****Life Unscripted: Our stories, unfiltered. We are walking through life, sharing our stories. If at any point you become triggered by this conversation, please care for yourself.

Regret can feel like quicksand after sexual betrayal—pulling you under with shame, second-guessing, and the lie that nothing can change. We open up about the regrets that mattered most, from trusting unsafe people and waiting too long to get help to believing church clichés that sidelined boundaries and protected abuse. Then we pivot to the hard, hopeful work of turning regret into action: setting evidence-based expectations for change, practicing discomfort tolerance, and choosing community over isolation.

You’ll hear why “forgive and forget” isn’t a strategy, how “no” can be a complete sentence, and what it looks like to ask for proof of change without apologizing for your needs. We also dig into the inner mechanics of shame—how false agreements like “I am bad” build strongholds—and how to dismantle them with honesty, compassion, and consistent steps in the light. For betrayers, this means moving from vague remorse to measurable responsibility. For betrayed partners, it means radical self-compassion, reality-based acceptance, and boundaries that protect your peace.

We name the accountability gaps that sabotage recovery and make a case for groups that actually know this terrain. Real support changes outcomes: a 24/7 call list, weekly groups, and mentors who won’t collude with excuses. If you’re rebuilding after infidelity, this conversation offers practical language, faith-informed wisdom, and a gritty roadmap for healing that doesn’t sugarcoat pain or skip the work. Subscribe, share with someone who needs courage today, and leave a review with the one insight you’ll act on this week.

Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com.

Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps.

This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice. The views expressed by the Host or any Guest(s) are strictly their own and in no way constitute legal, medical, or professional advice.
Copyright ©️ 2025, Hurt Meets Healer, LLC. All rights reserved.

****Life Unscripted: Our stories, unfiltered. We are walking through life, sharing our stories. If at any point you become triggered by this conversation, please care for yourself.

You can end the sexual acting out and still be living a double life. We open up about the painful space where porn stops but secrecy survives, and how that “respectable betrayal” quietly starves a relationship of safety, partnership, and desire. From hidden financial moves and unilateral decisions to trickle truth and using recovery as a shield, we trace how old dopamine loops find new disguises when accountability is missing.

We get honest about shame and inadequacy, the posture of entitlement in recovery clothing, and why defensiveness during hard conversations sends one message: it’s not safe to lean on me. Then we get practical. We outline clear non‑negotiables that rebuild trust in real time: full financial transparency, the 24‑hour rule for significant decisions, daily or weekly check‑ins, open devices, and proactive disclosure of anything that feels tempting to hide. We also draw a crucial distinction between honesty and transparency—one answers when asked, the other goes first so a partner doesn’t have to live like a detective.

This conversation challenges the myth that sobriety equals safety. Real repair begins when the double life ends across every domain—money, time, communication, and decisions—and when amends show up as consistent, boring integrity. If you’ve felt excluded, minimized, or asked to “trust the process” while staying in the dark, you’ll find language, tools, and validation here. And if you’re the wayward partner, you’ll hear a path forward grounded in humility, inclusion, and daily choices that make protection more than a promise.

If this resonates, share it with someone who needs language for what they’re living, subscribe for the next episode on regrets, and leave a review to help others find the show. Your story can change. Start by ending the secrecy—together.

Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com.

Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps.

This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice. The views expressed by the Host or any Guest(s) are strictly their own and in no way constitute legal, medical, or professional advice.
Copyright ©️ 2025, Hurt Meets Healer, LLC. All rights reserved.

What if the most dangerous lie is the one you tell yourself first? We dig into the hard question—do liars know when they’re lying—and follow it through the real-world fallout: broken trust, numbed empathy, and a slow drift from love into image management. From conscious deceit to self-deception and memory distortions, we unpack how small compromises become a lifestyle, and how that lifestyle quietly erodes marriages, faith, and self-respect.

John opens up about the progression from self-protection to self-deception during addiction, and the painful realization that came only when he could finally see the damage up close. We talk about the difference between a quick “sorry” and the long grind of repair, and why allowing consequences to land is often the only way truth gets a hearing. For those navigating faith, we call out the misuse of Scripture to justify control and spotlight mutual submission, humility, and accountability as the actual path back to integrity.

If you’re stuck in patterns of lying, or loving someone who is, this conversation offers a roadmap: name entitlement, stop rationalizing, welcome feedback that stings, and take the first honest step toward repentance. Practical takeaways include building community support, setting clear boundaries, embracing measurable repair (transparency, follow-through, consistency), and recognizing guilt and shame as prompts to seek help rather than hide. Ready to trade image for truth and start rebuilding trust? Listen now, share this with someone who needs it, and subscribe so you never miss an episode. If this helped you, leave a review and tell us the next hard question you want us to tackle.

Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com.

Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps.

This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice. The views expressed by the Host or any Guest(s) are strictly their own and in no way constitute legal, medical, or professional advice.
Copyright ©️ 2025, Hurt Meets Healer, LLC. All rights reserved.