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We Are Not Seeing It

How and Why Mainstream Schools Break SEND Kids

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We Are Not Seeing It

By: Luisa Gray
Narrated by: Luisa Gray
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“It’s a behaviour problem”

“It must be a home problem”

“We are not seeing it”

These words are used like weapons against SEND families. More and more children are struggling in UK schools – and most of those children have Special Educational Needs & Disabilities (SEND). But while policy makers, schools and the media have spent years trying to blame parents for the huge numbers of children “disappearing” from schools, no-one has looked at the deepest root of the problem: the school system itself.

Until now.

In “We Are Not Seeing It: How & Why Mainstream Schools Break SEND Kids”, blogger and parent Luisa Gray (aka. @LongRoadSENDMum) explains what the drivers of the SEND emergency REALLY are — and how UK schools and Local Authorities are routinely causing harm to SEND children: harm that is massive, with potentially life-long effects. "We Are Not Seeing It" explains:

• How anyone can be a SEND parent (and not know it yet!)

• "The Social Contract" we enter when we send our kids to school

• “Quality First Teaching” and how it fails to meet most kids' needs

• "Command & Control" discipline that's gone out of control

• SEND law, and how it’s routinely ignored

• Parent blame, child blame and gaslighting

• The devastating mental health impact on kids and parents

• And how all these factors have created the perfect storm in mainstream schools.

"We Are Not Seeing It" is the book every parent of school-age children needs to listen to.

©2024 Luisa Gray (P)2025 Luisa Gray
Education Parenting & Families Relationships School-Age Children Special Education & Disabilities Health

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I say anyone involved in SEND should read this and I mean it. It is a gutwrenchingly honest assessment of the UK education system, Local Authorities and parenting/caring for SEND children. Some won’t like what it says because it’s honestly critical. But if you wish to understand the battle SEND parents and Children go through every day, this should be a book you listen to as soon as possible. As a SEND parent myself I’ve witnessed what happens when you take on the system. This book shows it in all its awful “glory”. An absolute must listen.

Must listen for anyone involved with SEND

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This book takes a deep delve into the many decades of the education system's failures, right up until the present SEND crisis. It's factual, consistent and written through lived experience by a SEND parent who is clearly a passionate advocate for all that share her grievances. Luisa Gray is another powerful voice for everyone who has suffered through the many generations in the word of Special Educational Needs and Disabilities.

Factual, current and real!

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A difficult, emotional listen exposing everything wrong with the SEND system today - not the law itself, but its application and accountability.

Must-read for all SEND stakeholders

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