Episodes

  • How to Set Goals as a Couple Without Starting a Fight

    How to Set Goals as a Couple Without Starting a Fight
    Jan 8 2026
    If you’re walking into 2026 feeling like you and your spouse are co-existing instead of co-creating, this episode gives you a simple plan to change that—without overwhelm, pressure, or fake “New Year’s resolutions.” In this Weaponized Marriage podcast episode, Kendra and Ryan share the exact couples goal-setting framework they use to build a stronger marriage, deeper intimacy, and a more connected family life—even with kids, busy schedules, and real-life stress. You’ll learn how to do a marriage reset by reflecting on last year, vision-casting what you actually want next year, and reverse-engineering it into weekly rhythms that stick. They also talk about why most couples don’t plan together, how independence and money decisions can quietly create distance, and how to create more emotional and physical connection without everything turning into a task. If you want a clear marriage planning system, better communication, stronger intimacy, and a shared vision for your relationship, this episode will help you start 2026 on the same team. What You’ll Learn / Highlights The 3-step couple planning process: Reflection → Vision Casting → Reverse Engineering How to set marriage goals that feel exciting (not stressful) Why couples fail with “resolutions” and what to do instead (behaviors + rhythms) Practical examples: vacations, family routines, parenting rhythms, intimacy goals How to talk about money as a team (without control, secrecy, or resentment) How to build emotional intimacy when life is busy and task-heavy Why you should write goals down + review them quarterly (and mid-year) Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/ Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    33 mins
  • Year-End Marriage Reset: 3 Questions to Rebuild Intimacy

    Year-End Marriage Reset: 3 Questions to Rebuild Intimacy
    Dec 12 2025
    Is your marriage stuck in survival mode as you crawl toward the end of the year? In this episode of the Weaponized Marriage Podcast, we walk through our own year-end marriage reset and the 3 questions that helped us rebuild emotional safety and intimacy. This is for married entrepreneurs and busy parents who feel like they’re always bracing for impact and want to feel connected again. What You’ll Learn / Highlights The simple 3-question framework: what to let go of, what to rework, and what to invest in in your marriage for 2026. How Kendra went from walking on eggshells to feeling safer sharing how she really feels. Why Ryan’s instinct to “do more” was actually hurting intimacy—and what changed when he focused on equanimity and emotional safety instead. The real difference between coexisting and co-creating your marriage (and how to tell which one you’re in). A practical end-of-year exercise you can do with your spouse to talk about what’s working, what’s not, and course corrections—without it turning into a fight. How to redefine slowing down as “letting the miracles catch up to you,” especially for high-achieving, hustle-mode couples. Why counting your wins in marriage first changes the energy before you talk about problems or vision-casting for 2026. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/ Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links: Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    20 mins
  • What Nobody Tells You About Money, Masculinity, and Marriage

    What Nobody Tells You About Money, Masculinity, and Marriage
    Nov 26 2025
    Most couples are fighting about money, stress, and parenting—without ever naming the real problem: withholding. In this episode of Weaponized Marriage, we unpack what happens when one spouse hides business or financial stress “to protect the home,” and what honest, soul-feeding communication actually looks like.If you’ve ever felt the energy shift in your home but couldn’t put your finger on why, this one’s for you. What You’ll Learn / Highlights How to know which stresses to share with your spouse and which details you can leave at the office. A simple phrase that tells your partner, “I just need you to listen, not fix,” and why it changes the whole conversation. The hidden cost of withholding financial reality and why secrecy around money quietly erodes trust and intimacy. How men and women experience money as energy differently (masculine “logistics” vs feminine “flow”). The difference between feeding shame vs feeding the soul in your marriage—and specific examples of each. Why your spouse will create worst-case stories in their mind when you withhold, and how to stop that spiral. A simple “talk to your spouse like the plant” analogy you can use with each other and your kids starting today. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/ Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links: Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    23 mins
  • The Lie You’ve Been Told About Fixing a Sexless Marriage

