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Summary

A word-of-mouth best seller which has become one of the best loved and most successful books in the parenting field. With around 20 percent new material, Steve Biddulph’s Raising Boys is to be rereleased this month with some startling new research on what helps - and what harms - boys.

In this expanded and updated edition, Steve Biddulph shares and gives practical and honest advice to parents so they can recognise the different stages of boyhood and learn how to raise happy, confident and kind young men.

Boys need to be parented in a different way from girls, with their own very special psychological and physical makeup. Home, society and education have failed boys badly - and these failures lead to unhappy men who cannot fully become happy, responsible, emotionally confident adults.

While it is essential that boys spend more time learning about manhood from their fathers, Biddulph updates his classic to include helpful information for mothers and single mothers with baby boys.

This extended edition explores some important topics:

  • How ADHD may be caused by stress in the first year of life.
  • Whether boys should start school later than girls.
  • How important it is to let boys cry, and how crying helps avoid violence, suicide, and risky behaviour.

Two completely new stages of boyhood we didn’t know about: 

  • The Full on Fours and the Emotional Eights.
  • Help for single mothers raising sons.
  • How to choose a sport that does more good than harm.
  • What we can do about boys and binge drinking.
  • What science can tell us about teenage boys and driving - and how we can keep our sons safe.

Raising Boys offers parents real-life situations, thought-provoking insights, humour and help.

©2018 Steve Biddulph (P)2018 HarperCollins Publishers

Critic reviews

"A mix of Billy Connelly and Dr Spock...Steve Biddulph is a publishing phenomenon." (The Times)

"Steve’s advice is easy to follow - and more importantly, it works." (BBC Family Life Magazine)

"Biddulph...has a built-in feel good factor. Parenting books too often make one fell inadequate, but Biddulph’s left me refreshed and optimistic." (The Express)

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Mixed feelings about this book

There were some elements of this book that i found really useful but the fundamental underlying message frustrated me. My son has two mums and no dad and a lot of this book simply says a boy needs a father to be a man which often made me feel isolated. There were some nughets of insight here but unless you are a family with a present mum and dad then i would possibly steer clear.

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a must read for anyone with boys in their life

a great practical set of tools, advice and stories to help you assist the boys you know to grow into fine balanced productive men.

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Constant supplication to single mums

Some good knowledge - terrified of stating the dangers of single mothers on the development of boys. Understandably he doesn't want to disengage his audience - but this losses focus on what should be the child

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excellent read

the author has a elegant wonderful view and advice! A pleasure to listen to. lots of discussion on genders to which was unexpected but very welcome.

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  • 11-11-20

Useful book about parenting

As a farther of 2 toddlers (4 & 2 years' old), I found the booking useful and easy to listen to. It raised some relevant aspects for my consideration, which I haven't really paid too much thought previously (e.g. developmental differences in boys & girls, teaching kids about sexual life, importance of external mentors / role models). It also made me reflect on my own childhood and run through some old memories. Loved the narration as well.

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a great insight into parenting boys

a very informative and interesting book about parenting boys. i wish I read it a few years ago.

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Very informative!

Great book, very informative giving you thinks to think about that you might not have. With 2 boys under the age of 10 I’m glad I read this now!

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Really good book

Really liked it. Very relevant. Made me think a lot of how to rise my little boy better to be an amazing man one day :)

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Supportive and Eye Opening

I really loved this book, and how it was read. It gives ideas and inspiration without judgement or shaming and supporting statistics to affirm what's being said. It was really interesting and as a mum of 2 boys from a family of 3 sisters it's helped me gain a better understanding. Would really recommend to anyone though, as it challenges the world we live in and helps identify how we all can make it a better place for future generations.

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Doesn’t matter whether you have a newborn or a teenager this book is for you

I’ve had this book a long time, but only “read it” when it bought the audiobook. It mixes a good dose of science/psychology and stories from the natural world to illustrate points. Doesn’t lecture and the whole approach is not lecturing, but giving practical guidance on how you can be a great parent. Especially good for dads. Things from your own childhood slot into place and you realise why you behave in a certain way. As sports have such an impact on our lives one way or another the dad who coaches the football or rugby team has as big an impact on your son’s growth as you do, so select your sport and coach carefully. Also as boys get beyond 14 your male friends become as much mentors and guides to help them grow up. Might be worth thinking about who you hang out with as those are the people that will be influencing your son the most, especially your relationship with alcohol.

Good book/audiobook, highly recommend

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A quick worthy listen

In general I enjoyed listening to this book. Even though sometimes it reads like a collection of truisms, it has its moments. Sometimes it is really biased towards one opinion and does not leave you with enough food for thought to make your own. Many parts of the book are very weak on the evidence and do not present any alternative arguments to the author's opinion, so your critical thinking will hurt a little when reading to this book. However, I think it is meant to be like this, so can't really complain.
Having said all that, some things were really useful, so I can't really say the book was bad. A last paragraph or two at the end was really great, and redeemed a lot of drawbacks of this book.
The narrator's performance is near perfect, well paced, excellent diction and intonation. Just for this, this book get's an extra point.