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The Body Never Lies
- The Lingering Effects of Hurtful Parenting
- Narrated by: Sara Clinton
- Length: 5 hrs and 36 mins
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- Categories: Health & Wellness, Psychology & Mental Health
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- Amazon Customer
- 04-10-19
Read this is you have M.E/CFS/Fibromyalgia
This book is changing my life. I have been mostly housebound for nearly 20 years with M.E since becoming ill in my teens. There is no real help for M.E suffers in the UK. GPs and specialists will tell you they don't know what the cause is, give you some ineffective lifestyle advice and send you on your way. I've never stopped searching for an answer and have explored many paths.
It was when I started to research Narcissism (NPD) after an incredibly stressful experience with a housemate that led me to discover the symptoms of narcissistic abuse match that of M.E. I started learning about trauma and delving into my own childhood - which I thought had been fine. Whilst reistant to the idea at first, I discovered that my mother very obviously fit the description of covert narcissistic personality disorder. I went no contact with her and my condition improved for the first time in 16 years, but didn't go away. It became very much worse again when I found out she was dying and mistakenly got back in contact with her. Less than 2 years after her death, I was able to process her impact upon me as a child and the trauma it left me with, but again my illness didn't go away.
I then started to notice that I was experiencing worsening symptoms after every interaction with my father, who had appeared to be the better parent, affectionate, generous, supportive, sympathetic etc. I then realised by recording interactions with him that in fact he was an even more covert form of narcissist. Contrary to the nice-guy Dad of the year persona he put forward, in actual fact he was constantly intensely gaslighting me. He influenced my perspectives, always reframing what I had to say whenever I expressed a need or a problem and made me believe (in the nicest, most reasonable and convincing way possible) that any fault on his part was "all in my head". He wasn't able to hear that his domineering behaviour, constantly interrputing me, putting me into double binds, always needing to be right, denying, minimising or dismissing my needs and experience (etc) was hurting me. I didn't realise just how much until an upcoming family he would be attending triggered a sudden development of gastroparesis in the weeks leading up to it. My stomach shut down, I was no longer able to eat solid food, couldn't have a bowel movement, couldn't sleep, had severe tension and anxiety and rapidly started losing a lot of weight. It was like my body was shutting down and I was literally starting to die. I have read about this happening to people with severe M.E, where sadly they have had to be fed through tubes and eventually starved to death (with doctors unable to find a physical cause). This was very alarming. When realising how toxic my father's behaviour actually was I tried to have an adult conversation with him about it, approaching him gently and compassionately, without blame, believing that he wasn't aware of what he was doing to me and wouldn't want to be unintentionally hurting me. His reaction was both astounding and revealing. He was completely unwilling to self-reflect, admit to any fault or take any responsibility for the situation. Suddenly the gaslighting became more extreme and obvious. He tried to convince me that there could be no connection between any of his behaviour and my illness and instead tried to persuade me I had cancer (I don''t and there was no reason to think so. I've been very thoroughly physically investigated for all sorts of things over the years trying to find an underlying cause and was in fact being seen as an outpatient for these latest developments at the time, cancer had already been eliminated as a possible cause, my symptoms didn't match) or that it was due to genetics - even though there was a clear correlation between interacting with him and my symptoms becoming worse AND in spite of the fact that he had been very happy to support the idea of my mother's behaviour causing my symptoms...I could go on.
Narcissism and childhood trauma and the consequential effects on health are something I've been studying informally for about 5 years, so to a degree there wasn't much new information in this book, however I have never found a single source of information that captures my experience so very perfectly and added depth and confidence to my understanding. It has helped me open up to seeing the full picture by removing the last barriers of "F.O.G" (fear obligation and guilt) that is the favourite manipulation technique of the narcissistic parent that keeps you trapped, unable to see them for what they really are and what they are still doing to you. To have the kind of clarity and support this book provides is absolutely invaluable. It has revealed so much and given me so many insights. Before reading it I was coming to terms with the idea of having to go no contact with my father, but this has absolutely confirmed that it is necessary for me to heal and the right decisions in my case, no matter what society thinks of it!
