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AuDHD Podcast for grownups: F Them Fish!

AuDHD Podcast for grownups: F Them Fish!

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Welcome to the AuDHD Podcast for Grownups: F Them Fish, the podcast for neurodivergent adults navigating real life. Hosted by your neurodivergent besties, Callie Elward-Barrett and Jayne Gurton, this is your weekly safe space for honest, funny, and unpolished conversations about autism, ADHD, and AuDHD in adulthood.


If you are dealing with adult ADHD symptoms, late-diagnosed autism, or the unique intersection of AuDHD burnout, you are not alone. We dive deep into the everyday things nobody explains after an adult diagnosis: executive dysfunction, sensory overload, rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), masking, and neurodivergent relationship dynamics. We are honest, occasionally sweary, and completely uninterested in pretending to be perfect.


Grab a beverage, or body double some life admin with us in your ears. Tune in every week to understand your neurodivergent brain, combat overwhelm, and realize that it’s surely not just you.


Connect with us:

Email: fthemfish@gmail.com

YouTube and Instagram at AuDHD for Grownups: F Them Fish

Callie's Website: https://executivefunctioning.com.au/

LinkedIn: Callie: www.linkedin.com/in/callie-elward-barrett-263068142 Jayne: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jayne-gurton-


Subscribe or follow so you never miss an episode, and leave us a 5-star review if this pod makes you feel understood, entertained, or slightly less alone!

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Episodes
  • ADHD in Women: Resilience after a late diagnosis

    ADHD in Women: Resilience after a late diagnosis
    Oct 20 2026
    Welcome to AuDHD for Grownups: F Them Fish. This ADHD Awareness Month episode features late-diagnosed ADHD women Callie Elward-Barrett and Jayne Gurton discussing neurodivergent burnout, self-trust, and resilience when a toxic workplace decides you are the problem.Do you feel like you went from capable to suddenly being considered the problem without actually changing? What does resilience look like when you can’t simply wait for the difficult bit to end and ‘bounce back’? Callie shares the personal story behind her approach to resilience. As a senior executive, she was supported after her ADHD diagnosis, until a change in leadership brought a very different response.For Callie, three personal anchors help: feeling that what she does matters, finding joy for its own sake, and choosing to contribute to change. Remember, being harmed doesn’t make fixing the problem your responsibility.Hello, hello, and welcome! We are your neurodivergent besties, Callie Elward-Barrett and Jayne Gurton. We talk about neurodivergence in real adult life: work, relationships, burnout, identity, and all the things we wish someone had explained earlier. Take us along as your body double while you tackle the washing, go for a walk, or get through that task you’ve been avoiding.Inside the Episode:ADHD disclosure at work: Navigating toxic workplace environments, assumptions about executive dysfunction, and internalised blame.Late-diagnosed ADHD in women: Handling midlife transitions, masking, and the intense pressure to keep performing.Overcoming ADHD burnout: Why external validation matters when you struggle to trust your own worth.Reclaiming self-trust: Finding purpose in small interactions, and experiencing joy without needing to justify it.Workplace mistreatment: Choosing a different version of success on your own terms, including leaving an environment that keeps hurting you.Plus: Bedazzled ballet flats, celebrant Jayne, neurodiversity conference adventures, and the ‘ADHDacity’ of believing you could absolutely do someone else’s job.Content note: Swearing, workplace mistreatment, severe emotional distress, references to past dark thoughts, and childhood adversity. The most emotionally intense discussion is around 14:08-22:32. The practical reflection on what helps begins at 27:06.Timestamps00:00 Intro and welcome01:22 Bedazzled ballet flats04:51 Callie’s ADHD conference adventures12:39 When the room decides you’re the problem13:13 What does resilience actually mean?14:08 ADHD disclosure and a change in workplace support17:45 Internalised blame and rethinking ‘bouncing back’20:31 When you’re struggling but can’t talk22:32 Childhood, ambition, and refusing other people’s limits27:06 Feeling that you matter: purpose and external validation31:09 Joy for yourself, and choosing to be part of change35:49 Letting go of ‘back to normal’36:53 Your ADHD doesn’t make you the problem37:52 Keeping your ambition and defining success for yourself39:40 Listener reflections and staying connected40:47 Jayne’s Ballarat drag bingo What helps you feel that you matter? What brings you joy? Email us your stories, questions, or a different perspective - we want to hear it.Follow the show, share this episode with someone who needs it, and leave a rating or review if our conversations help you feel less alone. We might get better!Connect with usEmail: fthemfish@gmail.comFind us on YouTube and Instagram at AuDHD for Grownups: F Them FishWebsite: https://executivefunctioning.com.au/LinkedIn:Callie: https://www.linkedin.com/in/callie-elward-barrett-263068142Jayne: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jayne-gurton-This podcast was created on the lands of the Ngunnawal, Wadawurrung, and Dja Dja Wurrung Peoples. We acknowledge their continuing connection to Country and pay our respects to Elders past and present.This episode shares lived experience and personal reflections, not individual medical or psychological advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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    43 mins
  • ADHD Strengths: What We LOVE About Our ADHD Brains

