepping out of the mom role you cherish — and the difference you make every single day? Maybe it just begins without the diaper bag. The K.I.S.S. ~ No more D.I.A.P.E.R. bag! You might be carrying other bags, but you don't have to carry it all just for your children. Look at your bag as a bag, and carry what helps them grow. It's time to rethink that mental diaper bag and clean out the clutter. The DIAPER Method for Lightening the Load D – DECIDE What Really Matters You can't carry everything, and you're not meant to. Choose the essentials — your child's emotional needs, your own wellbeing, and the truly impactful moments over the noise and distractions. Ask yourself: What really moves the needle for my child right now? I – IDENTIFY What You Can Let Go There are tasks, worries, and pressures weighing you down that might belong to someone else or belong in the past. Pinpoint what feels like dead weight — and practice releasing the guilt that comes with it. Saying no or asking for help is not a failure. It's strategy. A – ALIGN with Your Child's Growing Independence Your kids are capable of more than you might realize. Empower them to take responsibility for parts of their own journey. That means less to carry for you, but more growth for them. P – PRIORITIZE Your Self-Care You can't pour from an empty bag. Make room in your schedule and your heart for moments that refill your energy. Self-care isn't selfish — it's survival. E – ESTABLISH Boundaries Set clear limits on how much you take on. Teach your child—and others—that your time and energy are finite. Boundaries protect you and model healthy habits for your children. R – REFLECT Regularly and Readjust Motherhood is a moving target. What you needed to carry yesterday differs from today and tomorrow. Check in with yourself regularly. What can shift? What's new? Your "diaper bag" isn't forever fixed. Your Bag is Heavy, But So is Your Impact Mom, your "diaper bag" isn't just about stuff. It's about the role you play — a constantly evolving as a mom, guardian, guide, and cheerleader for your child. The load feels heavy because it matters. But you don't have to carry the world alone. Let go of the weight that wears you out, and keep hold of what empowers you as a woman and a mom. You are enough with or without that bag; your impact doesn't depend on how many items you tote around, but on the steady unconditional love and support only you can provide. So, how ...
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    21 mins
  • 4104 Be Still in the Noise

    4104 Be Still in the Noise
    Jun 25 2026
    Life has a way of dragging us into a relentless cycle—running full throttle while feeling like we're drowning at the same time. Just when you think you've caught up, something else crashes in, pulling the rug from under your feet. No wonder the harder you try to get ahead, the more you feel like you're slipping behind. That's when you need to stop. Take a deep breath; be still in the noise. That noise—it's everywhere. The shout that screams your name, breaking your concentration. The sounds of nails on a chalkboard that fray your nerves. The symptoms of stress, doubt, and distraction that pile up and pour gasoline on your internal fire. It all clamors for your attention, demanding responses you don't have left in you. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com But listen closely: Be still in the noise. Stop shaking the chaos like a rattle, trying to wake something inside you. Stop expecting calm when what surrounds you is anything but. The truth is, if you're making excuses, it's an unspoken permission slip to give up on that responsibility. You're telling yourself that somehow you're exempt from the promises you made—to yourself or to others. The K.I.S.S. ~ Be still in the noise! You're called to something greater. Something that won't let you off the hook. That higher place demands integrity—doing what you said you'd do, speaking your truth when it matters most, not covering it in half-truths or silence. Don't lie when you need to speak honestly. Say it with love or hold it in with courage, but don't bury it deep because hiding the truth only keeps you stuck. It's a roadblock dressed as quiet. Be still in the noise. I don't know exactly what storm you're facing right now. But God does. "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Keep your mouth free of perversity; keep corrupt talk far from your lip. Let your eyes look straight ahead; fix your gaze directly before you. Give careful thought to the paths for your feet and be steadfast in all your ways. Do not turn