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"Utterly fascinating....A classic in the field." ( San Francisco Chronicle

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Deborah Tannen's number-one best seller revolutionized the way men and women talk - and listen - to each other - at home, at work, and wherever the communication gap between the sexes can lead to troublesome misunderstandings. The problem dates back to childhood, when boys and girls learn to use language in distinctly different ways; years later, their adult efforts to talk often place them at cross purposes - even when both are sincerely trying to communicate. Dr. Tannen illustrates how the best intentions can go painfully awry between spouses, family members, co-workers and friends. With You Just Don't Understand, you'll recognize yourself and your own efforts to be understood - and gain valuable insight to help you communicate better than ever before.

©2013 Deborah Tannen (P)2013 Simon & Schuster Audio

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  • Douglas
  • 18-02-14

Deborah Tannen...

was one of the first voices (appropriately, that of a woman) to speak up against the feminist insisience that there are no innate differences between men and women. (Neuroscience has since proven Tannen and the early van guard correct in their assessment, as men's and women's brain themselves are, indeed, different.) Tannen is a linguist and has accented on how men and women communicate, and I have taught her for nearly two decades in my English classes. It is important to note that, though there clearly are differences in how men and women think, emote, and talk, there is much overlap, some exceptions to the rule (I always say I am a heterosexual man who thinks like a woman), and that seeing the reality of difference in no way implies a surperiority or "better way" on either side. I read this on the heels of Gurian's Boys and Girls Learn Differently, which I also highly recommend.

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  • Terese
  • 23-12-16

Long on explanation,short on application.

Good research. Prefer more application of insights. Author took too long to make a point.

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  • Marty Denholm
  • 24-04-18

I don't give 5 stars lightly

this is one of those books that is life changing. it explained me in so many ways and also interactions I have had with others. Tthank you Jessica for sending it my way.

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  • Trisha Dotts
  • 06-02-18

so helpful I everyday interactions.

This book is a helpful for everyone. With a communications degree, I am a source poodle ask for ideas. I always recommend this book for those who want to appreciate communcation diversity of all kinds. Not JUST gender differences.

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  • Savannah
  • 14-01-18

This book is a gold mine

Barbara Rosenblat did the best reading of all the maybe 25ish books I’ve listened to. That was almost a reason in itself to listen to this book.

The content is a gold mine.

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  • Noah Hager
  • 01-08-16

Explained a lot about my 5 yr old son

I was surprised by how much this book helped me gain insight into the communication style and habits of my 5 yr old son. The descriptions of conversations from the authors research seemed as if my son was one of the subjects. It really helped me gain some understanding of his communication with other girls and boys and is (his parents).

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  • Hello 101
  • 24-04-16

Insightful

Would you listen to You Just Don't Understand again? Why?

Yes because it helps me understand how men and women communicate differently.

What did you like best about this story?

How I can apply it to my life to make positive changes.

Have you listened to any of Deborah Tannen’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

No.

What insight do you think you’ll apply from You Just Don't Understand?

I use it in my day to day conversations with others.