Ever felt like you're too full of ideas and tasks to ever switch off and rest?Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice - two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about having a brain with far too many tabs open. The kind that has five Chrome windows, 92 tabs on your phone, three notebooks on the go, and hands you a brilliant new idea right when you're already drowning in the last ten.We unpack our own resistance, spiral in real-time, and share what it's like to want to make something honest while also being scared it might be boring / cringe / too much / not enough.

This time we talked about:🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello five Chrome windows, the 11pm "further versus farther" deep dive, and the book idea you've pitched your partner six different times👀 What it looks like in real life: counting your actual open tabs, deep diving the mechanics of drowning at half ten at night, building elaborate systems you never use🧠 Why our brains do it: curiosity that won't quit, ideas as fantasy and avoidance, externalising everything because you can't hold it in your head anymore🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Alice's spreadsheet brain full of tasks, Carly's blank canvas covered in paint splatters, the fear that you're wasting your potential🧰 Coping mechanisms: colour-coded calendars, the two-bowl task picker, the Eisenhower Matrix, gamified to-do apps, a Bright Shiny Things notebook, and getting okay with quitting🌱 How to make peace with it: you'll never clear the list, and that's allowed, some ideas are just sparks you get to enjoy rather than tasks you failed to finish

Thanks for listening💛💜🩷🩵🧡

Resources mentioned

• The Prosper in Private Practice Summit - Join Here! (Affiliate link - It's completely free to join and we get commission if you upgrade to the VIP package)
• Meditations for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman
• The Eisenhower Matrix (urgent / important method)
• Finch (gamified self-care and to-do app)

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This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.

Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

Ever felt like you’re too loyal to walk away from people who hurt you? Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists navigating very different experiences of friendship and connection) get real about loyalty — when it’s beautiful, when it’s painful, and when it quietly keeps you stuck in relationships that aren’t good for you.

We explore what it means to be the one who always shows up, always gives, always stays — and why letting go can feel so much harder than staying, even when staying hurts.

This time we talked about:

🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello being the 3am friend, giving endless chances, over-giving in relationships, and struggling to stop caring even when you’ve been hurt.

👀 What it looks like in real life: One-sided friendships, doing all the emotional labour, staying too long, overlooking hurtful behaviour, and feeling like you’re always the one trying to hold the relationship together.

🧠 Why our brains do it: Attachment patterns, fear of rejection, low self-worth, people-pleasing, and the belief that if you just love people enough, they’ll love you back the same way.

🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Clinging, over-functioning in friendships, avoiding conflict, rationalising behaviour, and struggling to leave even when you know something isn’t right.

🧰 Coping mechanisms: Over-giving, staying silent about hurt, explaining others’ behaviour away, lowering your needs, and prioritising connection over your own wellbeing.

🌱 How to make peace with it: Your loyalty isn’t the problem — but it deserves to land somewhere safe, mutual, and valued.

Thanks for listening

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Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

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Ever felt like you're too opinionated to be liked? Like the moment you share an actual opinion, you're already replaying it in your head wondering if you've ruined something?

Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice - two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about what it's like to be someone with strong views AND a nervous system that takes rejection like a full-body event. The double bind of caring enough to have opinions, and caring enough to be devastated when those opinions aren't received well.

We unpack our own resistance, spiral in real-time, and share what it's like to want to be honest while also being scared it might be too much, too intense, too political, too feminist, too angry.

This time we talked about:

• 🎙️ We've felt this thing too: burning opinions stuck in your throat, the 3-day spiral after speaking up, the car ride home rehearsing what you should have said instead
• 👀 What it looks like in real life: biting your tongue at family dinners, drafting messages you never send, going quiet at work and feeling like a fraud, crying in the car after a dinner party
• 🧠 Why our brains do it: rejection sensitivity, how women get called "opinionated" when men get called "passionate," and the way new rejections hook back into old ones
• 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: the impulsive blurter, the 300-years-of-thinking-then-saying-it person, the one who's gone so quiet she's lost track of what she thinks
• 🧰 Coping mechanisms: choosing your rooms, finding people who can hold complexity, checking in with people afterwards instead of catastrophising on your own
• 🌱 How to make peace with it: your opinions aren't the problem - the rooms you've been sharing them in might be

Thanks for listening

💛💜🩷🩵🧡

💬 New episodes every Monday.

🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.

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🎙️ Podcast socials:

→ Instagram: @toomuchapparently

→ TikTok: @toomuchapparently

→ YouTube: Too Much, Apparently

→ Website: www.toomuchapparently.com

→ Substack: Too Much, Apparently

👩‍💻 Carly Radford:

→ Website: www.carlyradford.com

→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist

👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

→ Website: www.alicetew.com

→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice

📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com

🗓️ New episodes every Monday

This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.

Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.