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Too Much, Apparently

Too Much, Apparently

By: Alice Tew and Carly Radford
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A podcast for deep-feeling, overthinking, emotionally squishy humans who’ve been told they’re too much (and somehow not enough). Hosted by Carly and Alice, two therapists who live this stuff too and speak the language of overthinkers, feel-everythingers, and those who carry a little too much all the time. We talk about overwhelm, identity, shame, burnout, boundaries, and the wild, wonderful messiness of being human. Not quite therapy - but honest, compassionate, thoughtful conversations grounded in psychology and realness. No fixing. Just space to be you. New episodes every Monday.Alice Tew and Carly Radford Social Sciences
Episodes
  • 48. Too Overwhelmed to Go on Holiday - Travel, Pressure & the Hidden Stress of Holidays

    48. Too Overwhelmed to Go on Holiday - Travel, Pressure & the Hidden Stress of Holidays
    Aug 3 2026
    Ever felt like you're too overwhelmed to go on holiday?Yeah. Us too.In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists who love travelling but often find everything around it exhausting) get real about why holidays aren't always the relaxing escape people imagine. For many sensitive, autistic, ADHD and chronically ill people, travelling can involve weeks of planning, uncertainty, sensory overload, disrupted routines and recovering afterwards.We explore the hidden emotional and practical workload behind going away, how travel can place huge demands on your nervous system, and why meeting your needs doesn't make you "high maintenance"—it helps you actually enjoy the holiday you've spent so much time and money planning.This time we talked about:🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello endless holiday research, spreadsheets comparing hotels, overthinking every detail, worrying about airports, needing to unpack immediately, and secretly needing a holiday to recover from your holiday.👀 What it looks like in real life: Packing for every possible scenario, planning around sensory needs, struggling with unfamiliar beds, food, smells and routines, feeling overwhelmed by airports, needing recovery days afterwards, and finding yourself dreading the logistics more than looking forward to the trip.🧠 Why our brains do it: Autistic differences, ADHD, chronic illness, uncertainty, transitions, sensory processing, executive functioning, and nervous systems that naturally need more predictability and preparation than many people realise.🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Needing detailed plans, researching everything in advance, feeling guilty about using accommodations like Sunflower Lanyards, worrying about things going wrong, struggling to switch into holiday mode, or feeling overwhelmed when you return home again.🧰 Coping mechanisms: Planning holidays around your actual needs rather than other people's expectations, requesting accommodations, allowing recovery time, reducing pressure to "make the most of every minute", and recognising the difference between genuine needs and unnecessary self-pressure.🌱 How to make peace with it: Maybe the goal isn't learning to holiday like everyone else. Maybe it's creating a version of travel that genuinely works for your brain, your body and your nervous system.Thanks for listening 💛💜🩷🩵🧡💬 New episodes every Monday.🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com→ Substack: Too Much, Apparently👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice📩 Email us: hello@toomuchapparently.com 🗓️ New episodes every MondayThis is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.----------------------------------------------------------------travel anxiety podcast, autism podcast, ADHD podcast, holiday anxiety podcast, sensory overload podcast, chronic illness podcast, neurodivergent podcast, therapy podcast, mental health podcast, sensitivity podcast, overthinking podcast, travel podcast, Too Much Apparently podcast
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    53 mins
  • 47. Too Out of Control Around Food - Binge Eating, ADHD and Why Willpower Was Never The Problem

    47. Too Out of Control Around Food - Binge Eating, ADHD and Why Willpower Was Never The Problem
    Jul 27 2026
    Ever felt like you're too out of control around food to trust yourself, promising tomorrow will be different and then feeling like a failure when it isn't?Yeah. Us too.In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice - two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) sit down with our first ever guest, Sarah Dosanjh, a psychotherapist who specialises in binge eating and knows it from the inside. We get real about why food becomes the thing holding everything together, and why willpower was never the problem.We unpack our own patterns, spiral in real-time, and share what it's like to want a calmer relationship with food while a part of your brain keeps shouting that something's wrong with you.This time we talked about:🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello late-night eating, buying 10 times more than we need, and eating to cope at a buffet👀 What it looks like in real life: eating to feel safe, eating to rest, eating to procrastinate, and going round the same "tomorrow will be different" cycle🧠 Why our brains do it: food calms the nervous system, ADHD brains chase dopamine, and shame quietly runs the show🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: comfort eating, emotional eating, overeating, binge eating, and the overlap with ADHD🧰 Coping mechanisms: the reactionary gap, building a rhythm instead of a rigid plan, anchor meals, and planning for the days you fall off🌱 How to make peace with it: your patterns are not personal, and curiosity gets you further than willpower ever will.Thanks for listening💛💜🩷🩵🧡Resources mentionedSarah Dosanjh: thebingeeatingtherapist.comSarah on YouTube and Instagram: @the_binge_eating_therapistSarah's book: I Can't Stop EatingPodcasts: Life After Diets, Feelings and Other InconveniencesSarah's live 6-week ADHD and binge eating courseGeneen RothJudson BrewerIntuitive Eating💬 New episodes every Monday.🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com→ Substack: Too Much, Apparently👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice📩 Email us: hello@toomuchapparently.com 🗓️ New episodes every MondayThis is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.
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    1 hr and 13 mins
  • 46. Too Particular About Everything - Everyday Perfectionism, Just-Rightness & The Pressure to Get Everything Right

    46. Too Particular About Everything - Everyday Perfectionism, Just-Rightness & The Pressure to Get Everything Right
    Jul 20 2026

    Ever felt like you're too particular to just let things go?

    Yeah. Us too.


    In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists who notice everything) get real about what we call everyday perfectionism. Not just perfectionism at work or in big achievements, but the tiny, relentless moments where things have to feel just right before you can properly relax.


    We explore how this can show up through sensory needs, autistic pattern recognition, OCD-style "just-rightness", shame, control, and the constant pressure to do everyday life the "right" way — from cleaning and decorating to food, holidays, shopping and even how we talk to other people.


    This time we talked about:


    🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello, inspecting every purchase for tiny flaws, endlessly tweaking things that are "almost right", and replaying everyday decisions because something still doesn't feel quite right.


    👀 What it looks like in real life: Returning items over tiny imperfections, struggling to clean "just one room", skin picking, getting overwhelmed by contradictory advice, feeling disappointed when holidays or special occasions don't match the picture in your head, and believing everything has to be done properly.


    🧠 Why our brains do it: Sensory differences, autistic pattern recognition, perfectionism, shame, control, intolerance of uncertainty, and sometimes OCD-style "just-right" experiences that make tiny details feel impossible to ignore.


    🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Food, cleaning, decorating, appearance, conversations, routines, social media pressure, exercise, health advice, parenting, work, and the endless feeling that there's one "correct" way to do life.


    🧰 Coping mechanisms: Learning the difference between sensory needs and perfectionism, choosing your battles, practising "good enough", increasing your tolerance for things being slightly imperfect, and asking what actually matters most to you.


    🌱 How to make peace with it: Maybe life doesn't have to be perfect to be good — and maybe your energy is too precious to spend chasing "just right" all the time


    Thanks for listening

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    💬 New episodes every Monday.

    🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.


    🧡 CONNECT WITH US

    🎙️ Podcast socials:

    → Instagram: @toomuchapparently

    → TikTok: @toomuchapparently

    → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently

    → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com

    → Substack: Too Much, Apparently


    👩‍💻 Carly Radford:

    → Website: www.carlyradford.com

    → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist


    👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

    → Website: www.alicetew.com

    → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice


    📩 Email us: hello@toomuchapparently.com

    🗓️ New episodes every Monday


    This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.


    Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

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