What if the best marriage advice you’ve ever heard is actually making your relationship worse?

“Never go to bed angry.”
“Happy wife, happy life.”
“Don’t sweat the small stuff.”

We’ve all heard them. We’ve all probably said them. But what if these well-meaning clichés are quietly fueling resentment, miscommunication, and emotional distance?

In this episode, we sit down with certified relationship and intimacy coach Monica Tanner, host of Secrets of Happily Ever After and author of Bad Marriage Advice, to unpack the myths couples have been handed for generations — and what to do instead.

Monica shares why going to bed angry might actually be healthy, how tiny annoyances turn into full-blown resentment over time, and the simple 3-step formula to finally ask for what you need (without sounding like a nag).

We also dive into:

• Why resentment is the silent relationship killer
• The HALTS rule for arguments (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired, Stressed)
• How to stay connected during the chaos of kids and life
• Why date nights are non-negotiable (and how to make them realistic)
• The real reason couples struggle with intimacy
• How social media, AI, and phones are changing how we communicate
• Why “if they loved me, they would just know” is one of the most damaging beliefs
• Situationships, modern relationships, and whether marriage still matters
• Sleeping in separate bedrooms — red flag or genius idea?

Plus we play a quick round of Love Myth Busters where Monica calls out total BS on some of the most common relationship beliefs.

If you’ve ever felt annoyed at your partner for something “small,” struggled to explain what you actually need, or wondered why long-term relationships start to feel like logistics instead of connection — this episode will change the way you see it.

You’ll walk away with practical tools you can use tonight.

Website:
Bad Marriage Advice Website

Book on Amazon:
Bad Marriage Advice on Amazon

Monica’s Podcast:
Secrets of Happily Ever After Podcast

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Welcome to What She Said – Before You Buy (Mother’s DayEdition) 💐

This week we’ve refreshed our Pick of the Week intoBefore You Buy — honest, heartfelt recommendations we genuinely love (but onlywhen they’re worth sharing).

With Mother’s Day just around the corner, we’re sharing twomeaningful gift ideas that go beyond flowers and chocolates:

🧢 Carrie’s Beanies 4 Brain Cancer
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☕ Still Social
Give the gift of connection! Still Social is a vibrant community for women over40 (and open to others too) centred on friendship, meet-ups, events, travel andreal connection — online and in person. Memberships start at around the priceof a coffee.
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These are gifts mums might never buy for themselves — butones that truly matter. ❤️

We also tease an upcoming series where Emma road-testsproducts for the aging woman — inside and out (you’ll have to listen tounderstand that one 😏).

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This week we sit down with Alex Fennell — a post-production producer with 15+ years behind some of the biggest shows on Australian screens, including Married at First Sight Australia, MasterChef Australia, The Project, Neighbours, Home and Away, Sunrise and Dancing with the Stars Australia.If you’ve ever screamed at your TV during MAFS and thought “this has to be set up”… she knows exactly why.Alex is now known for her viral TikToks breaking down what we really watched on MAFS, co-hosts That's Showbiz Baby with Jordie Lucas, and writes the Substack Confessions of an Ex-MAFS Producer.And in this episode… she does NOT hold back.________________________________________In this episode, Alex reveals:• The worst thing that can happen when you meet a global superstar at The Project… and how she ended up in accidental “beef” with Lizzo • What post-producers actually do with 10+ hours of footage from a single dinner party • How producers “stir” drama without scripting anything • Why MAFS contestants often have cluster B personality traits • The truth about burnout, 60-hour weeks, and the toxic side of TV production • Why normal people don’t go on MAFS anymore • How casting really works (and why influencers keep getting through) • What makes a “good episode” behind the scenes • The competitiveness inside production offices you never see • Why she walked away from TV at the peak of her career • Her new life as a tarot reader and spiritual counsellor ________________________________________If you love:• Behind-the-scenes TV secrets • Reality TV psychology • Unfiltered industry tea • MAFS, MasterChef and Aussie TV gossip

This is the episode you don’t want to miss.🎙️ Follow Alex: 📍 Confessions of a MAFS Producer (Substack)👉 https://substack.com/@alexandriafunnell 🎙️ That’s Showbiz Baby! (Podcast)You can listen on all major podcast apps — for example:👉 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5viGC71iNHT4cF1zUMaBlM 👉 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/thats-showbiz-baby/id1739718212👍 Like, subscribe, and send this to the friend who still thinks reality TV is real.

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