Ever felt like you’re too hard on yourself to actually enjoy your life?

Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists who know the “what’s next?” feeling all too well) get real about what it’s like to achieve things… and still feel flat, behind, or like it didn’t really count.

We talk about moving the goalposts, chasing the next milestone, and the quiet pressure to keep doing, achieving, and proving — even when it’s stealing your ability to feel proud, satisfied, or at peace.

This time we talked about:

🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello achieving something and immediately thinking about the next thing, feeling weirdly flat after success, and wondering why it never quite feels like enough.

👀 What it looks like in real life: Getting the grade, the job, the milestone… and instead of celebrating, you’re already asking “so now what?” or questioning whether it even counts.

🧠 Why our brains do it: Perfectionism, internalised “not good enough” beliefs, cultural pressure to always be achieving, and the illusion that the next success will finally make us feel different.

🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻The different ways it shows up: Overachieving, constant busyness, tying your worth to success, chasing status or validation, or feeling pressure to keep performing once you’ve done well.

🧰 Coping mechanisms: Slowing down, questioning why you’re doing something, noticing the “next thing” urge, and allowing yourself to actually sit with what you’ve achieved.

🌱 How to make peace with it: You don’t need to earn your worth through achievement — and nothing you achieve will ever fix a belief that says you’re not enough

Thanks for listening

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💬 New episodes every Monday.

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🎙️ Podcast socials:

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→ TikTok: @toomuchapparently

→ YouTube: Too Much, Apparently

→ Website: www.toomuchapparently.com

👩‍💻 Carly Radford:

→ Website: www.carlyradford.com

→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist

👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

→ Website: www.alicetew.com

→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice

📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com

🗓️ New episodes every Monday

This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.

Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

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Ever felt like you're too intentional to rush but still guilty for not doing more, achieving more, becoming more?

Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice, two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get honest about hustle culture, slow living, and what happens when you look up mid-sprint and think, "wait, where am I even rushing to?"

We unpack our own complicated relationships with busyness, admit we've both absolutely ignored our own advice, and talk about what it actually looks like to choose a slower, more intentional life, especially when the world keeps telling you that's not enough.

This time we talked about:

🎙 We've felt this thing too (and we still do): burnout amnesia, banning ourselves from working on Wednesdays, edging forwards at traffic lights even though it gets you absolutely nowhere

👀 What it looks like in real life: rushing through your favourite meal and forgetting to taste it, always being onto the next thing before the current thing is even finished, keeping yourself so busy you never have to sit with your own head

🧠 Why our brains do it: self-worth tied to productivity, childhood conditioning, generational messaging about hard work ethic, and busyness as a very effective way of avoiding uncomfortable feelings

🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: the boom and bust cycle (hello, neurodivergent brains), performing busyness like a badge of honour, never quite giving yourself permission to stop unless you're already on the floor

🧰 Coping mechanisms: structuring your week around your actual capacity, embracing JOMO (joy of missing out), taking a proper slow walk, choosing to be somewhere intentionally rather than just "popping in," cheap flowers from Sainsbury's that last a whole week

🌱 How to make peace with it: you're not too slow. The world is just moving too fast. And you get to decide which pace is actually yours.

Thanks for listening

💛💜🩷🩵🧡

💬 New episodes every Monday.

🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.

🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials:

→ Instagram: @toomuchapparently

→ TikTok: @toomuchapparently

→ YouTube: Too Much, Apparently

→ Website: www.toomuchapparently.com

👩‍💻 Carly Radford:

→ Website: www.carlyradford.com

→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist

👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

→ Website: www.alicetew.com

→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice

📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com

🗓️ New episodes every Monday

This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.

Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

Ever felt like you’re too imaginative to stay grounded in “real life”?

Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists with very busy inner worlds) get real about what it’s like to have an imagination that doesn’t switch off. The kind where you don’t just think about life — you create it, replay it, and live multiple versions of it in your head.

We explore daydreaming, storytelling, fantasy, and the quiet, often private worlds we build to process, escape, imagine, and make sense of being human — and what it’s like when your inner world sometimes feels richer than the one outside it.

This time we talked about:

🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do):Hello daydreaming mid-conversation, imagining entire alternate lives, and getting completely lost in books, ideas, or future scenarios.

👀 What it looks like in real life: Having a “rich inner world,” being told you’re away with the fairies or in la la land, and feeling like your imagination can sometimes feel more vivid — or even more appealing — than reality.

🧠 Why our brains do it: Curiosity, creativity, pattern-seeking, storytelling minds, and for some of us, extremely vivid mental imagery (hello hyperphantasia) that makes imagination feel almost real.

🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: World-building, fantasy thinking, imagining different futures, using metaphor and visual thinking, or quietly living many different lives inside your head.

🧰 Coping mechanisms: Using imagination to process emotions, to create meaning, to self-soothe, or sometimes to escape when real life feels limiting or overwhelming.

🌱 How to make peace with it: Imagination isn’t a distraction from life — it’s one of the ways we understand it, create it, and sometimes survive it.

Thanks for listening

💛💜🩷🩵🧡

💬 New episodes every Monday.

🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.

🧡 CONNECT WITH US

🎙️ Podcast socials:

→ Instagram: @toomuchapparently

→ TikTok: @toomuchapparently

→ YouTube: Too Much, Apparently

→ Website: www.toomuchapparently.com

👩‍💻 Carly Radford:

→ Website: www.carlyradford.com

→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist

👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

→ Website: www.alicetew.com

→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice

📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com

🗓️ New episodes every Monday

This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.

Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

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