to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil." ~ Proverbs 4:23-27 Be still in the noise. Don't let another day slip by trapped in Excuse Land—where inaction is dressed up as justification. The sun sets every single day, and when it goes down, so do chances to rise above. In the midst of that screeching, that fire, that clatter—pause. Breathe. Stand still. The noise doesn't get to set your pace. You do. "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!" #Inspiration #CreateYourNow #DailyMotivation 🔔 Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will discuss your specific situation while gaining tools and strategies to move you forward. (https://form.jotform.com/62988215824163) 🙏 Create Your Now TV on Pray.com (https://pray.com) 🎥 Create Your Now on YouTube (https://youtube.com/createyournow) 🎧 Create Your Now on Spotify, Pandora, and Audible. 🎶 Create Your Now on iHeart Radio (http://www.iheart.com/show/263-Create-Your-Now-Your-Best/) ✍️ YourBestSelfie@CreateYourNow.com Instagram @CreateYourNow @KristianneWargo Twitter @KristianneWargo @CreateYourNow Facebook www.facebook.com/TheKISSCoach www.facebook.com/CreateYourNow Cover Art by Jenny Hamson Photo by Canva.com Music by Mandisa - Overcomer http://www.mandisaofficial.com Song ID: 68209 Song Title: Overcomer Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia Copyright © 2013 Meaux Mercy (BMI) Moody Producer Music (BMI) One Songs (ASCAP) Ariose Music (ASCAP) Universal Music - Brentwood Benson Publ. (ASCAP) D Soul Music (ASCAP) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission.
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    15 mins
  • 4103 Tomorrow is Today

    4103 Tomorrow is Today
    Jun 24 2026
    We all do it. We push off the things that matter most, telling ourselves we'll handle them "tomorrow." It's a seductive lie, wrapped in the promise of extra time. But when we look back, what we usually have the least of is more time. The hours slip through our fingers, and the projects, conversations, or personal goals we set aside keep piling up. Whether you're scrambling to catch up or banking on finishing yesterday's work today, don't lose track—tomorrow is already here. Tomorrow is today. Ask yourself: What have you been trying to squeeze into your day these past few days, maybe even weeks? What have you postponed, justified, or rationalized away with one excuse after another? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com Too often, we get comfortable drowning in excuses that make us feel safe and productive at the same time. "I'll start Monday," or "I'll get to it after this busy week." But those phrases are traps. They rob you from the momentum you need and keep you frozen in place. On the other side, there are those who ask a different question: "What's the one step I can take today that will set tomorrow in motion?" That mindset is a game-changer. One deliberate, focused action today accumulates fast, becoming miles of progress toward whatever greatness you seek. "One step at a time leads to miles of greatness." ~ Kristianne Wargo And the key is showing up consistently—not waiting for the perfect conditions but owning the imperfect now. The K.I.S.S. ~ Own the imperfect now! So, how do you snap out of the cycle that disconnects you from today's power? How can you stimulate your mind, body, and spirit so you feel the urgency that tomorrow doesn't wait? Here are three actionable moves anyone can do right now: Mind: Commit to a "5-minute daily priority." Stop overwhelming your brain with to-do lists that stretch your attention into oblivion. Instead, pick the single most important task related to your goal and commit just five focused minutes to it. It's enough time to build momentum, yet small enough to dodge paralysis by analysis. Do this every day, and you'll train your mind to recognize that small actions compound. Body: Move with intention every morning. Morning movement isn't about hitting the gym for hours—it's about signaling to your body and brain that today matters. Whether it's simple stretches, a brisk walk, or ten minutes of deep breathing, this physical activation releases tension, sparks clarity, and grounds you in the present moment. Your body remembers when you respect its rhythm; your will follows suit. Spirit: Reflect on your "why" before your first task. Connection to purpose is fuel when the clock says you can't pause. Before you dive into letting your phone drown you in distractions or binge through emails, take thirty seconds to center yourself on your "why." Why does this next step matter? Who does it serve? What happens if you don't