I am both astounded and ecstatic to report that I already experienced a release and the beginning of improvement in my symptoms within days of having this realisation. Alice Miller nails it in describing that all of my fatigue, all my chronic muscular tension and pain, all my disgestive dysfunction etc, comes from the denial of seeing my parents for what they really are, denying the truth of the impact of their behaviour upon me. That comes from the gaslighting and training of my parents to only see what they want me to see and believe their narrative that they love me and want the best for me. They don't. They had me to fix their lives and be the parent they never had and I should suppress myself and be the ever dutiful servant to their needs. I should tow the line, drink the coolaid and never ever dare to question their motives or think badly of them, because they are infallible, all-loving godly beings. Once you see through the lies they have told you, your body is no longer in tension between knowing the truth but not being able to reconcile that with what you are being told by your parents and having to keep it locked down tight, but then screaming out at you for attention with strange and debilitating symptoms. The truth was that I was still ill even after my mother's death, because I had an even more dangerous narcissitic still lurking in my life that I never ever suspected. One that was in fact slowly killing me. Though I am not cured overnight and I'm sure healing my complex post traumatic stress disorder will take time, I am shocked by how quickly improvement in my symptoms has occured after finally putting the last piece of the puzzle into place after two decades of severe illness. The truth really will set you free!
Check out Daniel Mackler on youtube for more on childhood trauma. His thinking is influenced by Alice Miller. I actually found him first, hence the ideas in her book not being entirely new to me. He has an excellent book called Breaking From Your Parents, which helps you deal with the taboo and the guilt around doing so when you have parents that are destroying your life, or in my case slowly killing you and you need to break away from the cult of the family you are living in, in order to heal. Also check out Richard Grannon on youtube if you suspect you are dealing with narcissistic parents or narcissistic relationships in your life because his material is also invaluable in helping you see and understand your situation for what it is (and advice of what to do about it). Lastly The Little Shaman on youtube is absolutely fantastic in helping you understand the mind of a narcissist and their behaviour.
Please read this book if you have M.E, it could save your life. But please read it even if you don't as you don't know how valuable being able to see your parents as flawed human beings and no longer idolising them really is. It will teach you a great deal about yourself and them. It is a gift that keeps on giving.
I am very disappointed that this is the only book by Alice Miller currently available on audible. Audiobook is certainly a much easier form for ill people to access and digest such powerful and vital information. I will add for anyone who is unwell that the writing style is very accessible and the book is quite short, so don't feel intimidated by it. If it helps you, please spread the word! No longer should seriously ill people be left to suffer without an answer!
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- Nicola
- 19-09-17
A good point ruined by misinformation
I have a strong connection with the idea that parents in our society are still allowed to treat children really badly, to the child's detriment. Certainly I have witnessed professionals who are supposed to be helping a child turn a blind eye to mistreatment of that child by its parent. However the potential of the book to make a difference is limited by sweeping generalisations and lack of understanding about contemporary psychological methods and trauma and attachment theory. Finally the link between developmental trauma and physical conditions needs to be demonstrated is frankly dangerous. The idea that one can recover from cancer by cutting off relationship with parents is astonishing and cruel.
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- Raymond
- 22-10-17
Majestic
Here about Alice for a long time and this audiobook has been in my library a while so glad I listened to it. She really touched me in so many places and brought me further out of denial about my childhood, recommend for any adult child :)
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- Mila
- 21-03-19
Good but not great
Nice listening experience but I didnt like her overthinking and repeting of the topic.Nice examples and I gained some insite but was pulled off by her agressive tone in offering her ideas.
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- Jane S
- 14-01-17
Wonderful, inciteful....commonsense
Love it. More books on audible from Alice Miller please. Listen to your body, own and accept your own truths. Everyone should read this.
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- s mccullough
- 01-06-15
An incredible work
Eye opening and groundbreaking stuff. Revealing and insightful it has really given me an understanding of why there is so much dysfunction in our society
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- AGGELOS IOAKIMIDES
- 08-09-15
Valuable message, piece of a puzzle
As a part of a series of books about how we are wired to operate, it makes good sense and explains in an emotional way, how we are connected as minds to our body, if only by the end results of our lives. This book only lacks two things, in my opinion: better connection to the mechanisms and reactions of our body to our experiences, and what exactly is the term "cruel parenting" with a fair understanding of how "the perpetrators" are doing their wrong and when exactly. It is a complementary book to others such as "stumbling onto happiness" and "welcome to your child's brain", in order to get the idea. I liked a lot the fictional diary in the book which explains in an experiential way what the writer wanted to say but was "missing the nail". Overall worth the money and time. A piece of the puzzle for further self development or even for a professional to include in their sphere of view.
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- Sjaad
- 02-02-20
Insightful
Absolutely loved it. Very thought provoking. Be ready for some home-truths. It will send you down memory lane n challenge you in ways you probably never did before.
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- Cheese time
- 11-09-17
Avoid if you don't want to hear about the bibile
What would have made The Body Never Lies better?
Stop mentioning religious notes.
What was most disappointing about Alice Miller’s story?
