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Hold on to Your Kids

Why Parents Must Matter More Than Peers – and How to Raise Confident, Connected Children in a Digital World

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Hold on to Your Kids

By: Gabor Maté, Gordon Neufeld
Narrated by: Daniel Maté
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Summary

Are your children more influenced by their friends than by you?

Are they struggling with peer pressure, screen time, or staying connected in a digital world?

In Hold On To Your Kids, bestselling author and renowned physician Gabor Maté and child development expert Dr Gordon Neufeld reveal why modern parenting feels harder than ever - and what you can do about it.

WINNER OF THE US NATIONAL PARENTING PUBLICATIONS GOLD AWARD
THE INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER

Today’s children are increasingly looking to their peers, rather than their parents, for direction in their values, identity, and codes of behaviour. But this ‘peer orientation’ can interfere with healthy development, leading to anxiety, disconnection, and behavioural challenges.

In this groundbreaking parenting book, acclaimed physician and bestselling author Gabor Maté joins forces with clinical psychologist and child development expert Dr Gordon Neufeld to explain the cause of this breakdown of parental influence and offer practical advice on how to rebuild a strong, healthy relationship with your child.

Hold On To Your Kids will show you how to:

  • Strengthen your bond and reconnect with your child
  • Help children resist peer pressure and social media influence
  • Build trust, authority and security at home
  • Support your child’s emotional wellbeing and mental health
  • Raise confident, resilient children


This updated edition also includes a new chapter on post-pandemic parenting and youth mental health.

Blending child psychology and real-world advice, this book will empower parents to help their children thrive in the digital era and become a true source of contact, security, and warmth for their kids.

‘A visionary book…one to be taken very seriously’ Peter A. Levine Ph.D., bestselling author of Guiding Your Child Through Trauma

‘Bold, wise and deeply moral. [Maté] is a healer to be cherished’ Naomi Klein, bestselling The Shock Doctrine

‘Maté’s book will make you examine your behaviour in a new light’ Guardian

‘Brings us genuinely new ideas and fresh perspectives on parenting’ Dr Mary Pipher, psychologist and bestselling author of Reviving Ophelia

Full of easy tips for avoiding calamity’ The Times

Has the power to change, if not save, the lives of our children.” US National Post
© Gabor Maté 2004 (P) Penguin Audio 2021

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Gabor Maté’s connections—between the intensely personal and the global, the spiritual and the medical, the psychological and the political—are bold, wise and deeply moral. He is a healer to be cherished
A visionary book that goes beyond the usual explanations to illuminate a crisis of unrecognized proportions. The authors show us how we are losing contact with our children and how this loss undermines their development and threatens the very fabric of society. Most importantly they offer, through concrete examples and clear suggestions, practical help for parents to fulfil their instinctual roles. A brilliant and well written book – one to be taken very seriously
Hold on to Your Kids brings us genuinely new ideas and fresh perspectives on parenting. The authors integrate psychology, anthropology, neurology and their own personal and professional experiences…. a worthy book with practical implications
Maté’s book will make you examine your behaviour in a new light
Hold On to Your Kids is full of easy tips for avoiding calamity
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This book is so eye opening, highly recommended. It really helps us focus our efforts and limited time onto what actually matters to children's wellbeing (and to the whole family's wellbeing!)

I have no children of my own, and yet this book shines truth onto so many more things that I think are incredibly helpful to everyone, which surprised me, and which I'm very happy about.

Thank you.

Helpful to everyone, with or with no children.

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Highly recommended for parents of children of all age. An eye opening book about the peer cult and Influence on our children.

An eye opening book!

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This book gave me the confidence that I am doing the right thing regarding the time I spend with my daughter, all the patience, love, and play we share.

A must read for parents

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The narration is excellent, the chapters cover all matters.And it highlights thing's that need to be prepared for and of having some attention to what's going on. The book not only addresses and explains important thing's to consider as a parent but helpful in creating strong bonds that are so important.... I'll continue to listen to this through out my sons pre teen and teen year's. whether you like it or not you're child needs you to understand this.

it's so easy to forget you're childhood

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Wish anyone involved with raising children read this book first! It is a must read for anyone family member, teacher!

Amazing book!

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