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A revised and updated edition (with more than 70% new material) of the classic book about innate differences between boys and girls and how best to parent and teach girls and boys successfully, with new chapters on sexual orientation and on transgender and intersex kids.

Back in 2005, the first edition of Why Gender Matters broke ground in illuminating the differences between boys and girls—how they perceive the world differently, how they learn differently, how they process emotions and take risks differently. Dr. Sax argued that in failing to recognize these hardwired differences between boys and girls, we ended up reinforcing damaging stereotypes, medicalizing misbehavior, and failing to help kids to reach their full potential. In the intervening decade, the world has changed, with an avalanche of new research which supports, deepens, and expands Dr. Sax's work. This revised and updated edition includes new findings about how boys and girls interact differently with social media and video games; a new discussion of research on gender non-conforming, LGB, and transgender kids, new findings about how girls and boys see differently, hear differently, and even smell differently; and new material about the medicalization of misbehavior.

©2017 Blackstone Audio, Inc. (P)2017 Leonard Sax

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absolutely must listen

Actually someone with some expierience making some sense. Good thing for parents specially with this absurd things you hear from TV and idiots around.

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compassionate and fascinating

Excellent dive into intricacies of gender differences and some very traditional advice, but fundamentally compassionate.

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Very biased anti trans message

The first half of this book was very interesting and informative. Then Sax began promoting the work of J. M. Bailey, Ray Blanchard and Kenneth Zucker. These three academics have a long and dubious history in connection with anti trans work and it wasn't long before i started hearing the familiar biased arguments against trans people. I stuck with it but the second half of the book is hugely biased and unbalanced which makes me doubt the rest. Read with caution.

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Interesting and factual look at gender differences

I really enjoyed this book and having both a son and daughter think I will slightly change a few of my parenting methods to suit their differences. Whether it was about computer games, studying or being a lady or gentleman I found it to all be relevant for today's challenges for children.

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Excellent Listen

A concise, yet informative listen on a potentially divisive subject. A refreshingly balanced view of the topic, which left me eager for further study and reflection. Highly recommend.

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Something for all to consider

Leonard explains everything with clarity and backs up each lesson with evidence or real world examples. We are complex beings!

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  • Justin Kershner
  • 08-12-20

Beware of Confirmation Bias

Starts with simple scientific differences between the sexes and then uses that to leap to how the very recent trends of not following gender stereotypes is causing the downfall of children. It seems like another older person who believes they are from the good old days and the new ways are to blame. I’m pretty sure cultures all over the world have been teaching manners and etiquette and honor and yet women have still been basically slaves. Parents are just not teaching kids to be nice to anyone, it’s not because Beth doesn’t use the words lady and gentlemen. I agree with his science and so think people should give a listen to this, I do recommend it. The boiled down idea that boys and girls are naturally different so plan your lessons accordingly is useful. I think he’s created a false dichotomy: either teach your kids that boys are like this and girls are like this or they will all be blowing each other in parking lots (I’m pretty sure men have been raping girls since the creation of the “gentleman”).
Do listen though, just be aware of his leaps and get other sides as well. The ideas are useful!

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  • Sportys
  • 13-12-19

A must read in today’s confused society

I’ve watched a good friend transition from male to female and seen the pros and cons. I’ve listened to the children around me voice confusion on the differences between boys and girls. I’ve read the comments on social media about trans activism and the impact on our children with increasing dismay. This book walked me through the research and evidence and helped me understand what’s going on and how to deal with it. And also that we must use the very clear science to stop so many incorrect beliefs, like gender is a social construct, from destroying our society. Well structured, well written and well read. Thank you.

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  • stacy lindsey
  • 04-10-17

Great and unexpected

I was really surprised by some of the things explained in this book. Some parts were joyously enlightening, while other parts made me uncomfortable because they challenged what I though I knew. I would highly recommend this book to any human, not just parents and teachers.

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  • Davon Smith
  • 02-07-21

Terrible Read

Based on stereotypes of the sexes. It loosely talks about situations that boys and girls get themselves in and how to prevent them. The parents in the scenario are completely oblivious and seem to take little interest in the trouble kid. Don't waste your time unless you want to reinforce your idea the the sexes are different and that all stereotypes between boys and girls are true

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  • Marissa Cohen
  • 01-07-21

A free download because of its irrational theories

A classic free download right wing propaganda piece. Fringe beliefs and irrational thoughts run rampant in this obscenely poor attempt to discuss gender.

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  • Armando
  • 03-06-21

the book is ok

some of the point that he makes are very valid yet some of this point are left leaning and not neutral and he need to do more research on some of the topics. he also focus on very specific examples yet he disregards the majority of people. just because some people have 6 fingers does not mean every one has 6 fingers. also he blames alot of the sociological problems on video games, clearly shows that he does not know what he is talking about, the attack on male behavior is one of the reason why man would rather play video games we are not told we are toxic by any one will we play video games.

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  • Sunshine Reader
  • 30-04-21

Science Not Ideology

Prescient discussion on gender, a worthy listen for those of us perplexed by gender differences and the politicization of gender.

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  • Fisselified
  • 18-03-21

A Grounded Argument of Sex Differences

Excellent book, the performance was great and the author masterfully wove together anecdotes with data to create an interesting and informative story. I will definitely be recommending this book!

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  • Genaro Martinez
  • 26-11-20

Amazing

It baffles me how often we ask questions but don’t pursue the line of evidence if it doesn’t lead us to our preconceived notions or assumptions. This book has challenged me and changed much of what I thought was true. Bravo Dr. Sax.

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  • Still learning
  • 16-09-21

a must read ! WOW

This book is amazing and should really be a must read for every parent, but anyone really! I would even say that it should be a mandatory read for every teacher !