What does it mean to interact in a secure way from a centered, wise space? According to Dr. Ann Kelley, co-author of Secure Relating and co-host of the popular podcast Therapist Uncensored, we all move in and out of secure and insecure patterns in our relationships. Ann’s modern take on attachment theory moves us from rigid categories into a more dynamic, evolving, and systemic look at our relational patterns.

Listen and learn:

• What is the Modern Attachment Regulation Spectrum
• How we borrow each other’s nervous systems
• Why sometimes it’s better to speak in sentences, not essays
• The difference between leaning “red,” “blue,” or “green” when it comes to relating with others
• How our nervous system is shaped by our environment, history, and context

Join us in this episode to discover the key to secure relating: identifying your nervous system’s protective emotional reactions so you can find your way back to connection.

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We can put our energy where it matters most and savor the good along the way.

In this real play, Dr. Diana Hill is joined by workshop participant Jennie Nash live from a Blue Spirit Costa Rica retreat. Together, they navigate Jennie Nash’s feelings of being trapped by her own success amidst celebrating significant personal milestones and leading a successful business that trains and certifies book coaches. Through exploring wise effort, values, and the balance of effort in life and work, Jennie discovers the subtle nuances between meaningful engagement and burnout while unearthing the importance of self-commitment, authenticity, and valuing herself.

You will learn:

• The intricacies of feeling ‘trapped’ by one’s own success and how to explore these feelings through wise effort.
• How to identify and align with your core values, even amidst burnout, and use these values to guide your life and work.
• Strategies for balancing high-effort, value-aligned work with necessary self-care and personal development to prevent burnout.

Listen to this episode for a compelling narrative on finding equilibrium within success and reaffirming one’s values through self-reflection.

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We can put our energy where it matters most and...

According to Dr. Emily Weinstein, head of Harvard’s Center for Digital Thriving, we are going about it wrong regarding kids and screens. We must stop demonizing technology and take a more critical and optimistic look at its benefits and harms. In this episode, you’ll explore:

• Misconceptions parents and caregivers have about teens and screens
• Why the teenage brain is especially vulnerable to the harmful aspects of social media
• How to start conversations with your kids about values and tech
• How to develop healthier tech habits
• Why let your kid critique you for once!

We need both critical, thoughtful attention to the harms and benefits of technology and be optimistic that there are evidence-based strategies that can help us thrive in a digital world.

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We can put our energy where it matters most and savor the good along the way.