    The Lie You’ve Been Told About Fixing a Sexless Marriage
    Nov 13 2025
    If your marriage feels tense, distant, or sexless, emotional safety is almost always at the root. In this episode, we break down exactly what “emotional safety in marriage” actually means and how to build it using a simple 4-part framework. This is for couples (especially men) who are tired of reacting, fixing, and shutting down—and want real connection again. What You’ll Learn / Episode Highlights The real definition of emotional safety in marriage (not just “listening more”) Why so many men default to fix-it mode—and how it destroys trust and intimacy How grief, old stories, and “subconscious spill” show up as emotional overwhelm in your relationship The 4 A’s Framework (attention, appreciation, affection, acceptance) and how to use it in real conversations The hidden link between emotional safety and a sexless marriage (and why toys, trips, and date nights don’t solve it) How avoidant and reactive patterns keep you stuck in the same fight on repeat Why doing your own individual work + couples work is non-negotiable for a purposeful marriage Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/ Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links: Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    22 mins
  • From Coexisting to Co-Creating: Building a Purposeful Marriage with Four Legs of Strength

    From Coexisting to Co-Creating: Building a Purposeful Marriage with Four Legs of Strength
    Oct 30 2025
    Are you thriving in your marriage, or just surviving it? In this deeply personal and powerful episode of Weaponized Marriage, Kendra and Dr. Ryan return from a transformative plant medicine retreat with raw revelations and a bold new framework for intentional partnership. They dive into the difference between coexisting and co-creating in marriage, and what it really takes to build a relationship that lasts. Kendra opens up about the emotional turbulence leading up to the retreat, including her fear of sharing hard truths with Dr. Ryan. What unfolds is a brutally honest conversation about safety, emotional, physical, and financial, and how couples can begin to rebuild trust in places where silence once lived. Together, they unpack how unresolved stories from childhood and unspoken expectations in adulthood can quietly sabotage even the strongest of relationships. The highlight of the episode is their four-legged “Purposeful Marriage” framework, Producer, Protector, Parenting, and Personal, that offers couples a way to assess the stability of their marriage and grow with intention. It’s not just about money or sex; it’s about building something sacred, together. Key Takeaways: How emotional safety is just as critical as physical safety in a marriage Why men need to learn when to pick up the sword, and when to lay it down What to do when old wounds hijack your current reactions The power of the “Purposeful Marriage Table” and its four supporting legs How plant medicine helped them uncover hidden truths and step into healing "If you're not growing, you're staying stagnant, and you're dying." – Kendra Hewitt Draw your own Purposeful Marriage Table, identify your strong legs and the ones that need support. Then share this episode with your spouse or a couple you care about. Subscribe for biweekly truth-telling conversations that cut deep and call you higher. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links: Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    56 mins
  • The Brotherhood Behind the Sword: What It Taught Us About Marriage and Meaningful Friendship

    The Brotherhood Behind the Sword: What It Taught Us About Marriage and Meaningful Friendship
    Oct 14 2025
    Is your marriage surrounded by friendships that strengthen it, or slowly drain it? In today’s episode, we unpack an experience that challenged us to redefine what community really means for our marriage. We’re fresh off a weekend trip to Charleston, SC, where we attended the Wives Meeting of the Chiropractic Knights of the Round Table, a powerful, invite-only brotherhood rooted in faith, values, and purpose. And this time, something extraordinary happened: Dr. Ryan was officially knighted. What started as a curiosity about a mysterious “men’s group” turned into a weekend that left us both reflecting deeply on the importance of intentional friendships, not just individually, but as a couple. From meaningful conversations with women walking the same path, to the symbolism of knighthood and a literal engraved sword, we realized how rare and essential it is to be surrounded by people who elevate your standards, challenge your values, and inspire you to lead with love. Together, we explore the surprising dynamics of building couple friendships, the unspoken expectations we carry into marriage, and why so many of us are starved for deep, value-driven community. Takeaways: True community is built on commitment, values, and intentionality, not convenience. Your marriage reflects the influence of your closest relationships. Friendships in adulthood often default to proximity over purpose, and that can cost us. Couples need shared friendships that fuel growth, not just social plans. Regular, value-aligned gatherings can re-anchor your marriage in seasons of busyness. “This isn’t just a group that meets for sh*ts and giggles, it’s about legacy, alignment, and lifting each other higher.” - Kendra Hewitt If this episode challenged or inspired you, hit “Follow” so you never miss a conversation that helps you fight for your marriage. Share it with a couple you admire, or journal together: Who are the five people influencing our marriage the most right now? Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    21 mins
  • How Can I Serve You Better?” - A Radical Approach to Marriage, Forgiveness, and Co-Creation

