When we lose a partner, we don’t just lose the person we loved —
we lose the orientation we had to life itself.

In this episode, I explore what it means to come back home to yourself after loss — not by trying to “find the old you,” but by slowly rediscovering who you are now, in a body and life that have been changed by love and grief.

If you’ve ever thought:

• “I don’t recognize myself anymore,”
• “I don’t know who I am now that he’s gone,” or
• “I feel like I’m watching my life instead of living it,”

this conversation is for you.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why grief is so deeply disorienting — and why losing a partner often means losing your sense of inner home
• The quiet ways grief impacts identity, capacity, and the nervous system
• What it means to grieve the version of yourself you were — without shame
• Why wanting to go backward doesn’t mean you’re stuck (it means something mattered)
• The difference between coping and truly coming home to yourself
• How identity after loss is revealed slowly, through lived moments — not pressure
• Why this process can’t be rushed, fixed, or forced
• The loneliness of being misunderstood, even when surrounded by people who care
• Gentle, practical ways to begin rebuilding safety, trust, and presence within yourself

Coming back home isn’t a destination.
It’s a felt sense of safety that’s rebuilt over time — through listening, permission, and compassion.

Gentle reflection questions from this episode:

• What parts of myself feel unfamiliar right now?
• Where am I asking myself to have clarity before I have safety?
• What feels true for me now — even if I can’t explain it yet?
• What would it look like to stay with myself, instead of pushing through?

About Re-Imagine

Re-Imagine is my 12-week grief support group for widows, designed to help you come back into relationship with yourself — with structure, nervous-system support, and women who truly understand this terrain.

Not to fix you.
Not to rush you.
But to walk alongside you as you learn how to live inside yourself again.

Group begins: March 16
Free workshop: February 25 at 4:00 PM PST
(I’ll be sharing more about Re-Imagine there.)

You can find the workshop link HERE or reach out directly at
lauren@imsorrywerefriends.com

You are not meant to recreate yourself.
You are meant to discover yourself — in a way that honors both who you were and who you are becoming.