    ADHD Strengths: What We LOVE About Our ADHD Brains
    Oct 13 2026

    Do you feel like every conversation about ADHD focuses on what's difficult? For ADHD Awareness Month, we're flipping the script and celebrating what we genuinely love about our ADHD brains.

    This week we're celebrating ADHD strengths: the joy of tangential conversations, seeing connections others might miss, creative problem-solving, boundless curiosity, empathy, and the audacity to question ‘but we've always done it this way.’

    Callie celebrates ambition, reinvention and recognising her own capabilities. Jayne brings crowns, crafting, chaos and the joy of exploring new interests. Together, we explore what makes our brains wonderful, without pretending that ADHD is always easy or that every ADHDer experiences it the same way.

    Hello, hello, and welcome to AuDHD for Grownups: F Them Fish with your neurodivergent besties, Callie Elward-Barrett and Jayne Gurton! We're talking grown-up life, ADHD, autism, relationships, work and everything in between, with honesty, humour and plenty of side quests. Let's get started!


    In this episode

    • Tangential conversations, ADHD friendships and finding your people
    • Pattern-spotting, cognitive flexibility and creative problem-solving
    • Empathy, diplomacy and understanding different perspectives
    • Curiosity, hyperfocus, hobbies and finding joy
    • Justice sensitivity and the ADH-Dacity to challenge convention
    • Career reinvention, confidence and staying ambitious after diagnosis
    • Our Mardi Gras announcement and upcoming appearances


    Timestamps

    00:00 Welcome, besties! It's ADHD Awareness Month

    03:00 Getting older, self-acceptance and AuDHDacity

    05:45 ADHD chaos, crowns and the Diva Den

    11:45 Could we start a body-doubling community?

    15:20 Tangential conversations and ADHD friendships

    18:30 Connecting dots and creative problem-solving

    19:20 Cognitive flexibility and different perspectives

    21:35 Empathy, diplomacy and We might get better!

    23:30 Creativity, curiosity and glorious rabbit holes

    26:20 Hobbies, experimentation and finding joy

    28:40 Passion, justice sensitivity and ADH-Dacity

    32:25 Reinvention, ambition and recognising our strengths

    37:00 BIG NEWS Announcement!

    38:30 Where to meet us this October

    41:00 Never stop exploring or becoming


    Join the conversation

    What do you genuinely LOVE about your ADHD brain?

    We'd love to hear your ADHD joys, strengths and stories.

    We're also exploring an affordable body-doubling and Q&A community where we can hang out with our besties. Would you be interested? Help us shape the idea!

    Interested in marching with WILD at Sydney Mardi Gras 2027? Get in touch to find out more.


    Mentioned in this episode

    • NSW ADHD Conference – 18 October 2026: Callie's session, Neurodivergent Women: Resilience Without Shrinking. https://www.trybooking.com/au/event/1517967
    • Piano Bar Ballarat – 22 October 2026: Drag Bingo, where Jayne will bring her Mardi Gras sparkle. https://www.pianobarballarat.com.au/whats-on
    • The NeuroQueer Engineers: Miss Behave (Pride 2026). https://music.amazon.com/albums/B0H664LKD8
    • ADHD Awareness Month workplace sessions: https://executivefunctioning.com.au/


    Connect with us

    Follow, rate and share the podcast with someone who needs a little ADHD joy in their life.

