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What My Mother and I Don't Talk About

Fifteen Writers Break the Silence
Length: 7 hrs and 14 mins
Categories: Non-fiction, Gender Issues
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Summary

Fifteen brilliant writers explore how what we don’t talk about with our mothers affects us, for better or for worse. 

In the best-selling tradition of The Bitch in the House, What My Mother and I Don’t Talk About is an anthology about the powerful and sometimes painful things we can’t discuss with the person who is supposed to know us and love us the most.

In the early 2000s, as an undergraduate, Michele Filgate started writing an essay about being abused by her stepfather. It took many years for her to realize what she was actually trying to write about: the fracture this caused in her relationship with her mother. When her essay, “What My Mother and I Don’t Talk About”, was published by Longreads in October of 2017, it went on to become one of the most popular Longreads exclusives of the year and was shared on social media by Anne Lamott, Rebecca Solnit, Lidia Yuknavitch, and many other writers, some of whom had their own individual codes of silence to be broken.

The outpouring of responses gave Filgate an idea, and the resulting anthology offers an intimate, therapeutic, and universally resonant look at our relationships with our mothers. As Filgate poignantly writes, “Our mothers are our first homes, and that’s why we’re always trying to return to them."

Contributors:

  • Cathi Hanauer
  • Melissa Febos
  • Alexander Chee
  • Dylan Landis
  • Bernice L. McFadden
  • Julianna Baggott
  • Lynn Steger Strong
  • Kiese Laymon
  • Carmen Maria Machado
  • André Aciman
  • Sari Botton
  • Nayomi Munaweera
  • Brandon Taylor
  • Leslie Jamison 

The complete list of narrators includes: Michele Filgate, Fajer Al-Kaisi, Roger Casey, Janina Edwards, Emily Ellet, Cynthia Farrell, Soneela Nankani, David Sadzin, Keong Sim, and Candace Thaxton.

©2019 Michele Filgate (P)2019 Simon & Schuster

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exceptional and brave

I listened to this on Audible over the past month. The reading was excellent. These are brave, personal essays, touching on various issues, most of which we don't talk about as a society. It takes courage to open up one's heart and so publicly talk about what goes on behind closed doors. The essays show how complex, delicate, and fragile are relationships between children and parents. The essays also made me think about all what I didn't have time to talk with my mother about, who passed away six months ago.

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  • Miss G
  • 18-09-19

One sided stories

Some of the stories were valid. Some were a bit windy and only from one point of view

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  • Rachel F Bale
  • 30-08-19

Must read- stunning writing.

This book was captivating, heartfelt and moving. I found myself relating to characters, crying with them, feeling what they felt. I was sucked in completely, and have rewritten my own thoughts on my mother. This book is great for anyone who doesn’t understand their maternal relationship, or needs a new way to define it. Thank you- to all 15 writers. You have helped me understand the notion of maternal love.