This episode of the Nutty & Slutty podcast takes a candid and emotionally complex look at non-consensual sex, asking a deceptively simple question: when do we get to call something rape? Hosts Isadora and Janine unpack their own histories while reflecting on broader cultural narratives, challenging the idea that clarity always exists in moments of violation. The conversation is grounded in lived experience, where labels like “assault” or “rape” are not always immediately claimed — even when they apply.

Throughout the episode, both hosts explore how internalized beliefs and generational context shaped their responses to early sexual experiences. Isadora reflects on growing up in an era before movements like Me Too, where silence and normalization often replaced accountability. Janine, in turn, examines how power dynamics, youth, and social expectations complicated her understanding of consent. Together, they highlight how individuals can downplay or reframe harmful experiences in order to cope or maintain a sense of control.

The result is a thoughtful, unflinching conversation that invites listeners to examine their own assumptions about consent, victimhood, and the stories we tell ourselves in order to survive.

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Welcome to NUTTY & SLUTTY
Where Mental Health, Sexuality and Unfiltered Truth Take Center Stage

NUTTY & SLUTTY is a bold, sex-positive podcast exploring the messy, complicated and often hilarious intersections of mental health, sexuality and real life — without shame, filters or pretense.

Hosted by Janine Noel (living with bipolar disorder) and Isadora O’Boto (ex-escort), this show brings together two radically honest perspectives for conversations that are as raw as they are insightful. From navigating mood swings and medication to unpacking the realities of sex work and desire, nothing is off-limits.

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Isadora O’Boto (co-host) is a Juilliard Drama grad. Under the pen name Sephe Haven, she is the author of two award-winning memoirs: My Whorizontal Life and A Someday Courtesan, and playwright/performer of the solo show: “My Whorizontal Life: The Show!” Isadora co-hosted the podcast My Index to Sex with Lynn Ferguson. Find her at: isadoraoboto.com

Janine Noel (co-host) is creator and host of Bipolar She podcast, where guests sh...

In this candid and thought-provoking episode of Nutty & Slutty, Janine and Isadora reconnect and dive straight into a conversation that challenges assumptions about sex, identity and relationships. Picking up from a previous discussion, Janine shares how her perspective was shaken by the idea that clients may seek experiences beyond conventional definitions of sex. What follows is an honest exploration of confusion, curiosity and the tension between wanting clear boundaries and recognizing the complexity of human desire.

The conversation deepens as they unpack a provocative question: what defines sexual identity? As the dialogue unfolds, the focus shifts to marriage and the surprising motivations behind why some men seek out escorts. Isadora suggests that, contrary to common assumptions, many clients viewed these encounters as a way to preserve their relationships rather than sabotage them. Whether it’s fulfilling unmet needs, avoiding judgment or simply breaking routine, the episode explores how secrecy, vulnerability and desire intersect in long-term partnerships.

The episode closes on a reflective and slightly humorous note, as Janine grapples with the emotional implications of what she’s learned. From imagined scenarios of “good men” walking away at the last minute to the sobering realization that human behavior is rarely black-and-white, both hosts acknowledge the discomfort — and growth — that come with confronting these realities.

It’s a nuanced conversation that invites listeners to question their own beliefs about fidelity, identity and what it really means to understand another person.

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Welcome to NUTTY & SLUTTY
Where Mental Health, Sexuality and Unfiltered Truth Take Center Stage

NUTTY & SLUTTY is a bold, sex-positive podcast exploring the messy, complicated and often hilarious intersections of mental health, sexuality and real life — without shame, filters or pretense.

Hosted by Janine Noel (living with bipolar disorder) and Isadora O’Boto (ex-escort), this show brings together two radically honest perspectives for conversations that are as raw as they are insightful. From navigating mood swings and medication to unpacking the realities of sex work and desire, nothing is off-limits.

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Isadora O’Boto (co-host) is a Juilliard Drama grad. Under the pen name Sephe Haven, she is the author of two award-winning memoirs: My Whorizontal Life and A Someday Courtesan, and playwright/performer of the solo show: “My Whorizontal Life: The Show!” Isadora co-hosted the podcast My Index to Sex with Lynn Ferguson. Find her at: isadoraoboto.com

Janine Noel (co-host) is creator and host of Bipolar She podcast, where guests sh...

In this episode of Nutty & Slutty, Isadora and Janine are in the world of odd jobs — those chaotic, often humiliating gigs that rarely make it onto résumés but never quite leave the memory. What begins as a conversation about non–nine-to-five work quickly turns into a series of sharply observed, darkly funny anecdotes about survival, embarrassment and the strange turns that shape a life.

Isadora tells us that what should have been a lucrative event spirals into physical discomfort (safety pins, ill-fitting clothes, and a resurrected odor from a secondhand shirt) and mounting anxiety. Still, she pushes through — until the final course.

If you’ve ever had a job that went sideways — or spectacularly wrong — you’re in good company. Share this episode with someone who might appreciate a reminder that even the worst shifts can make for the best stories.

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Welcome to NUTTY & SLUTTY
Where Mental Health, Sexuality and Unfiltered Truth Take Center Stage

NUTTY & SLUTTY is a bold, sex-positive podcast exploring the messy, complicated and often hilarious intersections of mental health, sexuality and real life — without shame, filters or pretense.

Hosted by Janine Noel (living with bipolar disorder) and Isadora O’Boto (ex-escort), this show brings together two radically honest perspectives for conversations that are as raw as they are insightful. From navigating mood swings and medication to unpacking the realities of sex work and desire, nothing is off-limits.

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Isadora O’Boto (co-host) is a Juilliard Drama grad. Under the pen name Sephe Haven, she is the author of two award-winning memoirs: My Whorizontal Life and A Someday Courtesan, and playwright/performer of the solo show: “My Whorizontal Life: The Show!” Isadora co-hosted the podcast My Index to Sex with Lynn Ferguson. Find her at: isadoraoboto.com

Janine Noel (co-host) is creator and host of Bipolar She podcast, where guests sh...