    How Can I Serve You Better?” - A Radical Approach to Marriage, Forgiveness, and Co-Creation
    Sep 30 2025
    What if the secret to transforming your marriage isn’t getting more, but giving more? What if the biggest shift you need isn’t in your spouse... but in you? In this episode of Weaponized Marriage, Kendra and Dr. Ryan Hewitt reflect on the moments shared during the memorial service for Charlie Kirk, especially through the lens of Erica Kirk’s breathtaking eulogy. Whether you knew Charlie or not, this episode unpacks timeless truths about the sacred covenant of marriage, the hard and holy act of forgiveness, and the daily choice to live in service of each other. Kendra shares how one line from Erica, “How can I serve you better?”, stopped her in her tracks and became a call to action in her own marriage and family. Dr. Ryan brings insight on the masculine longing for peace, respect, and shared vision at home. Together, they discuss how forgiveness, when embraced fully, becomes a gateway to freedom, not just for your marriage, but your soul. Whether you’re walking through a tough season, or just hungry for deeper connection, this episode calls you back to the heart of God’s design for marriage. Key Takeaways: True transformation in marriage begins with a shift from “me” to “we.” Forgiveness isn’t a one-time event, it’s a continual act of surrender and healing. Creating a peaceful, welcoming home can radically change your family’s dynamic. Small intentional shifts (like how you wake your kids) can ripple into big emotional changes. A shared mission or vision gives couples purpose beyond the daily grind. “If you're too busy washing feet, you don't have time to throw stones.” Take a moment today to ask your spouse one simple but powerful question: How can I serve you better? Then, share this episode with a friend or couple who needs that reminder too. And don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss a conversation that could change your marriage forever. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/ Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    33 mins
  • Does Your Marriage Have a Mission? What Tragedy Taught Us About Purpose

    Does Your Marriage Have a Mission? What Tragedy Taught Us About Purpose
    Sep 16 2025
    Are you building a life together, or just surviving the day-to-day? In this episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, we wrestle with a question that hit us hard after witnessing Erica Kirk speak just days after the tragic loss of her husband, Turning Point USA’s chief operating officer. Her strength, faith, and clarity of purpose left us both shaken and inspired. It led us to ask: If something happened to your spouse tomorrow, would you know how to carry their mission forward? We start off with a conversation about parenting struggles, the pressure to keep up with other families, and why a simple paint-by-number moment ended up revealing something much deeper about creating connection, not consuming stuff. But then the heart of this episode unfolds as we reflect on the unexpected gift of hearing a widow declare that her husband’s mission will not only continue, it will grow stronger. This episode is a wake-up call: to start talking about what really matters. We dig into the importance of having a mission for your marriage, for your family, and for your own life, and what to do if you're not sure what that is yet. Key Takeaways: Your marriage needs a mission as much as your business does. Start asking: What do I stand for? What do we stand for? Consuming isn’t the goal, creating is. Your kids don’t need more activities, they need more connection. You can’t wait for tragedy to figure out what really matters. “Does your message match your mission? Could your spouse stand on a stage and declare what you stood for?” - Kendra Hewitt Challenge this week: Sit down with your spouse and ask: What do we want to create in 3, 5, and 10 years? Then, subscribe, share this episode, and start having the conversations that truly matter. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    35 mins