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Born with autism, both Temple Grandin and Sean Barron now live famously successful social lives. However, their paths were quite different. Temple's logical mind controlled her social behavior. She interacted with many adults and other children, experiencing varied social situations. Logic informed her decision to obey social rules and avoid unpleasant consequences. Sean's emotions controlled his social behavior. Baffled by social rules, isolated and friendless, he made up his own, and applied them to others. When they inevitably broke his rules, he felt worthless and unloved.

Both Temple and Sean ultimately came to terms with the social world and found their places in it. Whether you are a person with autism, a caregiver in the autism community, or just someone interested in an outsider view of society, their powerful stories will enthrall and enlighten you.

©2017 Temple Grandin and Sean Barron (P)2017 Future Horizons

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For neurotypicsls

This book is not a self help book for people on the spectrum as I expected. Rather its for neurotypical parents who's children are sowewhere in middle of the spectrum to make them inderstand their little troublemakers a little bit better. It's quite exhousting and very detailed as expected because its written by people who are really autistic. But after six hours of listening time I'm getting bit frustrated because Despite the lengths there is very little to learn and despite all criticism I like personal stories of the authors as I can relate back to my own childhood and remember situations which were already in trashcan somewhere deep in my brain and it's good refreshment of my early memories. I've been very lucky to kind of outgrow the sensory issues I had early on so it really helped me to concentrate on the world around me much better than if I kept struggling to pass around butcher shop or Isle of laundry detergents. I suppose I tried subconsciously forget all my struggles. As for someone who most probably has both AS and ADHD its very boring and hard to keep on to the very end.
However it made it more clear to me as how my son might experience the world around him and what I could do better as parent.
At least two sections of the book are repeated more than once. The audio book needs serious editing.
But most off all I just really hate the narrator. He's trying to immitate monotonous high pitched tone of voice which autistic people usually use and it's really annoying and confusing. Transitions are unclear as I don't know if that part is Temple Grandin speaking or Sean Barron. I have to go back and forth all the time to find out. I would give it much higher rating if the narrator just sounded normal.

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Great for parents too!

I am a parent of a child with an ASD. This book has helped me to better understand her behaviour. It has also helped me greatly with parenting techniques and how to help and prevent meltdowns. This book gives me hope for her future!

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Essential book for every family

The information in this book is essential for every parent it will make you understand way your child behave in certain way and how to respond to it

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  • Ms. Jennifer's Autism Classroom
  • 01-07-17

Definitely an eye opener! A must read by everyone!

This book was an eye opener for me as a parent of a child with ASD and as a teacher. So many things make sense now and I feel I can help my own child and my students better.

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  • Tom H.
  • 14-05-18

Great book about life.

This book is amazing. The message and how it is presented is perfect. If you think the book needs editing then I think you may not understand the message. Not everyone thinks, feels, understand the same. What is normal and what society says it is... is not for many folks... I am ready to meet Temple... she is my hero.

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  • Ryan
  • 13-11-20

With 2 authors there should have been 2 narrators.

The content was alright. The information was helpful to a degree, although, it was more geared towards explaining the autistic/aspie perspective to neurotypicals. That is all well and good, but I was hoping more for a breakdown of unwritten social rules for autistics/aspies by autistics/aspies. There was still some useful information; just not what I was looking for.

Also the audiobook needed two or three narrators instead of a mere one. This book is at times a collaboration on basic subject, but some parts are being attributed to a specific author. Within the physical book there are different shades of lines next to each part to better distinguish who is talking. The audiobook does not have this. The sections start with "Sean speaks" or "Temple speaks", but with some of the sections being on the longer side having two narrators to establish some better distinction would have been a vast inprovement.

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  • Pianomanswife
  • 23-07-20

Take the good and spit out the bones

While there were some good things which help me understand my daughter better some things were a real turn-off.

I would have given the content of this book 4 stars had it not been for the open disrespect for the President, a man who was elected to the position by the people. While everyone has a right to their opinion, said opinions had nothing to do with the topic. If I had wanted political bashing I would have gone to social media. If I was an American I would have been even more offended. It was a real turn off. I didn't turn it off because I was seeking answers to help my child. Some of those answers were here.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 21-08-18

Great story and good read!

Both Dr. Grandin and Sean Barron give excellent advice to those on the spectrum and their loved ones on coping with life with autism. I am recommending this book as an effective tool for therapists and their clients.

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  • Lin Mossey
  • 11-05-20

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This book allows me to see from the ASD perspective. I will keep these 10 rules in mind as I try to help young adults build work ethics and manage his or her emotions. Thanks

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  • Matthew T. Carpenter
  • 21-11-17

Illuminating.

Fantastic read. Reassuring that others struggle with the same basic social skills, and informative. Glad I had a chance to learn from their mistakes and revelations.

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  • Seth Forbus
  • 15-02-21

great book, skip the politics.

Despite the authors repeatedly stating that an unspoken rule of social relationships is to only discuss politics with people close to you, the book repeatedly shares political opinions that ruin the moment. As a conservative professional on the spectrum, I find this ironic and disappointing that the authors couldn't resist breaking their own rules.

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  • William Cady
  • 02-10-19

Even Better Than I Expected

I received a review copy of this book.

I was initially interested in this book without having read the subtitle or description and assumed it was mere social observation. That it was about autism increased my interest significantly, both due to my career as a Direct Support Professional and some developments in my home life. It did not at all disappoint. I found this book both thoughtful and moving. I feel safe to say that if it is not my favorite nonfiction book that I have read this year, it is a close second. My only real criticism is that this particular book did not lend itself to the audio format, and I would recommend anyone for whom traditional books are an option purchase or borrow a physical copy rather than the audiobook.

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  • Liliana Piegari
  • 06-09-18

Excellent information for people with ASD or not

Great analysis and comparison of human behavior within or without the spectrum. Requires at least part two. Useful and entertaining.

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