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Too Much, Apparently

Too Much, Apparently

By: Alice Tew and Carly Radford
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A podcast for deep-feeling, overthinking, emotionally squishy humans who’ve been told they’re too much (and somehow not enough). Hosted by Carly and Alice, two therapists who live this stuff too and speak the language of overthinkers, feel-everythingers, and those who carry a little too much all the time. We talk about overwhelm, identity, shame, burnout, boundaries, and the wild, wonderful messiness of being human. Not quite therapy - but honest, compassionate, thoughtful conversations grounded in psychology and realness. No fixing. Just space to be you. New episodes every Monday.Alice Tew and Carly Radford Social Sciences
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  • 53. Too Fatigued to Keep Going - Burnout, Boundaries and the Myth of Laziness

    53. Too Fatigued to Keep Going - Burnout, Boundaries and the Myth of Laziness
    Sep 14 2026

    Ever felt like you're too fatigued to keep going, but you keep going anyway because stopping feels like failing?
    Yeah. Us too.
    In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice, two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about quitting, burnout and the "just push through" script most of us were handed without ever agreeing to it.
    We unpack our own resistance, spiral in real-time, and share what it's like to want to make something honest while also being scared it might be boring, cringe, too much or not enough.
    This time we talked about:
    🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): Alice quitting her A-levels three times, Carly dropping out of college over the walk to the bus stop, both of them quitting a theatre group they genuinely loved
    👀 What it looks like in real life: letting the gym membership lapse, going quiet on the group chat, building a 2am case for why that makes you lazy
    🧠 Why our brains do it: productivity being tied to worth from childhood, masking as an undiagnosed or newly diagnosed neurodivergent adult, being told "just keep going" by people who mean well but don't feel what you feel
    🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: chronic illness limiting what's possible rather than motivation being the problem, quitting something tied to your identity and grieving who you thought you'd become
    🧰 Coping mechanisms: naming "if people knew the whole story, they'd understand," adding small nourishing things instead of only stripping things away, tracking energy rather than guessing at it
    🌱 How to make peace with it: quitting the things that aren't right for you makes room for the things that are.

    Thanks for listening
    💛💜🩷🩵🧡

    Resources mentioned
    TheraSummit - Carly's talk "Beyond It's Just Anxiety: What Every Therapist Should Know About Working With Chronic Illness"


    💬 New episodes every other Monday.

    🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.


    🧡 CONNECT WITH US

    🎙️ Podcast socials:

    → Instagram: @toomuchapparently

    → TikTok: @toomuchapparently

    → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently

    → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com

    → Substack: Too Much, Apparently


    👩‍💻 Carly Radford:

    → Website: www.carlyradford.com

    → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist


    👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

    → Website: www.alicetew.com

    → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice


    📩 Email us: hello@toomuchapparently.com

    🗓️ New episodes every Monday


    This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.


    Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.
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    55 mins
  • 52. Too Much, One Year Later - Anniversary Episode: One Year of Messiness, Vulnerability & Learning to Accept Ourselves