There is a lot of bible bashing in here. Using the ten commandments and moses as examples of psychological healing. Christ!
If you could play editor, what scene or scenes would you have cut from The Body Never Lies?
all of it
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- Anna Iskenderova
- 25-11-20
very interesting listen
Insightful book about consequences of physical and mental abuse in childhood.
The performer sounds robotic which at times makes it difficult to follow the story.
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- Amazon Customer
- 24-08-16
Remarkably Enlightened
This was the first time I have ever heard a self help book about abuse not ask me to forgive. It was such a relief. I feel clarity in my journey after hearing it's ok for me to be angry and not to forgive. I still have a relationship with my parents. I have no intention on stopping it. Today I have a new approach, be angry when you need to be, it's acceptable, there's no need to rush forgiveness.
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- Spiritedsprite
- 13-09-18
I am not sure what to think?
I didn't get what I was hoping for out of this book. However, I am sure the content will stay on my mind for some time. I am in my 40s and it has only been a few years ago that I have been able to admit that I had terrible parents. It feels like this journey is so long. Figuring out how to process and what to do with this knowing is difficult for me. I like that the author pin points the idea that we are so often as adult children trying still to get love from our parents that has always been denied. I was hoping the author would say more about how to let go of that desire and how to get that love and nourishment ourselves.
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- Anonymous User
- 22-05-20
Required Reading - Raw and Revolutionary
This book should be near the top of your personal list of books to read before you die. The insights Miller provides are powerfully transformative with regard to the benefits of becoming an objective witness to one’s trauma in balance with cultivating empathy for the adult child self and the present condition of the body. It is understandably difficult coming from Judeo-Christian ideology to embrace a perspective that moves beyond unswerving loyalty and respect for one’s parents and parental figures, but that is exactly why Miller advocates so fiercely that we break free from that mentality in order to permit ourselves true healing.
The main takeaway: listen to this book, and you will learn to listen to your body and hear your truth. Unburying and processing trauma to break cycles of abuse and shame can be painful, but learning to advocate, empower, trust, and forgive oneself - not one’s abusers or their apologists - will undoubtedly bring peace to the present, the soul, and equally the body itself. Truly this is a book that does not hold the reader at arm’s length, but rather offers a deep embrace. Don’t be afraid to embrace it back; you are really embracing yourself.
Further critiques and encouragement for readers from a 27 year old trying to get her life together:
This book is not for the faint of heart or without flaws, but please invest your time to read it. Miller’s perspective can seem harsh and totally alien at first, but I found the unapologetic tone invigorating. The reading experience felt like being propelled to swim from deep water and finally break through the surface. It was a huge relief from a lot of pain and pressure I didn’t even fully realize I was experiencing or had become desensitized to, and it helped me welcome my truth like stinging, fresh air. While ultimately restorative, it was like treading water trying to get to the other side of my own denied reality as I struggled at first to process Miller’s framework against my slowly unraveling perception of my trauma, parents, body, physical symptoms, and my feelings surrounding it all. Honestly kind of exhausting, but it’s given me plenty of pause to begin to recover.
I would recommend doing as much as you can to take care of yourself while reading this, and take your time. It’s not many hours long, but it took me two plus weeks to finish because the text was dense at times and pretty heavy emotionally. Try to pay attention to your body as you listen or encounter triggers in the text or in your life, and practice mindfulness during exercise and other activities regardless whether you meditate. Journaling was also incredibly useful for me. Really helpful to integrate her work in a personal way, not just partially digest the concepts.
Also be aware that the book’s structure does not make the true value of her work consistently accessible throughout, though this may be partially a side effect of a reader attempting for the first time to wake up to the reality of their trauma and the toxic cultural drivers informing it. The second half focuses on dismantling the harmful trappings of psychoanalytic practice in the context of more contemporary applications and implications of how stored trauma manifests physically, while the first half details examples of classical writers who Miller analyzes in the same manner.
Although she successfully lays the groundwork for her theory here, and this chosen structure supports her conclusions in the end, the intended effect does not pay off until much later, which made certain claims or sections seemingly less clear or relevant until it finally clicked. It’s worth it for that aha moment, but there are several to be had.
Everything presented remains engaging in its own right, and part one was a good reminder of how fame and esteem from strangers can’t replace respect and love from those who matter most and thus status and financial security don’t equate to true happiness, comfort, or an easy, carefree life. On this point, Miller also addresses other means of coping and denial in established adults and professionals, including within therapeutic practice.
