Wayne Baker brings a wealth of experience as a certified IFS therapist and clinical consultant based in Boulder, CO.

In this episode, we dive into the complex and often painful topic of infidelity, what it really is, how it impacts relationships, and what it takes to heal.

What starts as a clinical look at betrayal quickly becomes a deeply personal and practical conversation. Wayne shares insights from both his professional practice and his own life, offering a grounded, compassionate framework for recovery. We explore emotional affairs, modern forms of secrecy, and how fierce accountability and the IFS model can guide couples toward genuine repair.

Brendan McCarthy is a therapist and owner of sessions psychology located in Nashville Tennessee. I originally reached out to Brandon to talk with him about a common passion, both of ours, which is therapy intensive intensive's are an opportunity for someone to meet with a therapist for a concentrated amount of time, rather than hourly once a week. Our conversation quickly spun in a different direction in which we discussed a book that both of us are fan of titled Comedy, Sex, God by the comedian Pete Holmes. Brendan, I had a great conversation about spirituality, religious observance, deconstruction, and ultimately reconstruction.

Dave sits down with Justin Martin, a licensed therapist and expert in Internal Family Systems (IFS), to discuss how this trauma-informed therapy model can help individuals, couples, and men work through relational and personal challenges. They explore Justin’s journey from discovering IFS early in his career to building a thriving practice in Orlando, Florida, and discuss his approach to therapy, which balances structure with humor and authenticity. Justin shares his personal struggle with letting humor into the therapy room, explaining how he’s learned to integrate it meaningfully without letting it overshadow the work.

The conversation also dives into the nuances of working with men, particularly around emotional regulation and relationship dynamics, as well as the challenges therapists face when using social media for professional purposes. Justin touches on his popular Instagram page, where he combines humor with educational content, offering a lighter take on mental health topics while staying mindful of the potential impact social media has on well-being. They conclude with insights into how trauma, addiction, and relational issues can be addressed through the IFS model, with an emphasis on the importance of genuine connection in therapy.

Dave talks with Carol Kim, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in play therapy, about finding balance in parenting by discussing the four key domains of nurturing, engaging, structure, and challenge. They explore the polarizing tendencies in parenting styles, sharing their personal experiences—Carol identifies as conflict avoidant, and Dave as more rigid and structured—highlighting the impact of self-awareness on parenting. Carol discusses the importance of handling emotional regulation in both parents and children, the role of authenticity in therapeutic settings, and the significance of addressing both emotional and practical problems in parenting. With insights into different therapy models and the concept of the "window of tolerance," the conversation underscores the need for parents to model real emotions and coping strategies to build secure attachments and promote resilience in their children.

Whether you're an Enneagram novice or a seasoned enthusiast, this episode provides valuable perspectives on using this dynamic tool to foster deeper understanding and empathy in relationships. Learn how to move beyond surface interactions and create meaningful, heart-to-heart connections that last.

Today, we dive deep into the transformative world of psychedelic-assisted therapy with Kristy Crabtree. We discuss the groundbreaking work MAPS is doing with MDMA to treat PTSD, showcasing an impressive 88% efficacy rate. Kristy shared her journey and passion for using psychedelics to expedite healing, particularly in the context of trauma, and we debated the therapeutic benefits versus potential risks.

Sachin Patel, a multifaceted health expert, describes how lifestyle choices significantly impact illness and healing. Breathwork is emphasized as a key to metabolic health, directly affecting longevity and various bodily systems. Dave and Sachin discuss the underappreciated effects of breathing on weight loss and overall health. Sachin's work in functional medicine focuses on creating healthiest individuals and the insightful conversation concludes with gratitude for shared knowledge.