But It’s Your Family... cover art

But It’s Your Family...

Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath

 Preview

Get 30 days of Standard free

£5.99/mo after trial. Cancel monthly.
Try for £0.00
More purchase options

But It’s Your Family...

By: Dr. Sherrie Campbell
Narrated by: Dr. Sherrie Campbell
Try for £0.00

£5.99 a month after 30 days. Cancel anytime.

Buy Now for £13.18

Buy Now for £13.18

Season's Savings | £0.99/mo for 3 months

£5.99/mo after 3 months - terms apply. Cancel monthly

But It’s Your Family is a remarkable account of what it means to cut ties to toxic family abuse and thrive in the aftermath.

Loving someone doesn’t always mean having a relationship with them, just like forgiveness doesn’t always mean reconciliation. Reconciling, in many cases, only sets people up for more abuse. A significant part of healing comes with accepting that this is a part of life; there are some relationships that are so poisonous that they destroy one’s ability to be healthy and function best. Dr. Sherrie Campbell clarifies how parents, adult children, siblings, grandparents, and in-laws can be toxic while giving direction on how to explain cutting ties to children and others who may not understand. When listeners are able to bring closure to those toxic relationships, they give themselves the space to love those family members from a distance, as fellow human beings, with the knowledge that it is unwise to remain connected. In But It’s Your Family, listeners learn how to love themselves in the process and fundamentally change their lives for the better.

©2019 Dr. Sherrie Campbell (P)2020 Dr. Sherrie Campbell Abuse Dysfunctional Families Dysfunctional Relationships Parenting & Families Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Health Mental Health Difficult Family
adbl_web_anon_alc_button_suppression_t1
All stars
Most relevant
I was initially resistant to this book, a recommendation from my therapist. The title is so loaded and it’s not what I wanted however I did resonate a lot with Dr Sherrie’s story. If you’re dealing with any of these issues or going through this painful process it’s important to hold yourself accountable too. If you’ve been honest without being brutal and clearly asked “What’s wrong and how can we fix the problems between us?” (but keep hitting a brick wall) then this book is a helpful tool in setting and navigating difficult boundaries.

Initially resistant but a powerful book

Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
I am also a survivor of an abusive family system. This is the first time I have read a story that sympathises with the victim rather than the perpetrator, as both society and some Christian circles so often insist that victims reconcile with and have compassion for their familial perpetrators, which is not biblical.

There is a cognitive dissonance when it comes to family relationships. Society seems to refuse to believe that parents can and do willingly abuse their own children. They refuse to acknowledge that not all parents love their children, because that does not fit their frame of reference.

But when an outsider abuses a child, society is much more willing to protect the victim from the perpetrator. There is outrage over the injustice that has been done to the child, and the child is rarely coerced into understanding, reconciling with, or having compassion for their abuser.

So why don't we have that same rage when children are abused by their own parents? When we refuse to call it child abuse simply because it is done by a parent, we are essentially endorsing child abuse. We must call child abuse what it is, regardless of who the perpetrator is.

This message is for all the (adult) children suffering in silence behind closed doors, fighting a war they never chose but are forced to endure because of their families — a reality that is so rarely acknowledged by society at large.

Calling abuse abuse instead of excusing it.

Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
This book is bang on! she is so brave to speak out, and shows such courage and strength. Highly recommended!!

Loved every minute!

Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
Very good. Good to know that you are not the only person to experience this scenario. Perfect to read if you have Toxic Parents by Susan Forward.

Perfect Companion to Toxic Parents

Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
From an estranged mother who has acknowledged her flaws and is learning to attempt to put things right and relate to adult children this was interesting to hear from the voices of others. I think it would have been better if there had been some parent’s experiences as well and solutions of how to meet half way and develop healthier parent and adult child relationships.

An interesting perception on toxic parents

Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
See more reviews