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The Lemon Tree Coaching

The Lemon Tree Coaching

By: Dr. Allison Sucamele
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Welcome to The Lemon Tree Coaching Podcast—where emotional depth meets grounded psychology. Hosted by Dr. Allison Sucamele, this podcast is a sanctuary for anyone ready to do the inner work, face their shadow, and cultivate a life that feels authentic, aligned, and alive.


Each episode explores the psychology behind emotions, relationships, nervous system healing, and self-awareness. Whether you're navigating heartbreak, burnout, betrayal, people-pleasing, or the desire for deeper meaning, you'll find thoughtful reflections, symbolic storytelling, and powerful insights to help you bloom—one truth at a time.


Grab a cup of tea, tune in, and come home to yourself.

Follow along on Instagram @thelemontreecoaching and explore free resources on Teachers Pay Teachers at The Lemon Tree by AKS.

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  • # 174: The Psychology Behind Flying Monkeys & Pick-Me’s - Social Cover-Ups Rooted in Insecurity & Ego Protection

    # 174: The Psychology Behind Flying Monkeys & Pick-Me’s - Social Cover-Ups Rooted in Insecurity & Ego Protection
    Jul 15 2026

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    Sometimes the greatest harm doesn't come from the loudest voice. It comes from the people who enable, excuse, protect, or normalize unhealthy behavior.

    In this episode of The Lemon Tree Coaching Podcast, we explore the psychology behind:
    🍋 Flying monkeys
    🍋 Pick-me behavior
    🍋 Group enabling
    🍋 Social cover-ups
    🍋 Insecurity, ego protection, and cognitive dissonance
    🍋 Why truth-tellers are often scapegoated

    Understanding these patterns isn't about becoming cynical. It's about developing discernment, protecting your peace, and choosing integrity over performance.

    🎧 Listen wherever you get your podcasts or through the link in our bio.

    📚 Resources: Learn more about cognitive dissonance (Leon Festinger), normative social influence (Solomon Asch), scapegoating, groupthink (Irving Janis), attachment theory (John Bowlby), and relational aggression.

    ⚠️ Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for psychological, medical, or mental health advice.

    🆘 If you are in emotional distress or experiencing a mental health crisis in the United States or Canada, call or text 988to reach the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Help is available 24/7. ❤️

    Enjoyed today's episode? 🍋 Follow @thelemontreecoaching on Instagram for daily psychology insights, podcast updates, and thoughtful reflections designed to help you grow with purpose.

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    21 mins
  • Bonus Episode - The Bell Jar: When the Life You’re Supposed to Want Becomes a Cage

    Bonus Episode - The Bell Jar: When the Life You’re Supposed to Want Becomes a Cage
    Jul 9 2026

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    In this bonus episode of The Lemon Tree Coaching Podcast, Dr. Allison Sucamele reflects on Sylvia Plath’s The Bell Jar through a psychological lens, exploring the invisible distance between a life that looks full of possibility and a life that no longer feels inhabitable. From Esther Greenwood’s haunting fig tree to the suffocating metaphor of the bell jar, this episode examines choice paralysis, perfectionism, identity fragmentation, social expectations, and the quiet cost of performing the version of yourself that receives the most approval.

    What happens when you achieve what you were supposed to want, yet still cannot breathe?

    A brief literary reflection on the difference between visible functioning and internal freedom, and the parts of ourselves still searching for air.

    Content note: This episode discusses depression, suicide, psychiatric hospitalization, and emotional distress. In the U.S. and its territories, call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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    9 mins
  • # 173 - Resentment: The Silence That Keeps the Score - The Psychology of Self-Abandonment, Swallowed Boundaries, & the Quiet Cost of Keeping the Peace

    # 173 - Resentment: The Silence That Keeps the Score - The Psychology of Self-Abandonment, Swallowed Boundaries, & the Quiet Cost of Keeping the Peace
    Jul 8 2026
    Ask The Lemon Tree Coaching Podcast a Question. Text the TLT Pod today.What happens when patience quietly becomes self-abandonment? In this episode of The Lemon Tree Coaching Podcast, Dr. Allison Sucamele explores the psychology of resentment, self-silencing, swallowed boundaries, emotional suppression, sunk-cost thinking, and the hidden cost of repeatedly tolerating what hurts. Drawing from psychological research on attachment, emotion regulation, relationship patterns, and self-silencing, this episode examines why intelligent, compassionate people often stay quiet, over-accommodate, and keep giving long after something inside them has begun keeping score.Sometimes resentment is not simply anger. Sometimes it is the delayed recognition that keeping the peace required abandoning too much of yourself.Disclaimer & Crisis SupportThe Lemon Tree Coaching Podcast is for educational, informational, and reflective purposes only. It is not therapy, medical advice, diagnosis, crisis care, or a substitute for support from a qualified mental health professional. The topics discussed in this episode, including resentment, self-silencing, boundaries, relationship distress, coercive dynamics, and abuse, can be emotionally activating. Every situation is different, and communication or boundary-setting strategies may not be safe or appropriate in situations involving abuse, coercive control, stalking, threats, intimidation, or immediate danger.Research & Resources MentionedPsychological ResearchJack & Dill (1992) — The Silencing the Self Scale: Schemas of Intimacy Associated With Depression in WomenRead the studyGross & Levenson (1997) — Hiding Feelings: The Acute Effects of Inhibiting Negative and Positive EmotionView on PubMedButler et al. (2003) — The Social Consequences of Expressive SuppressionView on PubMedArkes & Blumer (1985) — The Psychology of Sunk CostView the studyRusbult and colleagues — Research on accommodation and constructive versus destructive responses in close relationshipsExplore related research via Google ScholarGottman and colleagues — Research on marital interaction, conflict, contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and withdrawalExplore The Gottman Institute researchChristensen & Heavey (1990) — Gender and Social Structure in the Demand/Withdraw Pattern of Marital ConflictView study informationHazan & Shaver (1987) — Romantic Love Conceptualized as an Attachment ProcessExplore the studyMurray, Holmes & Griffin (1996) — The Self-Fulfilling Nature of Positive Illusions in Romantic RelationshipsView on PubMedOverall & McNulty (2017) — What Type of Communication During Conflict Is Beneficial for Intimate Relationships?View on PubMedRecommended BooksSet Boundaries, Find Peace — Nedra Glover TawwabThe Book of Boundaries — Melissa UrbanCodependent No More — Melody BeattieAttached — Amir Levine & Rachel HellerHold Me Tight — Dr. Sue JohnsonThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work — John Gottman & Nan SilverAdult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents — Lindsay C. GibsonThe Dance of Anger — Harriet LernerWhen the Body Says No — Gabor MatéBurnout — Emily Nagoski & Amelia NagoskiSupport & Professional Resources988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline — Call or text 988 in the U.S. and territoriesNational Domestic Violence Hotline — Call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text START to 88788Psychology Today Therapist DirectoryOpen Path Psychotherapy Collective — Lower-cost therapy optionsNAMI — Mental health education and supportAmerican Psychological Association — Psychology information and professional resourcesPlease note: These resources are provided for educational and informational purposes only and do not replace individualized mental health care, crisis intervention, or professional support.The Thrive Careers Podcast My career wasn’t a straight line—it was a series of pivots, survival jobs, and...Listen on: Apple Podcasts
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