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For the Love of Men

A New Vision for Mindful Masculinity
By: Liz Plank
Narrated by: Liz Plank
Length: 10 hrs and 35 mins
Categories: Non-fiction, Gender Issues

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Summary

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A nonfiction investigation into masculinity, For the Love of Men provides actionable steps for how to be a man in the modern world, while also exploring how being a man in the world has evolved.

In 2019, traditional masculinity is both rewarded and sanctioned. Men grow up being told that boys don’t cry and dolls are for girls (a newer phenomenon than you might realize - gendered toys came back in vogue as recently as the '80s). They learn they must hide their feelings and anxieties, that their masculinity must constantly be proven. They must be the breadwinners, they must be the romantic pursuers. This hasn’t been good for the culture at large: 99 percent of school shooters are male; men in fraternities are 300 percent (!) more likely to commit rape; a woman serving in uniform has a higher likelihood of being assaulted by a fellow soldier than to be killed by enemy fire. 

In For the Love of Men, Liz offers a smart, insightful, and deeply researched guide for what we're all going to do about toxic masculinity. For both women looking to guide the men in their lives and men who want to do better and just don’t know how, For the Love of Men will lead the conversation on men's issues in a society where so much is changing, but gender roles have remained strangely stagnant. 

What are we going to do about men? Liz Plank has the answer. And it has the possibility to change the world for men and women alike.

©2019 Liz Plank (P)2019 Macmillan Audio

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  • tara
  • 26-10-19

This book is a game changer

Just finished listening and already want to start it again. Critical information from cover to cover, this book could truly transform the world we live in, in a very fundamental way. Liz Plank tackles the sensitive subject of toxic masculinity with grace, understanding, and fluidity, in a way that all genders will be able to absorb. Historic in all regards. Will be holiday gifts for EVERYONE in my family this year, is bound to be a bestseller, and hopefully will be mandatory reading in gender studies curriculum for future generations. Chalice and The Blade level important. BEST.

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  • David Tanner
  • 28-09-19

Important and thought provoking

The pros: this is part of a very important and timely discussion about what it means to be a man in contemporary history. Plank’s work is compassionate and sympathetic towards the male gender, and her position that toxic masculinity hurts men as much as anyone else feels very different from earlier feminist positions that seemed to make men the problem or even the enemy. She provides compelling evidence and stories to illustrate her points, and the narrative moves right along without dragging.
The cons: she’s not a professional reader. She mumbles and softens consonants (“masculinity” frequently comes out “makulinniny” Granted, it’s a difficult word to pronounce) and worse, her obvious inflections tell you what you’re supposed to think, rather than letting her arguments stand on their own merit. She grossly misrepresented or possibly misunderstood the work of Jordan Peterson, ascribing positions to him that, after listening to many hours of his podcasts and interviews, I just don’t think he holds. That made me suspect the accuracy of how she represented other studies that she quotes.
Overall, I found this book well worth my time. It’s not a perfect book, but it’s an important one. It did make me think in new ways, and it really made me hopeful that through genuine compassion, we as a society can have an open conversation about healthy masculinity.

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  • Da berrs
  • 10-11-19

Great introduction to society’s role at devaluing men

A great look into men’s changing roles in Society, and the lack of support. Lots of historical, and statistical context showing the negative masculine stereotype that most men and women grow up believing. I don’t like the term “toxic masculinity”, but there is truth to this concept that we all have been sold. Liz plank does a good job at delivering great info, maybe at times sounds a little condescending. While she provides great concern for the well being of men, she often reminds the listener of women’s fate regarding “toxic masculinity”, as if we haven’t heard about this same lecture since the 1960s. However In a book written for men, by a women, I feel she rarely misses her audience. If the idea was to point out the mindset of “toxic male identity”, all while offering numerous real solutions, she delivers. In summary this was eye opening, and mostly just reinforced the idea that that men and women need to support men in healthy ways, like the way we support women. Thanks for this book!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 19-10-19

Wowzah

one of the best books of the decade. It vocalizes so many things in a way that's easily digestible for so many men in a nonthreatening way. A beautiful constructed book. One that should be required reading by all.

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  • Kate
  • 08-10-19

PLEASE READ THIS

Y’all. This is it. This is everything I need as a person who longs to exist in a world where everybody gets to be who they are. This is a must read for everyone. Liz Plank - I tip my hat my gal 💛 thank you for writing this book.

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  • Health Lover
  • 01-10-19

Evolving definitions of masculinity

It's always important to see the way notions of gender are constructed. Our notions evolve, and our times require us to revisit the dominant notions of what men want, need and are expected. There's a rapid re-envisioning happening across our social constructs, and our social contracts. These also have gender dynamics and defined expectations of what social functions men fulfill in the 21st century. Plank breaks down these notions with wit, humility, and grace as she takes the readers on a whirlwind tour of what she has learned about a new emerging form of mindful masculinity.

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  • Chris ONeil
  • 11-09-19

Every man needs this class

Liz Plank dissects the toxicity of traditional masculinity ideology and how it exists in every corner of our culture and lays out a vision of awareness and action. We teach young men dominance over empathy and excuse inappropriate behavior with "boys will be boys". Each and every one of us should read this book and do something to make this world a more welcoming and safe society for all. Thank you Liz, your perspective is always a revelation.

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  • Brenton Poke
  • 20-01-20

I understand other men better now than before

It certainly was nice to finally hear a woman say so many of the things that made me feel out of place when around other men. I often felt like the kind of man she describes as not in keeping with "real manhood", and suffered a lot for it socially. Now I understand OTHER men better, and why it was always so painful trying to fit in. So even though I can never catch your eye on twitter, thank you, Liz.

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  • 04-01-20

Illogical and problematic

I appreciate Liz’s attempt to address an important topic, but I think that she does not have a firm understanding of this issue and it shows in her book. She makes many fallacious arguments, is logically inconsistent, and her central thesis seems to change as you get further into the book, as if she was forming her opinion as she was writing. She continually cherry picks suspect data sources that fit her narrative better than they fit reality and when she doesn’t have data she presents personal anecdotes. It is sloppy work at best, but more likely intentionally dishonest in order to push an agenda. If you read the book at least take a moment to critically consider what you’re reading.

Other than that the writing is ok, but not spectacular. I did appreciate that the audiobook was self narrated, even if she isn’t professional. Overall it was an ok book that certainly was stimulating, albeit probably not in the way Ms. Plank intended. I would rate it 3/5.

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  • Brooks Rainey Pearson
  • 17-12-19

You should read this

You should read this, and then tell the people you know to also read it.