Ever felt like you’re too self-aware to just relax and enjoy your life? Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about overthinking, self-awareness, emotional insight and what happens when understanding yourself doesn’t automatically make you happier.

We talk about the strange place where therapy language becomes your first language, where you can explain your patterns, name your triggers and analyse every reaction… but still feel stuck, disconnected or unable to switch your brain off.

This is a conversation about overthinking, anxiety, self-analysis, perfectionism and the tension between insight and actually living.

This time we talked about:

🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): Being stuck in your head, analysing every feeling, knowing your patterns but repeating them anyway

👀 What it looks like in real life: Second-guessing decisions, struggling to be present, narrating your own emotions instead of feeling them, relationship friction, feeling lonely when your awareness changes faster than your relationships

🧠 Why our brains do it: Hypervigilance, trauma responses, perfectionism, therapist or high-insight brains, self-protection through analysis and the need to feel safe through understanding

🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Spectator mode versus participant mode, self-monitoring, analytical spirals, identity confusion and the pressure to “know better” once you have insight

🧰 Coping mechanisms: Self-analysis, intellectualising emotions, trying to find the perfect explanation, over-reflecting instead of taking action, using awareness as control

🌱 How to make peace with it: Self-awareness helps most when it’s paired with self-compassion and small moments of just being human.

Thanks for listening

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👩‍💻 Carly Radford:

→ Website: www.carlyradford.com

→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist

👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

→ Website: www.alicetew.com

→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice

📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday

This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.

Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

Ever been in a relationship that looks fine on the outside… but inside your brain is running a constant analysis?

Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists who love deeply and overthink thoroughly) explore relationship rumination — that experience of loving someone and still questioning whether it’s “right.”

We talk about attachment, insecurity, perfectionism, love myths, and the uncomfortable truth that sometimes there isn’t a clear answer. We unpack the difference between intuition and anxiety, healthy reflection and spiralling doubt, and what it means to “live the question” instead of trying to solve it.

This time we talked about:
🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): replaying conversations, scanning for signs, and wondering what everything means
👀 What it looks like in real life: questioning love, fearing you’ve chosen wrong, and struggling to relax even in a secure relationship
🧠 Why our brains do it: attachment patterns, perfectionism, intolerance of uncertainty, and cultural myths about soulmates
🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: all-or-nothing thinking, comparing, ROCD traits, and constant “what if?” loops
🧰 Coping mechanisms: distinguishing anxiety from relational red flags, checking for real value mismatches, and learning to sit with not knowing
🌱 How to make peace with it: security isn’t the absence of doubt — it’s building trust in yourself to handle whatever unfolds

Thanks for listening
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💬 New episodes every Monday.

🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.

🧡 CONNECT WITH US

🎙️ Podcast socials:

\→ Instagram: @toomuchapparently

→ TikTok: @toomuchapparently

→ YouTube: Too Much, Apparently

→ Website: www.toomuchapparently.com

👩‍💻 Carly Radford:

→ Website: www.carlyradford.com

→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist

👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

→ Website: www.alicetew.com

→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice

📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com

🗓️ New episodes every Monday

This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.

Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

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Ever feel too busy to have fun? Too tired to rest? Too responsible to slow down?

Yeah, us too.

In this episode of Too Much Apparently, therapists Carly and Alice talk honestly about burnout, overworking, productivity guilt and why so many of us struggle to rest without feeling lazy, selfish or “behind”.

We explore how anxiety, trauma, perfectionism and nervous system dysregulation keep us stuck in constant doing mode and why “just slow down” is rarely helpful advice.

If you’re always overwhelmed, exhausted, cancelling plans, putting yourself last or feeling guilty for taking time off, this episode is for you.

We unpack our own patterns, reflect in real time and share practical, compassionate insights into building a healthier relationship with rest, fun and balance.

This time we talked about:

🎙️ Feeling too busy to rest
Overworking, emotional exhaustion, cancelling plans, saving energy for work

👀 How burnout shows up
Always being “on”, struggling to relax, choosing chores over joy, avoiding downtime

🧠 Why we get stuck in productivity mode
Anxiety, hypervigilance, childhood conditioning, hustle culture, fear of stillness

🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 Different burnout patterns
Quiet vs loud fun, intellectual busyness, time blindness, people pleasing, control through doing

🧰 Common coping strategies
Staying busy, overplanning, scrolling, “earning” rest, emotional avoidance

🌱 Learning to rest without guilt
You don’t have to earn rest. Fun is not a luxury. Slowing down is part of healing.

Thanks for listening

💛💜🩷🩵🧡

💬 New episodes every Monday.

🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.

🧡 CONNECT WITH US

🎙️ Podcast socials:

→ Instagram: @toomuchapparently

→ TikTok: @toomuchapparently

→ YouTube: Too Much, Apparently

→ Website: www.toomuchapparently.com

👩‍💻 Carly Radford:

→ Website: www.carlyradford.com

→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist

👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

→ Website: www.alicetew.com

→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice

📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com

🗓️ New episodes every Monday

This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.

Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.