What happens to the parts of ourselves we put away when we leave home?

In this episode, I reflect on leaving Hong Kong, rediscovering Cantonese from thousands of miles away, and the memories I once tried to hide. From Emmy the Great’s Hong Kong nostalgia to my own experiences of migration, food, shame and belonging, I explore how distance can help us choose what to carry with us — and how leaving can become part of becoming.

For many of us who grew up in Asian households, we didn't not grew up being listened to or held in conversation.

But perhaps that's exactly why we now have the opportunity to create something different.

We may not have inherited the language of active listening.

But we can create it. One conversation at a time.

In this episode, I reflect on running a Cantonese peer supervision group for therapists and counsellors navigating multilingual work, cultural identity, and the fear of not sounding “good enough.”

We talk about accents, broken language and why imperfection can sometimes create deeper human connection than fluency ever could.

Because maybe being a good therapist, parent, or helper isn’t about speaking perfectly.

Maybe it’s about being willing to learn, stay curious, make mistakes, and shorten the distance between yourself and another person.

Your language skills are not your worth. And fluency is not the same thing as connection