do it? Reanchoring in purpose pulls you out of procrastination and lights a fire to start now, not later. Tomorrow will always be a sneaky illusion if you entrust it with your dreams and priorities. The real power sits in the choices you make today—the small steps that reject "someday" thinking. So don't wait. The clock is ticking, the moment is here—tomorrow is now, tomorrow is today. What's your first step going to be? You've got one day at a time. Make today count. "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!" #WellspringWednesday #CreateYourNow #HealthAndWellness 🔔 Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will discuss your specific situation while gaining tools and strategies to move you forward. (https://form.jotform.com/62988215824163) 🙏 Create Your Now TV on Pray.com (https://pray.com) 🎥 Create Your Now on YouTube (https://youtube.com/createyournow) 🎧 Create Your Now on Spotify, Pandora, and Audible. 🎶 Create Your Now on iHeart Radio (http://www.iheart.com/show/263-Create-Your-Now-Your-Best/) ✍️ YourBestSelfie@CreateYourNow.com Instagram @CreateYourNow @KristianneWargo Twitter @KristianneWargo @CreateYourNow Facebook www.facebook.com/TheKISSCoach www.facebook.com/CreateYourNow Cover Art by Jenny Hamson Photo by Canva.com Music by Mandisa - Overcomer http://www.mandisaofficial.com Song ID: 68209 Song Title: Overcomer Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia Copyright © 2013 Meaux Mercy (BMI) Moody Producer Music (BMI) One Songs (ASCAP) Ariose Music (ASCAP) Universal Music - Brentwood Benson Publ. (ASCAP) D Soul Music (ASCAP) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission.
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    16 mins
  • 4102 Step Up or Step Aside

    4102 Step Up or Step Aside
    Jun 23 2026
    Too many people sit on the sidelines of their own lives, waiting for the perfect moment, the crystal-clear sign, or the complete certainty before making a move. Here's the brutal truth: confidence doesn't show up fully formed. It shows up when you choose to step forward, when you put your convictions into action, even if you're shaking in your boots; step up or step aside. Confidence is a shadow—without movement, there's no form. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com Sure, thinking, planning, and dreaming have their place, but they remain just that without a bold decision to break the inertia. It's only when you act that confidence takes shape, builds momentum, and commands presence. What's holding you back? Fear? Doubt? The haunting voice that warns you to 'just wait a little longer'? It's a mirage. Waiting won't build your business. Waiting won't improve your relationships. Waiting won't change your life. Action will. The K.I.S.S. ~ Step up or step aside! Being bold doesn't mean reckless; it means deliberate courage. It means owning your choice, standing by it, and putting your energy behind it. It means showing the world—and, more importantly, yourself—that you're done playing small. Now is the time to rise—take a stand and make the moves that scare you. Because the only thing worse than failing is never trying at all. Confidence is forged in the fires of action, not the safety of hesitation. Create your now: decide with all your guts, move with all your heart, and watch your confidence finally earn its place. Your future self won't thank you for playing it safe today. Your future self will thank you for rising up. "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!" #Inspiration #CreateYourNow #DailyMotivation 🔔 Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will discuss your specific situation while gaining tools and strategies to move you forward. (https://form.jotform.com/62988215824163) 🙏 Create Your Now TV on Pray.com (https://pray.com) 🎥 Create Your Now on YouTube (https://youtube.com/createyournow) 🎧 Create Your Now on Spotify, Pandora, and Audible. 🎶 Create Your Now on iHeart Radio (http://www.iheart.com/show/263-Create-Your-Now-Your-Best/) ✍️ YourBestSelfie@CreateYourNow.com Instagram @CreateYourNow @KristianneWargo Twitter @KristianneWargo @CreateYourNow Facebook www.facebook.com/TheKISSCoach www.facebook.com/CreateYourNow Cover Art by Jenny Hamson Photo by Canva.com Music by Mandisa - Overcomer http://www.mandisaofficial.com Song ID: 68209 Song Title: Overcomer Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia Copyright © 2013 Meaux Mercy (BMI) Moody Producer Music (BMI) One Songs (ASCAP) Ariose Music (ASCAP) Universal Music - Brentwood Benson Publ. (ASCAP) D Soul Music (ASCAP) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission.
