• Ending Spanking: A New Approach to Parenting
    Jan 30 2026

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    Summary

    In this episode, Hope Rose discusses the importance of nonviolent parenting and provides a comprehensive framework for replacing spanking with effective discipline strategies. She emphasizes the need for self-regulation, understanding triggers, and teaching children appropriate behaviors. The episode also addresses the significance of repairing relationships after instances of spanking and offers alternatives to traditional consequences, focusing on teaching and emotional connection.

    Takeaways

    Real discipline tools mean to teach, not to hit.

    Awareness of triggers is a win in parenting.

    Your tone sets the room; regulate yourself first.

    Teaching skills is crucial for effective discipline.

    Repairing relationships is essential after conflict.

    Nonviolent discipline involves clear boundaries and teaching.

    Consequences should be related, respectful, and reasonable.

    Repair changes the imprint of past actions.

    Ending violence in parenting starts with a plan.

    You are not doomed if you've spanked; repair is possible.

    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to Nonviolent Parenting

    03:02 Understanding Triggers and Self-Regulation

    05:46 The Five-Part Replacement Framework

    12:11 Teaching Skills and Repairing Relationships

    17:56 Consequences and Alternatives to Spanking

    23:49 Repairing After Spanking and Moving Forward

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    31 mins
  • The Long Tail: Aggression, Mental Health, and Relationships (Why it shows up later)
    Jan 23 2026

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    Summary

    In this episode, Hope Rose delves into the long-term effects of spanking on children's mental health and relationships. She emphasizes that while spanking may seem effective in the short term, it can lead to significant behavioral issues later in life, such as aggression, anxiety, and poor relationship patterns. Hope argues that spanking is a deceptive form of discipline that teaches children to associate love with pain, ultimately shaping their nervous systems in harmful ways. She encourages parents to reflect on their own upbringing and the potential impacts of their parenting choices on their children’s futures.

    Hope also discusses the societal implications of corporal punishment, linking it to broader issues of violence and mental health. She highlights the importance of breaking the cycle of violence and fostering a nurturing environment that promotes emotional regulation and healthy boundaries. The episode serves as a call to action for parents to adopt more compassionate and effective parenting strategies that prioritize emotional well-being over immediate compliance.

    Takeaways

    Spanking is a trickster; it appears effective but has long-term costs.

    The real question is what the child's nervous system learns from spanking.

    Spanking teaches fear-based compliance, not emotional skills.

    Sound Bites

    "Spanking is a trickster."

    "Spanking is a short-term behavior interrupter."

    "Discipline is not violence; it's coaching."

    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to Spanking and Its Long-Term Effects

    05:06 The Illusion of Immediate Compliance

    10:00 The Global Impact of Corporal Punishment

    15:21 Gender Dynamics and Spanking

    20:36 The Parent's Experience and Emotional Costs

    26:20 Reframing Discipline: From Punishment to Guidance

    32:04 Practical Strategies for Non-Violent Parenting

    36:12 Conclusion: Creating a Cycle of Healing

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    39 mins
  • Spare the Rod: Faith, Scripture, and Ending Christian-Approved Hitting
    Jan 16 2026

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    Summary

    In this episode, Hope Rose delves into the complex topic of spanking and its implications on parenting and child development. She challenges traditional views rooted in misinterpretations of scripture, advocating for a non-violent approach to discipline that fosters connection and emotional regulation. The conversation emphasizes the importance of understanding the psychological effects of fear-based parenting and offers practical tools for creating a nurturing environment that promotes healthy development without resorting to violence.

    Takeaways

    Spanking is a form of violence and abuse.

    Discipline should focus on formation, not domination.

    Fear-based parenting leads to long-term psychological issues.

    Authority in parenting should be protective, not punitive.

    Gentle parenting involves firm boundaries without violence.

    Children learn to avoid honesty when fear is used as a control method.

    Spanking can damage the parent-child relationship.

    Effective discipline strategies can replace spanking.

    Repairing relationships after conflict is crucial for healthy development.

    Breaking generational cycles of violence is possible through conscious parenting.

    Sound bites

    "Spanking is violence, it's hitting."

    "Love does not hit."

    "Spanking reproduces violence."

