In this episode, we navigate the "place of great danger" that is soliciting feedback, teaching you how to distinguish between seeking approval and seeking actionable insight.

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The Core Concept: Nuanced Questioning

Soliciting feedback is a risky step in development because we are often sensitive and prone to seeking simple approval. To get truly actionable insight, you must change the nature of your questions from binary ("Did you like it?") to specific and process-related ("What flavors did you taste?").

Key Takeaways:

• Approval vs. Feedback: Approval is a binary like/dislike; feedback is a nuanced understanding of choices made in context.
• The "Mirror" Effect: Respondents are mirrors reflecting your process back to you, but their reflection is always flavored by their own subjective preferences.
• Specific Inquiries: Ask what someone would have done differently or what was most attractive about an experience to get actionable data.
• The Feedback Nightmare: If you use subjective feedback as your sole behavioral driver, you risk going adrift by following a "thousand different perspectives".

Creators & Guests

• Brian Mattocks - Host

• Tim Dedman
• Jorge

This episode discusses how creating physical objects in the world—from woodworking to 3D printing—builds a problem-solving capacity that translates across all domains of life.

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The Core Concept: Solving Problems in Context

Making something—whether it’s a recipe or a 3D-printed object—creates a series of "micro-problems" that must be solved within specific design constraints. This process is a form of active discovery that builds "agility" and "capacity," teaching you how to iterate through solutions until you find the right answer.

Key Takeaways:

• Low Risk, High Reward: The risk of making something is low (bad taste, ugly look), but the upside is the potential for a life-changing peak experience.
• Peak Experiences: Using a tool like a 3D printer to watch an object you designed materialize can be a "profound" moment of discovery.
• Solution Maturation: Through making, you learn to start with the "right answer" next time, rather than repeating the same trial-and-error process.
• Cross-Functional Skills: The logic you use to fix a "too spicy" dish can unexpectedly translate to a "fishing solution" or a problem that life tosses at you.

Creators & Guests

• Brian Mattocks - Host

• Tim Dedman
• Jorge

In this episode, we explore the architecture of self-development, specifically focusing on how to build a mindfulness or contemplative practice that actually fits your life.

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The Core Concept: The Architect of Development

Many people abandon self-development practices like journaling or meditation because they try to follow rigid, "one-size-fits-all" traditions that don't match their reality. The key to a sustainable practice is to design a protocol that is easily integrated into your existing habits, allowing for consistent reflection and self-evaluation.

Key Takeaways:

• Stop Fighting Friction: If a specific practice feels impossible, don't write off the behavior entirely; change the method to fit your limitations.
• Anchor Behaviors: Tie new mindfulness practices to existing habits—like slow-walking to the fridge or reflecting while brushing your teeth.
• Avoid Over-Ceremony: Keep the barrier to entry low. Lighting candles and closing drapes can actually make a habit harder to maintain long-term.
• The Reflective Goal: The ultimate purpose is simply to cultivate a process where you can evaluate your internal world and identify areas for growth.

Creators & Guests

• Brian Mattocks - Host

• Tim Dedman
• Jorge