    We acknowledge the Ngunnawal, Wadawurrung and Dja Dja Wurrung peoples, the Traditional Custodians of the lands from which we record, and pay our respects to Elders past and present.

    Our conversations reflect lived experiences and perspectives, not medical or diagnostic advice.

    We might get better!

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    44 mins
  • ADHD House Hacks Part 2: Chores and Mental Load

    ADHD House Hacks Part 2: Chores and Mental Load
    Oct 7 2026
    Do you feel like managing a household with ADHD means being the one who remembers everything?Callie is back for House Hacks Part 2, with practical home organisation ideas for a neurodivergent house, from visible chore charts to a last-minute gift box. There’s also an honest look at the mental load when you’re the person keeping the systems running.It’s ADHD Awareness Month, the ADHD is ADHDing, and we might get better.Welcome to AuDHD for Grownups: F Them Fish, with your neurodivergent besties, Callie Elward-Barrett and Jayne Gurton. This week, Callie is flying solo, sharing her experience as an AuDHDer, neuroinclusion specialist, and parent in a blended family.In this episodeTiny tasks, endless side quests: When the three-minute Nike rule becomes half an hour of little jobs, and giving yourself permission to stop.Getting everyone involved: Shared shopping lists, reminders, and what happens when people stop using the system.The last-minute gift box: Preparing for the birthday party you remember approximately 30 minutes before it starts.Chore charts with clarity: Making expectations visible and explaining what finished actually means. Apparently, vacuum downstairs needs more detail.Needs versus wants: Making family spending priorities visible, with the adults subject to the same system. Yes, sometimes you will hate your own rules.The hidden mental load: Why a tidy outcome doesn’t necessarily mean the system is working for the person holding it all together.Neuroinclusion at home: Bringing Callie’s 5Cs Model for Neuroinclusion© into family life: Clarity, Capacity, Culture, and Conditions, led by Compassion.These are things we’re trying in an actual house, with actual humans who don’t always want to do chores. Some help a lot. Some need changing. The shoes are still in front of the shoe rack.Start with something that regularly causes friction. Pick one small change, design it with the people who’ll use it, and see how it goes. You’re allowed to adjust it.Pop us on as a body double while you tackle a manageable job, or just keep us company.Catch up on Part 1Episode 65: House Hacks: ADHD Organisation & Reducing Cognitive LoadMentioned in this episodeMy Spirited Mind NSW ADHD Conference: 18 October 2026, Castle Hill RSL.Free Neuroinclusive Facilitation webinar: 21 October 2026, 12–1 pm AEDT, with Callie and Cecilia Jones.Come tell us what works in your houseSend us your house hacks, questions, and the systems that spectacularly failed. We want to hear those too. What helped, what didn’t, and who’s doing the remembering?Email: fthemfish@gmail.comFind us on YouTube and Instagram at AuDHD for Grownups: F Them FishWebsite: https://executivefunctioning.com.au/LinkedIn: Callie Elward-Barrett | Jayne GurtonFollow the show so you don’t miss an episode. If this one sounds like your household, send it to someone who lives there. Ratings and reviews are always appreciated too...5 stars are the only stars! Occasional swearing. We share lived and professional experience. Different households need different things, so use what helps and adapt it to your people.We acknowledge the Ngunnawal, Wadawurrung, and Dja Dja Wurrung peoples, the Traditional Custodians of the lands on which we live, work, and record. We pay our respects to Elders past and present, and extend that respect to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander listeners.Email: fthemfish@gmail.comYouTube and Instagram at AuDHD for Grownups: F Them FishCallie's Website: https://executivefunctioning.com.au/LinkedIn: Callie: www.linkedin.com/in/callie-elward-barrett-263068142 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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    38 mins
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