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Raising Boys in the 21st Century

Completely Updated and Revised
Narrated by: Damien Warren-Smith
Length: 7 hrs and 1 min
4.5 out of 5 stars (32 ratings)

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Summary

A word-of-mouth best seller which has become one of the best loved and most successful books in the parenting field. With around 20 percent new material, Steve Biddulph’s Raising Boys is to be rereleased this month with some startling new research on what helps - and what harms - boys.

In this expanded and updated edition, Steve Biddulph shares and gives practical and honest advice to parents so they can recognise the different stages of boyhood and learn how to raise happy, confident and kind young men.

Boys need to be parented in a different way from girls, with their own very special psychological and physical makeup. Home, society and education have failed boys badly - and these failures lead to unhappy men who cannot fully become happy, responsible, emotionally confident adults.

While it is essential that boys spend more time learning about manhood from their fathers, Biddulph updates his classic to include helpful information for mothers and single mothers with baby boys.

This extended edition explores some important topics:

  • How ADHD may be caused by stress in the first year of life.
  • Whether boys should start school later than girls.
  • How important it is to let boys cry, and how crying helps avoid violence, suicide, and risky behaviour.

Two completely new stages of boyhood we didn’t know about: 

  • The Full on Fours and the Emotional Eights.
  • Help for single mothers raising sons.
  • How to choose a sport that does more good than harm.
  • What we can do about boys and binge drinking.
  • What science can tell us about teenage boys and driving - and how we can keep our sons safe.

Raising Boys offers parents real-life situations, thought-provoking insights, humour and help.

©2018 Steve Biddulph (P)2018 HarperCollins Publishers

Critic reviews

"A mix of Billy Connelly and Dr Spock...Steve Biddulph is a publishing phenomenon." (The Times)

"Steve’s advice is easy to follow - and more importantly, it works." (BBC Family Life Magazine)

"Biddulph...has a built-in feel good factor. Parenting books too often make one fell inadequate, but Biddulph’s left me refreshed and optimistic." (The Express)

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great insights.

great listen.. good insights for raising my son as I didn't have brothers. would recommend

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A must read for you parents (and educators) of boys

A well balanced, informative book on boys and how to help them on their journey to manhood. Highly recommended!

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Incredible read for mums and dads

This is a well narrated, information packed book giving some great insights and pointers on what works with raising boys. There are plenty of facts and anecdotes to back lots of the advice given and I've happily recommended this to friends.
One point I would make is that I think at times it gets a little repetitive, I'd rather it went deeper on fewer subjects

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enlightening. wish I'd read this book sooner.

This book has been invaluable in helping me to understand my son's needs and behaviour.

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Great read for parents

I enjoyed listening to the book. As a mum of two boys, I found it very informative and it has inspired me to make a few changes to my parenting style.

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Wish i'd found this sooner.

Fantastic book, wish I found it years ago, highly recommend this as a gift to all new mothers with sons!!!

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Useful (not gospel) insight/tips for boys' parents

Useful (but not gospel) insights and tips for parents of boys.

I've read Biddulph before, but not as a parent, and even having studied some child psychology in my degree, without the context of two boys to put learning into, even some rather basic-seeming ideas here felt fresh.

From baby and toddler tips all the way through to the tricky years of adolescence and preparing young men for independence and relationships, Biddulph has updated his older edition with contemporary references and thoughts.

Not all of it worked for me - I felt one comment on selecting suitable youth groups/clubs that don't contain adults who may want to abuse them (not a direct quote but this was the general feel of it) was alarmist and not at all helpful.

This was a good listen - it worked mostly as an audiobook with a calm and personable narrator who kept the tone chatty. What didn't work was the lack of chapter headings and any reference to contents in the Audible files, just 'chapter 1' etc. If I wanted to refer back to certain chapters, for example when my oldest reaches teenage years, I'll have to trawl through or find a paper copy to find the relevant sections.

I was of course most interested in the chapters concerning the ages of my sons presently, and did pick up a lot of useful suggestions as to how to improve our relationships, things I can do with them to encourage their curiosity and independence. But I did also like the sections on those years we have ahead of us, and how each stage of development could be said to be split from the others and why.

I have even sent a copy of this to my husband to listen to, and he's started it, though I have yet to hear his thoughts.

An interesting short introduction into the parenting of young men, though I did feel it was brief and would want to look into these ideas in more detail.

I would recommend the Audible version, it's easy to follow, but the lack of referencing/indexing (publisher - take note!) is a definite drawback.

With thanks to Nudge Books for providing a sample Audible copy.

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