    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to Spanking and Parenting Dynamics

    02:57 Challenging Misinterpretations of Scripture

    05:58 Understanding Discipline: Fear vs. Formation

    08:59 The Role of Authority in Parenting

    12:04 The Impact of Spanking on Child Development

    14:59 Alternatives to Spanking: Effective Discipline Strategies

    18:05 The Psychological Effects of Fear-Based Parenting

    20:53 Building Trust and Connection Without Violence

    23:57 Practical Tools for Non-Violent Parenting

    26:57 Repairing Relationships After Spanking

    29:55 Conclusion: Ending Generational Cycles of Violence

    Keywords

    spanking, parenting, discipline, Christian parenting, child development, non-violent communication, emotional regulation, fear-based parenting, authority, connection

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    41 mins
  • The Impact of Spanking on Child Development
    Jan 9 2026

    In this episode, Hope Rose delves into the complex relationship between spanking and its psychological effects on children. She discusses how spanking is a form of violence that can lead to long-term emotional and behavioral issues, emphasizing the importance of understanding threat wiring in the brain. Hope offers practical strategies for parents to foster healthy emotional regulation and co-regulation with their children, ultimately advocating for a shift away from punitive measures towards nurturing and supportive parenting practices.

    Takeaways

    Spanking is a form of violence and abuse.

    Children learn to associate love with danger when spanked.

    Fear-based discipline leads to anxiety and reactivity.

    Healthy parenting involves setting boundaries without violence.

    Co-regulation is essential for teaching emotional regulation.

    Parents must address their own triggers to avoid harming children.

    Spanking can lead to long-term psychological issues.

    Children raised in fear may struggle with honesty and integrity.

    Support and skills are crucial for transforming parenting.

    Breaking generational cycles of abuse is possible and necessary.

    Sound bites

    "Spanking is violence, hitting, abuse."

    "The best gift you can give your kids."

    "Abuse stops with you."

    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to Spanking and Its Impact

    02:00 The Brain on Spanking: Understanding Threat Wiring

    11:16 Real-Life Implications of Threat Wiring

    20:15 Regulation and Co-Regulation: Building Healthy Relationships

    27:34 Practical Strategies for Parents

    37:46 Conclusion and Commitment to Change

    Keywords

    spanking, parenting, child development, threat wiring, emotional regulation, co-regulation, discipline, mental health, child psychology, healthy relationships

    www.hoperosespeaks.com

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    40 mins
  • Spanking in Parenting: Why It’s Violence (Not Discipline)
    Jan 2 2026

    In this episode of A Transformed Life, Hope Rose addresses the critical issue of corporal punishment, specifically spanking, and its detrimental effects on children. She argues that spanking is not a form of discipline but rather a form of violence that perpetuates cycles of abuse. Hope emphasizes the need for clarity in language and understanding the psychological impact of corporal punishment on children. She provides practical tools for parents to adopt nonviolent discipline methods and encourages open communication and repair in parent-child relationships. The episode serves as a call to action for parents to break generational cycles of violence and to foster healthier, more compassionate parenting practices.

    Takeaways

    • Spanking is a form of violence, not discipline.
    • Clarity in language is essential for understanding the impact of corporal punishment.
    • Corporal punishment has no positive outcomes and is linked to negative psychological effects.
    • Parents often repeat patterns of behavior they experienced in their own childhoods.
    • Nonviolent discipline is about leadership, not permissiveness.
    • Children need connection and communication, not physical punishment.
    • The location of the hit does not change the moral implications of violence.
    • Pain as a tool for discipline can lead to long-term emotional issues in children.
    • Parents must address their own emotional regulation to avoid harming their children.
    • Ending the cycle of violence requires awareness and a commitment to change.

    Sound bites

    "We need to say it is hitting."

    "Clarity and truth is kindness."

    "Love does not hurt."

    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to Ending Generational Violence

    02:46 Understanding Spanking as Violence

    05:55 The Myths Surrounding Discipline and Pain

    08:58 The Impact of Corporal Punishment on Children

    12:12 Dismantling the Bottom Myth

    14:55 The Cycle of Violence and Its Consequences

    18:03 Practical Tools for Nonviolent Parenting

    20:50 The Importance of Communication and Repair

    23:58 Commitment to Change and Ending Abuse

    26:48 Conclusion and Call to Action

    Keywords

    spanking, corporal punishment, child discipline, parenting, violence, abuse, emotional regulation, nonviolent communication, generational cycles, child rights

    https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/corporal-punishment-and-health

    https://hrlibrary.umn.edu/crc/comment8.html

    https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7992110/

    https://www.gse.harvard.edu/ideas/usable-knowledge/21/04/effect-spanking-brain

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    32 mins
  • 12 Standards I Live By (and you can too)
    Dec 26 2025

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    Summary

    In this episode, Hope Rose reflects on her personal journey and the lessons learned in 2025, including her completion of climbing all 58 of Colorado's 14ers. She introduces 12 standards for living that she aims to implement in 2026, focusing on self-respect, personal growth, and empowerment, particularly for mothers. The conversation emphasizes the importance of mental health, setting boundaries, and living authentically. Hope encourages listeners to adopt these standards to elevate their lives and contribute to a collective healing process.

    Takeaways

    Hope completed the Colorado 58 14ers as a personal achievement.

    She emphasizes the importance of self-respect and boundaries.

    The 12 standards for living are designed to empower individuals.

