When we lose a partner, we don’t just lose the person we loved —
we lose the orientation we had to life itself.

In this episode, I explore what it means to come back home to yourself after loss — not by trying to “find the old you,” but by slowly rediscovering who you are now, in a body and life that have been changed by love and grief.

If you’ve ever thought:

• “I don’t recognize myself anymore,”
• “I don’t know who I am now that he’s gone,” or
• “I feel like I’m watching my life instead of living it,”

this conversation is for you.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why grief is so deeply disorienting — and why losing a partner often means losing your sense of inner home
• The quiet ways grief impacts identity, capacity, and the nervous system
• What it means to grieve the version of yourself you were — without shame
• Why wanting to go backward doesn’t mean you’re stuck (it means something mattered)
• The difference between coping and truly coming home to yourself
• How identity after loss is revealed slowly, through lived moments — not pressure
• Why this process can’t be rushed, fixed, or forced
• The loneliness of being misunderstood, even when surrounded by people who care
• Gentle, practical ways to begin rebuilding safety, trust, and presence within yourself

Coming back home isn’t a destination.
It’s a felt sense of safety that’s rebuilt over time — through listening, permission, and compassion.

Gentle reflection questions from this episode:

• What parts of myself feel unfamiliar right now?
• Where am I asking myself to have clarity before I have safety?
• What feels true for me now — even if I can’t explain it yet?
• What would it look like to stay with myself, instead of pushing through?

About Re-Imagine

Re-Imagine is my 12-week grief support group for widows, designed to help you come back into relationship with yourself — with structure, nervous-system support, and women who truly understand this terrain.

Not to fix you.
Not to rush you.
But to walk alongside you as you learn how to live inside yourself again.

Group begins: March 16
Free workshop: February 25 at 4:00 PM PST
(I’ll be sharing more about Re-Imagine there.)

You can find the workshop link HERE or reach out directly at
lauren@imsorrywerefriends.com

You are not meant to recreate yourself.
You are meant to discover yourself — in a way that honors both who you were and who you are becoming.

Valentine’s Day can land very differently in widowhood — whether it once meant everything, or barely registered at all.

In this episode, I’m sitting with the tenderness of love-centered days after loss. We talk about why days like Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, and weddings can quietly magnify grief, how love continues to live in the body even after death, and why there is no “right” way to move through these moments.

I also share my own experience of the first Valentine’s Day after Kevin died — what I needed, what surprised me, and what it taught me about permission, presence, and listening to ourselves in grief.

Inside this episode, we explore:

• Why love-centered days often feel heavier in widowhood
• The difference between being alone and feeling alone
• How grief can feel more intense when the world keeps moving
• Why there is no correct way to do Valentine’s Day after loss
• Gentle, compassionate ways to support yourself through tender days

This episode is an invitation to soften expectations, release performance, and honor whatever it takes for you to get through the day.

Free Workshop: Loneliness, Grief, & Being Held in Community

If this episode resonated and you’re longing for a space where you don’t have to explain your grief, I’d love to invite you to my free workshop on February 25th.

We’ll talk about:

• Why loneliness often feels amplified inside of grief
• The difference between feeling alone and being alone
• Self-compassion as you navigate everything coming up for you
• How being held in the right kind of community can gently shift the grief experience
• An introduction to my 12-week group grief support program for widows, Re-Imagine (beginning mid-March)

🗓 February 25th
🕓 4:00 PM PST
🔗 Register here: https://us06web.zoom.us/j/83653452564

You can also find the registration link in my Instagram bio, or reach out directly at lauren@imsorrywerefriends.com
and I’ll share it with you personally.

Thank you for being here, and for letting me sit with you in this tender space.
Take gentle care of yourself. 💛

February can bring up complicated emotions for widows — especially as love is publicly framed through romance, couple-hood, and celebration. In this episode, Lauren offers a spacious, honest conversation about the kind of love that doesn’t disappear after loss — the love that remains, changes shape, and continues to live in the body, memory, and nervous system.

Together, we explore how grief is not only pain, but love with nowhere obvious to go — and how moving forward doesn’t require letting go of love, but learning how to walk with it differently.

This episode is for you if:

• Valentine’s Day feels heavy, hollow, or disorienting
• You’ve wondered where your love goes after your partner dies
• You feel pressure to “move on” or quiet your grief
• You’re learning how to live alongside love in a new form

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why love doesn’t end when a life ends
• How grief lives in the body and nervous system
• The myth that healing requires letting go of love
• Rediscovering and recreating love after loss
• Why love exists far beyond romance
• Letting love be exactly what it is right now

If you’re looking for a place to process these questions in community with others who understand, Lauren’s group program Re-Imagine begins in mid-March.
You can learn more and join the interest list at laurenlentz.com under the Re-Imagine tab.

However love is showing up for you this month — it belongs.
And so do you. 💛