On today’s episode of Said Your Nan, we return to the subject of domestic violence, continuing a conversation we know can be incredibly difficult, confronting, and emotional.

This episode is different.

Following on from our previous discussion, Stuart bravely shares his own personal experiences of domestic abuse. It’s an honest, raw, and deeply human conversation about what abuse can look like, how it feels when you’re inside it, and how hard it can be to recognise when something isn’t right, especially when you’re trying to survive day-to-day.

We talk about:

• The reality of domestic abuse beyond physical violence

• Shame, silence, and why so many people don’t speak up

• The impact abuse has on mental health, confidence, and identity

• Why abuse can happen to anyone

• The importance of being believed, supported, and listened to

⚠️ Content Warning:

This episode contains discussion of domestic violence and abuse. We completely understand if this is one you choose to skip. Please take care of yourself and listen at your own pace.

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Support & Resources

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, help is available. The following organisations offer confidential, non-judgemental support:

The ManKind Initiative

🌐 https://mankind.org.uk

📞 01823 334244

The principal UK charity supporting male victims of domestic abuse. They work in close partnership with other organisations to ensure victims receive the help they need.

Respect – Men’s Advice Line

🌐 https://mensadviceline.org.uk

Support for men experiencing domestic abuse. Speak to trained advisors via phone, email, or webchat — no pressure, no judgement, just help.

National Centre for Domestic Violence (NCDV)

🌐 https://www.ncdv.org.uk

Providing free, fast, and effective support to survivors of domestic abuse, including help with injunctions and legal protection. Their services are available to everyone, regardless of background or circumstance.

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You’re not weak for struggling.

You’re not alone for staying quiet.

And it’s never too late to ask for help.

In this episode of Said Your Nan, Steve opens up and shares a deeply personal journey. From childhood through to adulthood, he reflects on relationships, identity, and life as it unfolds. It’s funny, harrowing, joyful, and heartbreaking.. sometimes all at once.

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This week on Said Your Nan, James, Stuart and Steve dig into one of the most talked about health trends right now: fasting.

From insulin and visceral fat to calorie timing and so-called “simple fixes”, we explore what the evidence actually says and where nuance often gets lost. James brings the science (and some personal honesty), Stuart grounds it in real UK life, and Steve cuts through the noise with humour and cultural truth.

Most importantly, we look at fasting through a mental health lens, particularly men’s mental health — asking when discipline becomes pressure, when control replaces care, and why health advice doesn’t land in a vacuum.

This episode isn’t about telling you what to eat or when to eat.

It’s about slowing the conversation down.

Not medical advice. Just an honest conversation.

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Christmas Special: AI Takes the Reins

This Christmas, James, Steve and Stu did something very silly… they handed the keys to AI.

For this festive special, the lads stepped aside and let artificial intelligence choose the topic and learn their voices. What followed can only be described as weird, quirky, hilarious, and at times, downright unsettling.

Is it still the boys if the words aren’t theirs?

Should we be laughing… or preparing for the robot uprising?

And did we just give Skynet its first podcast credit?

Expect festive chaos, uncanny impressions, unexpected moments, and a glimpse into a future none of us asked for…. but we definitely recorded.

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In this episode of Said Your Nan, Stu, Steve, and James take on one of their biggest and most sensitive topics yet: religion.

The lads explore how religion can impact mental health, for better and for worse.

From the sense of community, purpose, and comfort faith can bring, to the guilt, fear, pressure, and trauma it can sometimes create, this is an open and honest conversation that doesn’t shy away from difficult realities.

As always, the discussion is candid, occasionally uncomfortable, and rooted in personal experience. The aim isn’t to preach or offend, but to talk honestly about how belief systems have affected people differently and why those conversations matter when it comes to mental wellbeing.

Trigger Warning!!

This episode contains discussion of religion, faith, mental health, guilt, shame, and personal experiences that some listeners may find distressing. Listener discretion is advised.

Important Note

The views shared in this episode are strictly personal opinions based on the hosts’ own experiences. They are not intended to represent universal truths, professional advice, or an attack on any belief system or individual.

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In this episode of Said Your Nan, James, Stuart and Steve dive head-first (and slightly under-qualified) into the world of Imposter Syndrome. That annoying voice in your head that insists you’re one mistake away from being “found out.”

With the usual blend of banter, honesty, and questionable wisdom, the lads explore why so many men feel like frauds in their own lives, even when they’re smashing it. James brings the facts: from the 70% of people who experience imposter syndrome to how it shows up across ages, while Stuart and Steve share stories, laughs, and wildly relatable moments of self-doubt.

They break down the symptoms, the role masculinity plays, and why mid-career blokes often feel it the hardest. And of course, they offer practical ways to challenge those thoughts. From talking openly to taking the piss out of your own inner critic.

It’s funny, it’s honest, and it’s a reminder that nearly everyone is winging it…

especially your nan.

We’re back for Season 4!

This was an episode we recorded back in January 2025, so no need to be confused by 'Happy New Year' it's ok, you haven't slipped into a time shift.

In this episode, the lads dive into Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD). what it really is, what it definitely isn’t, and how it affects men’s mental health in everyday life.

James, Stuart, and Steve open up about common misconceptions, share personal reflections, and unpack the difference between genuine OCD and casual phrases like “a bit OCD.” They explore routines, intrusive thoughts, compulsions, and how these experiences can impact identity, relationships, and wellbeing.

The trio also chat about practical ways to support someone living with OCD, seeking help without stigma, and the importance of honest conversation in breaking down barriers around men’s mental health.

We made it to the end of Season 3.

On this episode James. Stuart and Steve discuss some letters that listeners have sent in.

We really appreciate everyone who listens and takes the time to write to us. Its been a fantastic season with some great topics.

As we wrap up this season we are deep in the planning for Season 4 – If you have any suggestions please give us a shout.

If you have been affected by any of the topics discussed today, you can get support from the following organisations:

Samaritans http://www.samaritans.org Call: 116 123 (free) 24 hours a day

Mind: https://mind.org.uk Call: 0300 123 3393

Thanks for listening today. We really appreciate your support!

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