Hello, hello, and welcome to F Them Fish: AuDHD for Grownups with your neurodivergent besties, Callie Elward-Barrett and Jayne Gurton. This is the podcast where we talk about neurodivergence in real adult life: work, relationships, burnout, overwhelm, identity, and all the weird little things that make you think, ‘surely it’s not just me.’ We’re honest, occasionally sweary, and very much not interested in pretending to be polished.

Grab a beverage, or body double some life admin with us in your ears and let’s get started!

In this episode, Callie sits down with Twice-Exceptional PB - 11 year-old host of the popular podcast: 'PB's Productions, My ADHD Kids Podcast', that she started when she was only 8 years old!. PB has a lot of insights to share about what it really means to be a kid with ADHD. She talks with an incredible poise and emotional intelligence that most adults would be proud of. There are multiple moments that will make you stop and think a little deeper about the young people in your life, whether you're a parent, teacher, or favourite Aunty.

The episode keeps coming back to adults assuming they know, not asking what kids need, and mistaking ADHD challenges for intentional misbehaviour.

In a world full of adults explaining ADHD kids, this episode lets an ADHD kid explain it herself. Share this episode with the ADHD kids you know and ask them if they agree, or what they might say differently. And more importantly, share it with any adults who need to hear it.

"Try, be you, be kind, and bloom like that sunflower. Bloom bright... Just try, believe in yourself, because you are amazing." PB

• 00:15 – Meet PB, ADHD kid podcaster
• 02:05 – “I have a more advanced brain” PB introduces herself as a kid with ADHD, big thoughts, humour and a grown-up way of seeing things.
• 02:44 – If your ADHD brain had a theme song
• 08:19 – PB describes her brain in three words and explains what it is like when funny thoughts arrive at exactly the wrong moment.
• 09:54 – Why PB started her own ADHD podcast and why kids need to hear from other kids, not only adults talking about them.
• 13:56 – ADHD explained by an actual ADHD kid.
• 15:11 – What adults get wrong about ADHD kids
• 17:30 – “I don’t believe you” and “you did it on purpose” two things she wishes adults would stop saying to ADHD kids.
• 19:00 – What is actually cool about ADHD
• 21:07 – ADHD brain control panel
• 24:02 – The ultimate ADHD gadget
• 27:18 – Rapid-fire ADHD would-you-rathers
• 28:58 – The question adults should ask more often “What do you need?” and why that matters.
• 31:18 – The question PB is sick of adults asking and what adults might miss when they judge attention from the outside.
• 34:47 – What to say to ADHD kids who feel too much - a beautiful answer about being the perfect amount for yourself and blooming in your own way.
• 36:40 – ADHD is not about trying harder
• 37:38 – Bloom bright like a sunflower.
• 38:02 – Where to find PB’s podcast

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AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

This podcast was created on the lands of the Ngunnawal, Ngambri, Wadawurrung and Dja Dja Wurrung Peoples. Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land.

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hello, hello, and welcome to F Them Fish: AuDHD for Grownups with your neurodivergent besties, Callie Elward-Barrett and Jayne Gurton. This is the podcast where we talk about neurodivergence in real adult life: work, relationships, burnout, overwhelm, identity, and all the weird little things that make you think, ‘surely it’s not just me.’ We’re honest, occasionally sweary, and very much not interested in pretending to be polished.

Grab a beverage, or body double some life admin with us in your ears and let’s get started!

Our topic for today is all about how celebrating tiny wins can get you further towards your bigger goals. And please! It's important to keep those bigger goals! Not to beat yourself with, or berate yourself for not achieving them immediately, but because without them, life feels so much smaller. Callie is feeling the restriction of having lower expectations and how that feels the opposite of liberating - it feels suffocating.

As neurodivergent people, we can smash through the limited expectations others may place upon us and do truly amazing things. We don't HAVE to, we GET to. Underestimate us. We dare you.

• 00:07 Intro
• 01:08 Callie's best birthday ever? Maybe?
• 01:54 The 'wants vs needs' family hack because everyone wants something all the time!
• 04:58 Feeling seen rather than perceived
• 09:30 The six-minute birthday dance video
• 14:59 Listeners, we want your input! Should episodes start with a quick topic signpost?
• 15:41 Rubbish fidgets and blue moon rituals
• 17:49 Emotional and sensory hangovers
• 19:04 Main topic begins: Celebrating tiny wins
• 20:14 What celebrating tiny wins means for neurodivergent people
• 21:42 Everyday wins, momentum and using small successes to get started
• 24:26 Tiny wins, gratitude practice and undoing years of negative feedback
• 27:12 Who decides what counts as a win?
• 28:47 Tiny wins are not small dreams: building toward bigger goals
• 32:20 Fibro, health progress and finding hope in tiny improvements
• 33:53 Homework - watch the Room to Move doco on Netflix and share your tiny wins with us!

Find us on YouTube, Instagram and TikTok at F Them Fish: AuDHD for Grownups

Send your stories and questions to FThemFish@gmail.com

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

This podcast was created on the lands of the Ngunnawal, Wadawurrung and Dja Dja Wurrung Peoples. Always was, always will be.

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hello, hello, and welcome to F Them Fish: AuDHD for Grownups with your neurodivergent besties, Callie Elward-Barrett and Jayne Gurton. This is the podcast where we talk about neurodivergence in real adult life: work, relationships, burnout, overwhelm, identity, and all the weird little things that make you think, ‘surely it’s not just me.’ We’re honest, occasionally sweary, and very much not interested in pretending to be polished.

Grab a beverage, or body double some life admin with us in your ears and let’s get started!

Callie's brain is unhappy at the fact that she didn't knock off those extra few seconds and make this episode a nice, round 55 minutes! Also... 50 minutes is nowhere near the 30 minutes we keep promising ourselves!

In this episode, Callie and Jayne have no technical issues! It's true! That said, Jayne's pod dogs cause a whole other set of issues that lead to Callie singing. Sorry besties, this was a moment we are all going to need to process.

We go deep with listener bestie Robbie today, with their question about whether it is really necessary to get an Autism diagnosis as an adult. We're not going to lie, this one feels like a bit of a minefield, but we are committed to having the hard chats and giving you that space you need to talk about these things. Not everyone has a person, or a group of people they can talk with about their neurodivergence or when they feel they are neurodivergent. There are so many reason someone may not have a 'real life' bestie to bounce these things through, so we are honoured when we can be those people for you.

We absolutely loved this chat and hopefully, it answers some of your questions about Autism as a grown up.

00:14 — Welcome, pod dogs, and chaotic bestie energy

03:35 — Unexpected moments of connection with strangers can be beautiful

05:25 — Teeth brushing and did you know that ADHDers don't form habits?

10:15 — Motivation, meds, and mostly practical ADHD systems

13:35 — Robbie’s listener email

20:15 — Autism diagnosis and where un/self-diagnosed people fit within the Autism community

22:40 — Loneliness

29:15 — The weird in-between feeling when you don't have a formal diagnosis

31:35 — Imposter feelings and self-doubt

34:00 — Is formal diagnosis necessary?

39:00 — Practical supports without diagnosis

40:55 — When formal diagnosis can matter

46:35 — Final thoughts, validation, and listener call-out

Find us on YouTube, Instagram and TikTok at F Them Fish: AuDHD for Grownups

Send your stories and questions to FThemFish@gmail.com

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

This podcast was created on the lands of the Ngunnawal, Wadawurrung and Dja Dja Wurrung Peoples

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.