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Okay Fine Whatever

The Year I Went from Being Afraid of Everything to Only Being Afraid of Most Things
Narrated by: Courtenay Hameister
Length: 7 hrs and 42 mins
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Summary

The "hilarious and poignant" story of one chronically anxious woman's year-long quest to become braver by seeking out the kinds of experiences she's spent her life avoiding. (Cheryl Strayed)

For most of her life (and even during her years as the host of a popular radio show), Courtenay Hameister lived in a state of near-constant dread and anxiety. She fretted about everything. Her age. Her size. Her romantic prospects. How likely it was that she would get hit by a bus on the way home. 

Until a couple years ago, when, in her mid-forties, she decided to fight back against her debilitating anxieties by spending a year doing little things that scared her - things that the average person might consider doing for a half second before deciding: "nope." 

Things like: attending a fellatio class. She did that. She also spent an afternoon in a sensory deprivation tank, got (legally) high in the middle of a workday, had a session with a professional cuddler, braved 28 first dates, and (perhaps scariest of all) actually met someone who might possibly appreciate her for who she is.

Refreshing, relatable, and pee-your-pants funny, Okay Fine Whatever is Courtenay's hold-nothing-back account of her adventures on the front lines of Mere Human Woman vs. Fear, reminding us that even the tiniest amount of bravery is still bravery, and that no matter who you are, it's possible to fight complacency and become bold, or at least bold-ish, a little at a time.

©2018 Courtenay Hameister (P)2018 Hachette Audio

Critic reviews

"Inspiring from the first pages. Courtenay fearlessly lets us into her head; she didn't clean up in there before company came over, and I am so glad. Her risk-taking adventures in career and love are more stirring to me than any daring physical feat." (Jen Kirkman, New York Times best-selling author of I Can Barely Take Care of Myself)

"Courtenay Hameister is one of the funniest, sharpest writers I know. Her work is confessional, witty, and laugh-out-loud hilarious. I love her."(Chelsea Cain, New York Times best-selling author of Heartsick and One Kick)

"The author not only chronicles how she faced her inner demons and won; she also offers a reminder that doing even the smallest thing to conquer fear 'is enough to change a lot.' A fresh, intelligent memoir." (Kirkus Reviews)

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Hilarious, relatable and oh so entertaining!

Loved it! Listening to Courtenay's adventures and inner thoughts made light of own anxiety and discomfort towards the most mundane (or extreme) of social situations. Hilarious, relatable and oh so entertaining!

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  • Greg
  • 05-04-19

Ugh...

If I wanted to hear the intimate details of someone else's sex life, I'd buy a magazine at the local gas station. Was tricked into thinking that I'd get a more enlightened experience of dealing with GAD. Waste of a good sense of humor. Pass.

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  • Aaron W.C.
  • 03-03-19

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I feel that this is an amazing book for people with and are overcoming an anxiety disorder. The author's story is inspiring.

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  • S. Marlatt
  • 04-11-18

Fun and Growth-inducing

Book Rec: a funny memoir featuring generalized anxiety disorder, body image issues, late blooming sexuality, food issues, and plenty of deep and light-hearted real-life stories of personal growth. I identified with much of this book and I'm glad I listened to it.

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  • Renee
  • 21-08-18

Brutal, subtle honesty- a real women’s memoir

Loved her honest story telling. Such and rawness mixed with subtle sarcasm made this book a great listen. At first listen I was afraid it was going to be a generic 30-something fling book but after only a couple chapters- the author drew me in. Suddenly I couldn’t wait to hear what her next adventure would be. Great book Courtenay, you’re def a badass lady.. don’t forget that. Wish to embody your courage and thrive!

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  • Angela
  • 19-08-19

It’s funny because it’s true

Courtenay has a way of describing what it’s like to live with anxiety in such a funny way! Her dry sense of humor and adept sarcasm are everything! If you suffer with GAD or have someone in your life who does, this book is for you.

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  • April Jones
  • 25-01-19

Candid, relatable, but unique

I loved the honesty and felt I could relate on many levels although we are in completely different careers and our lives look very different. I could feel myself living vicariously through her stories and wondering what it would have been like to be in such situations. It made me evaluate what I am afraid of, and pushed me to consider what I could learn or accomplish by saying Ok, fine, whatever to. Well told.

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  • Jessica E Wilson
  • 24-12-18

Wonderful Narrative for Anyone with Anxiety

The book was so funny any relatable! As a person with social anxiety and panic disorder, so many of the situations felt like they were possible scenarios from my life!

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  • Scrappy67
  • 02-11-18

Fun book!

I enjoyed the humor a bluntness of the author. She really put it all out there. I'm sure many women will relate to this author's point of view.

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  • Chrysta
  • 17-10-18

Worth it!

Made me laugh and think. Not the typical book I would go for but don't regret it even a little bit. Refreshing and human! 10/10 would read again.

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  • lovit or leavit
  • 05-10-18

So entertaining!

This book was a generational shift for me but one I really enjoyed! Excellent writing!