For a long time, codependency has been framed as weakness or passivity—that’s why so many strong, capable, high-functioning women hear that word and immediately think, that is absolutely not me. In this episode, I explore where the concept of codependency actually came from and why that original definition often doesn’t fit. When we widen the lens, codependency starts to look a lot more like over-functioning and organizing your time, energy, and identity around other people. When we can understand it in that way, it opens up a much more honest and hopeful path forward. Here’s what I cover:

• Why the original addiction-based definition of codependency misses how it shows up for high-functioning women
• How control can turn into codependency and start to replace your self-connection
• What it looks like when your identity is built around being needed or emotionally steady
• How codependency costs you your time, energy, and brain space, whether it feels like over-functioning or under-functioning
• Questions to help you notice where you’re managing others in order to feel okay

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Improving your conflict skills isn’t about finding the perfect words—it’s about understanding why conflict feels so hard in the first place. When your body believes that speaking up could cost you connection, of course it freezes, softens, or stays quiet. In this episode, I talk about how our nervous systems learned early on that conflict wasn’t safe, and why that doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. When we slow down and get curious about our conflict response rather than judging it, that’s when real change becomes possible, and you can actually get good at conflict. Here’s what I cover:

• How shifting from “what’s wrong with me?” to “why does this make sense?” helps eliminate the self-criticism spiral
• The early lessons your body learned about conflict, compliance, and staying connected
• How people-pleasing and staying small function as intelligent survival strategies
• The questions I offer to help you look backward and make sense of your conflict response
• How attachment patterns shape what your body expects will happen when conflict threatens connection
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We are living through an incredibly intense political, social, and cultural moment, and it’s easy to fall into the despair and overwhelm of it all. In this episode, I’m sharing a framework that helps me make sense of what's happening and hold onto hope. Spiral dynamics explains how humans organize around shared value systems, and what happens when those systems collide and begin to collapse. While these transitions are often destabilizing and painful, what we’re living through is not random–and understanding the pattern offers the reminder that how we choose to show up, care for ourselves, and embody the values we want to see matters. Here’s what I cover:

• The origin of spiral dynamics and how the framework can show up in everyday life
• Why systems resist evolution with the same fear and violence they were established with
• How the framework of spiral dynamics relates to good girl rules and people-pleasing tendencies
• Why nervous system safety and connection matter alongside protest, organizing, and action during times of change
• How rest, pleasure, joy, and community are not distractions, but essential tools for surviving times of massive transition

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Is your social media feed overflowing with New Year’s resolutions and tips to optimize your life? This mindset can feel overwhelming, so instead of pushing for the “perfect” 2026, I’m offering something else in this episode: five questions I return to again and again to recalibrate my relationship with myself. These questions aren’t about productivity or self-improvement. They’re an invitation to unlearn good girl conditioning, step out of self-abandonment, and choose a way of living that actually feels like yours. Here’s what I cover:

• How women’s socialization continues to shape our choices and behaviors
• What passivity actually looks like when your desires and preferences go unspoken
• Why overworking isn’t just physical labor, but emotional, relational, and mental labor too
• How self-abandonment is at the core of people pleasing and putting yourself last
• Why joy, fun, and play can be nourishment instead of something you earn after work

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Learning to have my own back is the most powerful thing I’ve ever done for myself, which is why I’m bringing back this essential episode as we head into the new year. Many women internalize their mistakes, leading to a spiral of shameful thoughts that can be very draining. But how can we shut that down? If we bully ourselves, then we're not safe with ourselves, and we're not safe anywhere. You deserve that essential safety. In this episode, I'll help you identify the bullying voice in your head and shut it down. Here’s what I cover:

• How to recognize the internal bully in your own voice and why certain “questions” are actually accusations
• Why being unsafe with yourself creates shame spirals that drain hours of your time and energy
• A powerful reframe using your younger self to stop self-bullying before it takes over
• Two practical ways to shut down the brain bully: the hard pass and loving engagement
• How having your own back makes it possible to take risks, try new things, and live with more freedom

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This week, I’m bringing back one of the most meaningful and widely listened-to episodes of the podcast. The patriarchal, capitalist, Western way of life imposes certain values and expectations on the way women think, feel, and choose to live. When we fail to meet these expectations, we can often feel lackluster or unsatisfied. Even if we do attain these expectations, there is always another critique looming about the deficit in our lives. In this episode, we will discuss how perfectionism is a manifestation of these societal pressures, and explore ways to shift our mindset to focus on being better, rather than perfect. Here’s what I cover:

• The importance of celebrating our daily small wins rather than fixating on what we could do better
• How the word “better” becomes an invisible authority that keeps women stuck and self-doubting
• Why women are taught not to let emotional labor, grief, or inner work count as real success
• How it's possible to feel accomplished in this society by doing things that bring us joy and make us feel whole
• A simple practice for letting accomplishments land in the body instead of dismissing them

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A lot of the women I work with are carrying the same fear: the fear of disappointing other people. We were taught that being good means being nice, low-maintenance, and emotionally contained–even when it costs us. But staying silent doesn’t just strain our relationships; it takes a real toll on our bodies and our health. In this episode, I explore how self-silencing is making women sick, why it quietly creates resentment and loneliness, and simple ways to start speaking up and building more health, honesty, and real connection in your life. Here’s what I cover:

• A Time article that dives into the statistics and psychology behind women and self-silencing
• How staying quiet to keep the peace actually prevents real closeness
• The cultural conditioning that causes self-silencing and why it’s not your fault
• Why your emotions are a rich source of information about your needs and well-being
• Three core skills that will help you be more honest without abandoning yourself

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