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    10 mins
  • 4101 Words That Strangle Progress

    4101 Words That Strangle Progress
    Jun 22 2026
    There is a particular kind of cruelty we practice on ourselves, and we don't even recognize it as cruelty. We call it being realistic or waiting for the right time. We dress it up in practicality and patience, and we never notice that what we're actually doing is slowly, quietly, systematically putting our own lives on hold. So instead of looking to what's next, we focus on 'I used to...'; words that strangle progress. Life doesn't slow down for us. The calendar doesn't pause while we gather our courage. The years move whether we're moving with them or not. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com And yet, somehow, we convince ourselves that there will always be more time — more time to get healthy, more time to chase that dream, more time to feel alive again. So rather than pressing forward, we turn around and look backward, and we begin to speak the most stagnating words in the human vocabulary: I used to. "I used to run." "I used to dream big dreams." "I used to giggle more." "I used to be energetic." "I used to travel." "I used to feel strong." "I used to do more." Stop for a moment and feel the weight of those words. There is grief in them, yes — but more than grief, there is surrender. "I used to" is the language of someone who has already written their own ending. It is a closed door, a drawn curtain, a period at the end of a sentence that still had chapters left to write. How unfair to yourself. You stop yourself in your tracks. You plant both feet in the past and there you remain, stuck — not because life ran out of room for you, but because your words ran out of room for life. The Power Hiding Inside Your Sentences Words are not neutral. They are not simply sounds or symbols we use to describe the world — they actively construct it. The sentences you form in your head build the architecture of your belief, and your belief determines where your feet are willing to go. Words construct the sentences that form the thoughts that either secure fear in your chest or ready your heart for a leap. "I used to" secures the fear. It tells your mind: that version of me is gone, and I have accepted that loss. And the mind, ever obedient, stops looking for exits. But there is another phrase available to you. Three words that crack the door back open. "I'm starting again." The K.I.S.S. ~ Start again! Not "I'll try someday." Not "I used to, but maybe one day I could again." Starting. Present tense. Now. This phrase doesn't require you to pretend you haven't struggled, that time hasn't passed, or that the road back is short. It simply requires you to face forward. So how do you get there? How do you trade a language of stagnation for a language of progress? Here are three practices that can change everything. 1. Audit Your Inner Monologue — Then Rewrite It The first step is unflinching honesty about the words already living rent-free in your mind. Most of us have never stopped to listen — really listen — to what we tell ourselves on repeat. But those repeated phrases become your operating instructions. Pay attention to your "I used to" inventory. Write them down if you have to. Then, one by one, perform a single act of linguistic rebellion: replace "used to" with "am returning to". "I used to run" becomes "I am returning to running." "I used to dream big" becomes "I am returning to dreaming big." This is not word games or self-help cheerleading. The difference is neurological. Research in cognitive behavioral therapy has consistently shown that the language we use about ourselves shapes our expectations, and our expectations shape our behavior. You cannot outperform your self-narrative. "Death and life are in the power of the tongue." — Proverbs 18:21 That verse wasn't written about dramatic moments. It was written about the everyday conversation you have with yourself, the one no one else hears. Speak life — even if your voice shakes at first. 2. Stop Waiting for Permission from Circumstances One of the great lies we tell ourselves is that forward motion requires ideal conditions. We're waiting to feel ready. Waiting until the kids are older, the job stabilizes, the weather changes, the finances increase, the chaos settles. We keep placing the start line further and further away, and then we wonder why we never seem to reach it. Theodore Roosevelt, a man who refused to let circumstances write his story, put it plainly: "Do what you can, with what you have, where you are." That is a sentence of progress. It doesn't wait. It doesn't require a better version of your situation to begin. It simply begins. Consider the runner who quit training after an injury, who gained thirty pounds, who hasn't laced up her shoes in four years. She can spend another four years grieving her former pace — or she can walk to the end of the driveway and back today. The walk isn't a failure. The walk is the ...
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