While the book as a whole is like connecting to an oxygen tank you didn’t know you needed, the narration can feel a little stale when reading some of the personal accounts in part two, but I think the narrator’s maturity reflects Miller’s voice and wisdom and also the biographical nature of part one. The more mellow energy had me replaying certain parts I spaced out on, but that could be my own attention span. To keep the engagement levels consistent, I’d have appreciated more background on the physical links to trauma from a scientific perspective, as this might have helped to substantiate some of Miller’s broader claims in the beginning and more firmly cement the departure from psychoanalysis in general, but there are other books that do this well. In her own way, I respect Miller helping pioneer the mind-body connection, as well as her intention to subvert traditional models (of parenting and psychotherapy) by exposing their weaknesses through direct examples of unsuccessful treatment.
If you are not already familiar, it also takes some adjusting to the language of psychoanalytic theory in order to really understand how Miller directly addresses and rejects it. Those who don’t enjoy or are unaccustomed to scholarship may find this less approachable, but I still think it is worth trying. It’s not so heady as to ever near incomprehension, but I am curious to see if there are people applying or relaying her work in more user-friendly ways to give greater access to general audiences. Not everyone is or wants to be an intellectual.
Whether you are an adult child, a parent yourself, or both, this book will ask you to take a long, hard look at yourself and the environment(s), systems, and patterns you grew up in and know yourself by. It brought up grief, guilt, shame, anger, nostalgia, hope, and love, and much more. It has allowed me to reevaluate my own relationship with my parents, other caregivers and authority figures, and even myself in a way regular talk therapy has not yet managed to touch.
This was a challenging but cathartic read, well worth the positive complement to therapeutic work, with the understanding that said work, like this book, is a raw, not necessarily fun experience. Again, there are other books that posit similar or related theories, but I wanted to start with this one as its original release precedes those publications, it boldly addresses the history and roots of contributing traditions of harm, and because it is important to credit and support women scholars in a field with continued inequity. It is also important to recognize Miller as a Holocaust survivor, which arguably speaks to her expertise on childhood trauma as part of her lived experience, and furthers the integrity and solidarity that infuses her work. Miller passed away in 2010, but this audiobook was published in 2013 - clearly the significance of her message lives on, and can live on in each courageous reader and listener here.
I look forward to reading her other works as I continue my healing journey. I am so grateful and proud to have finally begun, and I hope as many people as possible, no matter what age, will read this book and find hope and strength in Alice Miller’s words.
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- GML
- 31-01-16
Why did I not get this sooner?
Sometime authors who write on the same theme are repetitive....this is NOT the case for this book or its famous predecessor (Drama of the Gifted Child).
I really liked the kind, conversational tone of the narrator, as well.
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- Crystal todd
- 02-05-17
I agree with the author, but I was looking.
I learned about this book from another psychologist that I respect very well. I was hoping to get ideas as to what signals the body is trying to tell you. This book was more of an overview and understanding that childhood trauma cause the issue.
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- Jane
- 27-10-13
A healing experience
What made the experience of listening to The Body Never Lies the most enjoyable?
It's great that 'honour thy mother and thy father' is questioned in this book. There are some parents who should not be honoured.
What was one of the most memorable moments of The Body Never Lies?
Don't know about moments but the whole book questions the way abused children are told to 'forgive' and 'honour' those who abused them when our bodies are telling us that our truth is so important.
What does Sara Clinton bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?
A caring genuine sounding approach I suppose.
What insight do you think you’ll apply from The Body Never Lies?
It gives you the freedom to accept how you feel, to be understanding of yourself instead of being understanding of the abuser.
Any additional comments?
Good work.
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- Holly Forman
- 20-09-15
Every therapist should read
Great book. A little slow during the first quarter but definitely a must read for therapists.
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- T. Villa
- 23-02-16
revealing
Very insightful book on the negative effects of religious moral code on victims of abuse.
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- MeBeVerryAlive
- 12-06-19
This book was amazing.
I highly recomend it this book. Her scope is a little narrow but it can be applied to a much broader scope. This is similar to The Body Keeps Score by Bessel van der Kolk.
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- Wendy Tuck
- 20-08-15
Insight into the way parenting impacts children
The way Alice Miller uncompromisingly looks at abuse, neglect, and mistreatment of children from the child's point of view is truly an eye opener. She exposes the beliefs and emotions that adults experience as a result of harmful, even cruel parenting. She liberates the reader from having to retain a helpless dependency on their parents out of guilt, obligation, or an insistence on forgiving and honoring one's parents. She gives many examples of famous and ordinary people whose bodies never lied, although many remained unconscious of their own biography and suffered. Fascinating book, great storytelling, and such a beacon of hope for treating our children much much better.
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