    Nervous system care is crucial for mental health.

    Authenticity is more valuable than performance.

    Changing one's mind is a sign of growth and maturity.

    Clarity should not be chased from those who benefit from confusion.

    Living with intention and at one's own pace is essential.

    Hope advocates for the empowerment of mothers and healing for all.

    The mission is to bring health, healing, and hope to others.

    Titles

    Elevating Life Standards for 2026

    Empowerment Through Personal Growth

    Sound bites

    "My nervous system is a priority."

    "I choose truth over performance."

    "Rushing is how I lose myself."

    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections

    03:49 Setting Standards for 2026

    08:12 The 12 Standards for Living

    28:02 Empowering Mothers and Personal Growth

    31:50 Conclusion and Looking Ahead

    Keywords

    personal growth, standards for living, empowerment, self-respect, mental health, motherhood, healing, transformation, 2026 goals

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    No portion of contributions is intended to constitute personal income to the creator.

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    34 mins
  • Keeping My Power: 25 Gifts 2025 Taught Me
    Dec 19 2025

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    Summary

    In this episode, Hope Rose reflects on the transformative experiences of 2025, sharing 25 gifts that have empowered her to embrace her existence, establish firm boundaries, and prioritize self-respect. She emphasizes the importance of language, the power of saying no, and the necessity of personal growth, particularly for women. Hope encourages listeners to honor themselves, recognize their worth, and take actionable steps towards healing and empowerment, while also addressing the societal issues surrounding domestic violence and women's rights.

    Takeaways

    I don't ask for permission to exist.

    My boundaries don't need a courtroom of approval.

    Clarity isn't aggression, it's leadership.

    I can be kind and immovable at the same time.

    Over explaining is a nervous habit and not a requirement.

    If I'm negotiating my worth, I'm already off center.

    An apology is for harm, not for taking up space.

    I can decline without defending.

    Urgency is often someone else's tactic.

    I don't manage other people's emotions about my limits.

    Titles

    Empowerment Through Boundaries

    The Journey of Self-Discovery

    Sound bites

    "I don't ask for permission to exist."

    "I can decline without defending."

    "No is a complete sentence."

    Chapters

    00:00 Reflecting on Transformation and Healing

    04:26 The Gifts of 2025: Empowerment and Boundaries

    07:17 The Importance of Language and Self-Expression

    10:34 Understanding Boundaries and Personal Growth

    13:00 The Power of No and Self-Respect

    16:42 Navigating Relationships and Emotional Boundaries

    19:05 Choosing Alignment Over Understanding

    22:23 Self-Leadership and Personal Standards

    25:40 Honoring Oneself and Living Authentically

    30:07 Final Thoughts: Living with Purpose and Clarity

    Keywords

    transformation, healing, empowerment, boundaries, personal growth, self-respect, emotional intelligence, women's rights, domestic violence, personal development

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    No portion of contributions is intended to constitute personal income to the creator.

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    34 mins
  • When Your System Says “I’m Done” and Life Still Needs You
    Dec 12 2025

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    Summary

    In this episode, Hope Rose explores the challenges of managing overwhelm and stress in our lives, emphasizing the importance of understanding our nervous system responses. She discusses practical strategies for self-leadership, regulation, and creating supportive environments to navigate pressure effectively. The conversation highlights the significance of awareness, small steps, and rituals in fostering personal growth and emotional well-being.

    Takeaways

    • Awareness is crucial for making choices about our well-being.
    • Partnering with your nervous system is essential for alignment.
    • Self-leadership begins with how we treat ourselves.
    • There is no reward for pushing through stress; prioritize self-care.
    • Small, honest steps are more effective than grand gestures.
    • Creating a supportive environment can help manage overwhelm.
    • Borrowed regulation from trusted individuals can provide stability.
    • Rituals can help create a positive mindset for challenging tasks.
    • Recognizing the energy of our thoughts can influence our actions.
    • Practicing self-compassion is key to personal transformation.
    • Titles
    • Navigating Overwhelm: A Guide to Self-Leadership
    • Transforming Stress into Strength

    Sound bites

    "There's no badge for pushing through."

    "Awareness is the first step to choice."

    "Everything is energy."

    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to the Journey of Self-Discovery

    02:54 Understanding the Nervous System's Signals

    06:07 The Importance of Self-Leadership

    09:08 Practical Strategies for Managing Overwhelm

    11:53 Creating a Supportive Environment

    15:11 Mindful Practices for Stress Relief

    17:53 The Power of Small Steps

    21:07 Building a Support Network

    24:02 Rituals for Focus and Clarity

    27:00 Final Thoughts on Alignment and Awareness

    Keywords

    nervous system, self-leadership, overwhelm, regulation, mental health, stress management, personal growth, mindfulness, emotional well-being, transformation

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    35 mins