Wayne Baker brings a wealth of experience as a certified IFS therapist and clinical consultant based in Boulder, CO.

In this episode, we dive into the complex and often painful topic of infidelity, what it really is, how it impacts relationships, and what it takes to heal.

What starts as a clinical look at betrayal quickly becomes a deeply personal and practical conversation. Wayne shares insights from both his professional practice and his own life, offering a grounded, compassionate framework for recovery. We explore emotional affairs, modern forms of secrecy, and how fierce accountability and the IFS model can guide couples toward genuine repair.

Brendan McCarthy is a therapist and owner of sessions psychology located in Nashville Tennessee. I originally reached out to Brandon to talk with him about a common passion, both of ours, which is therapy intensive intensive's are an opportunity for someone to meet with a therapist for a concentrated amount of time, rather than hourly once a week. Our conversation quickly spun in a different direction in which we discussed a book that both of us are fan of titled Comedy, Sex, God by the comedian Pete Holmes. Brendan, I had a great conversation about spirituality, religious observance, deconstruction, and ultimately reconstruction.

Dave sits down with Justin Martin, a licensed therapist and expert in Internal Family Systems (IFS), to discuss how this trauma-informed therapy model can help individuals, couples, and men work through relational and personal challenges. They explore Justin’s journey from discovering IFS early in his career to building a thriving practice in Orlando, Florida, and discuss his approach to therapy, which balances structure with humor and authenticity. Justin shares his personal struggle with letting humor into the therapy room, explaining how he’s learned to integrate it meaningfully without letting it overshadow the work.

The conversation also dives into the nuances of working with men, particularly around emotional regulation and relationship dynamics, as well as the challenges therapists face when using social media for professional purposes. Justin touches on his popular Instagram page, where he combines humor with educational content, offering a lighter take on mental health topics while staying mindful of the potential impact social media has on well-being. They conclude with insights into how trauma, addiction, and relational issues can be addressed through the IFS model, with an emphasis on the importance of genuine connection in therapy.