    52. Too Much, One Year Later - Anniversary Episode: One Year of Messiness, Vulnerability & Learning to Accept Ourselves
    Aug 31 2026
    Ever felt like you’re still too much even after years of trying to understand yourself?Yeah. Us too.In this special one-year anniversary episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists with squishy brains who definitely do not have it all figured out) look back at a year of talking publicly about sensitivity, overthinking, neurodivergence, vulnerability and being human.We revisit our very first episode, reflect on what has changed (and what absolutely hasn’t), and ask what a year of being more open about our own messiness has taught us about self-acceptance, vulnerability and actually letting what we know about ourselves shape the lives we build.This time we talked about:🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello knowing exactly why you do something and still doing it, giving advice you don’t always follow yourself, and discovering there is apparently no magical point where you become a Sorted Human.👀 What it looks like in real life: Becoming more accepting of yourself without necessarily finding life easier, getting more comfortable with vulnerability, saying “I don’t know”, and discovering that growth doesn’t always mean becoming less of who you are.🧠 Why our brains do it: Perfectionism, fear of judgement, the pressure to keep improving, and the hope that enough therapy, insight and self-awareness will eventually make everything fall neatly into place.🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Big ideas and limited capacity, knowing yourself better but still struggling, becoming more confident in some spaces but not others, and learning that understanding yourself and accepting yourself aren’t quite the same thing.🧰 Coping mechanisms: Questioning the rules we think we have to follow, letting our limits matter, building our lives around what we actually know about ourselves, and occasionally attempting to practise what we preach.🌱 How to make peace with it: Maybe the goal isn’t to become less messy, sensitive or “too much”. Maybe it’s knowing yourself well enough to stop expecting yourself to be somebody else.So whether you've been here since Episode 1, found us somewhere in the middle, or currently have 37 episodes sitting in your "I'll catch up eventually" pile: thank you for being part of our first year 💛And as we head into year two, we're making a change of our own. Too Much Apparently is moving to fortnightly episodes for a while. Because after a year of talking about burnout, capacity, self-acceptance and building lives that work for our actual brains... it would be slightly ridiculous not to listen to ourselves.Thanks for listening 💛💜🩷🩵🧡💬 New episodes every Monday.🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com→ Substack: Too Much, Apparently👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:→ Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice📩 Email us: hello@toomuchapparently.com 🗓️ New episodes every MondayThis is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.--------------------------------------------------------------self acceptance podcast, self awareness podcast, personal growth podcast, therapy podcast, sensitive people podcast, overthinking podcast, perfectionism podcast, vulnerability podcast, mental health podcast, neurodivergent podcast, autism podcast, ADHD podcast, burnout podcast, self improvement podcast, emotional podcast, deep chat podcast, therapist podcast, Too Much Apparently podcast
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    53 mins
  • 51. Too Conflicted About My Values - Ethical Guilt, Moral Perfectionism and Decision Fatigue

    51. Too Conflicted About My Values - Ethical Guilt, Moral Perfectionism and Decision Fatigue
    Aug 24 2026

    Ever felt like you're too conflicted to know what the right thing even is, because you care about so many things at once that none of them feels fully doable?
    Yeah. Us too.
    In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice - two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about what happens when your values start competing with each other, and with the world you actually have to live in.
    We unpack our own resistance, spiral in real-time, and share what it's like to want to make something honest while also being scared it might be boring / cringe / too much / not enough.
    This time we talked about:
    🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello standing paralysed in front of 50 slugs in the rain, refusing to give money to Meta, and doing moral maths over a single tomato
    👀 What it looks like in real life: buying the cheaper less-ethical option because that's the budget, wanting to cause a fuss and being scared of being the troublemaker, feeling like a class traitor
    🧠 Why our brains do it: strong values held fiercely, all-or-nothing thinking, perfectionism, and living inside systems like capitalism that clash with what we care about
    🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: internal values that fight each other versus ongoing external conflicts we can't opt out of
    🧰 Coping mechanisms: capacity over perfection, deciding by the day, letting good enough actually be enough
    🌱 How to make peace with it: maybe there is no comfortable place to land, and feeling the weight of your choices is a sign of a working conscience, not a broken one

    Thanks for listening
    💛💜🩷🩵🧡


    Resources mentionedThe Good Place (Netflix)Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)


    💬 New episodes every Monday.

    🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.

    🧡 CONNECT WITH US

    🎙️ Podcast socials:

    → Instagram: @toomuchapparently

    → TikTok: @toomuchapparently

    → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently

    → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com

    → Substack: Too Much, Apparently


    👩‍💻 Carly Radford:

    → Website: www.carlyradford.com

    → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist


    👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

    → Website: www.alicetew.com

    → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice


    📩 Email us: hello@toomuchapparently.com

    🗓️ New episodes every Monday


    This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.


    Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.
    Show More Show Less
    41 mins
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