If you're in a relationship with a narcissist, you know all too well the difficulties that you already face. Communication is difficult and strained. You are criticized a lot for no reason. Your self-esteem may be suffering because your mate isn't able to meet all of your needs in the relationship consistently. With an epidemic of one in four people having narcissism, odds are pretty good that if you went to find another partner, he or she would have narcissistic traits, too.
So, you work toward the relationship with the narcissist, ever growing and changing like the rest of us. But there is something more beneath the surface of your narcissist. He tells you that he loves you, and he might jump through hoops to show you this. However, other girls are constantly turning his head. He practically gets whiplash trying to climb over you to look at them.
Your narcissist might have a great addiction to women. He might have a porn collection the size of Alaska. He might talk to other girls or fantasize over other girls while he is sleeping at night. He may be ducking out and texting other girls. Or it may be just that he has stopped or slowed his frequency of sex with you. He used to be a stallion in the bedroom, but lately he falls asleep snuggling with the television remote. You always hear about women "having a headache" when it comes to sex. But it seems as if your man is always the one turning you down for it.
You want to feel needed and loved, but you don't know why he is treating you this way. He used to be romantic, maybe even sending flowers and staying up talking to you on the phone all night long. Now you can't seem to drag his attention away from other things. Is it something you did? Is it something you said? Are you not sexy, funny, witty, or complicated enough to keep his interest?
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I had to cringe at times. While some of this applies to my situation, imagining my MIL as the culprit is nothing new. She has said, "My son should be a pornstar." "Are you sure you want to do that (marry me)?" I knew she deserved my hate. And absolutely true about not being able to bring any of this up. Everytime I do he threatens to end the relationship. I think he's bluffing. But no doubt he believes if he cheats, he was driven to do it by me. I will be blamed. So the book is very short, but it's on point. I did laugh at times at the sickening irony. This has been a Toad's wild ride for me ✌