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"Are you who the person you are looking for is looking for?" - Andy Stanley

Single? Looking for the "right person"? Thinking that if you met the "right person" everything would turn out "right"? Think again.

In The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating, Andy Stanley explores the challenges, assumptions, and land mines associated with dating in the 21st century. Best of all, he offers the most practical and uncensored advice you will ever hear on this topic. Not for the faint of heart, The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating challenges single Christ followers to step up and set a new standard for this generation!

"If you don't want a marriage like the majority of marriages," says Stanley, "Then stop dating like the majority of daters!"

Part One: "The Right Person Myth" - 1 Corinthians 13:4-5

Part Two: "Gentleman's Club" - 1 Peter 3:7

Part Three: "Designer Sex" - 1 Corinthians 6:18

Part Four: "If I Were You" - Proverbs 14:8

©2015 Zondervan (P)2015 Zondervan

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Dangerous

I digged into the first few chapters of this book and was amazed it was written by a pastor. The introduction and first chapter made no reference to Christ.

I've never read such a book which I felt so angered by. It's misleading and in many ways, just wrong.

Don't buy this book.

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  • Simran Kaur
  • 02-01-18

To those upset the book uses Jesus as a standard

I read the one stars, and they are quite unified. The book is trash the moment you realize it doesn't completely trash Jesus' example and standards for Love. That is the antithesis to logic, reason, Atheism as a whole: to trash something because of the preconceived rather than the learned, reviewed and researched. Is this book going to challenge your pre-existing views, drag in Christian values that you may not think are the standard? Sure. Does the author do it in a respectful, suggestive, religious-free way? Hell yes. If this impeccable attempt at sliding what is agreeable from a belief system into the every day person's life isn't good enough, you're dragging a filter in yourself, rather than an objective view. Here's why your filter needs to be trashed, or put on a shelf for a year: you searched for dating advice books. Your existing data, filters, applications, are not working and you are looking for help. What you've thought was good advice in the past, was in fact not. Your thinker is broken. That's a major theme in this challenge. After applying what some call "common knowledge" from the book, and being more than half way through the one year challenge described at the end of the book, I have to say the results so far are remarkable. It's been the hardest time, and the most fruitful time of my life. I've taken breaks from dating before, but not with the Stanley's viewpoints in mind. I hope people set aside their existing, failing wisdom and take a chance. A one year chance. It's been so remarkable, I don't think I'll date someone who hasn't taken the challenge.

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  • Suzanne
  • 24-04-16

No-Nonsense Honesty, with a True Biblical Wisdom!

I really appreciated Andy's honesty and his assessment of the different mindsets of men and women and how culture and the world can lead us astray. This book taught me to examine myself and my patterns of behavior and motivated me to exchange bad choices for biblical ones, as it pertains to relationships. I highly recommend this book!

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  • Jessica
  • 09-01-16

I wish Andy himself would have narrated the book.

But, Stu did a great job. The book was wonderful and full of great info. It really made me think. Even if u don't think u can commit to the one year plan, it's an amazing learning tool. As a mom, it also gave me some great advice to pass on. Things I wish I was told, and things I wish someone would have told the boys I had dated. And if u don't like it, as Andy wrote himself, there's always ebay lol.

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  • Marie
  • 25-07-15

Uninteresting - not what I expected

Struggled to keep listening. Narrator's voice a bit irritating. sorry to say but I'd prefer to give book back for a credit. please.

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  • S. Ponce
  • 10-09-15

Every single person should read!

awesome book will read over again
this is a must for anyone who is single newly single or going through a divorce and is interested in entering the dating arena this all makes sense we need to get to know who we are and what we need to change in our lives before we get into a new relationship and it's all based on what the Lord wants for us and I'm sure this can't get any better than that

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 11-08-18

BRAVO!!!

I'm a 54 year old male
divorced 7 years
and have a 13 year old son
This is full of great council and encouragement
This was an answer to prayer
needed something to listen to with my son regarding healthy human sexuality, and discuss it if he would like.Im planning on hitting play once we are out of sight of land
I m fairly confident he won't attempt to swim for shore
But seriously
Andy hits this topic from all angles
and with some very dry wit.
I really respect the love courage and grace it must have taken to put this on paper.,
clearly birthed out of his heathy anger at what he sees his fellow man suffering through, just my opinion

Another helpful tool in my tool box as i seek to turn from my sin so I can hopefully be a father my son can at least respect
and have a more fruitful life,unlike his fathers
though I'm hoping in GODS kindness He will restore and transform much of my past
I will be reading/listening to more of this
mans work.

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  • Kakashi
  • 06-08-18

Great book

I really enjoyed the book. The author presented his points clearly and supported them. I highly recommend it.

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  • ana hume
  • 23-06-18

After 15 yrs if Marriage and now divorced and dating...

This book has 100% accurate and significant advise to help anyone dating in today’s society. Luckily for me, I realized after my divorce I had to give myself a year. Hearing that advice in this book, helps me confirm I am on the right path. This book is a must read!!

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  • Shannon B.
  • 13-04-18

A Must Read!

Excellent!! Everyone should listen to this, more than once. It puts many great things into perspective! Divorce rates would drop considerably if people would use this book as a life resource. Relationships would thrive and people could be so much happier in life!

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  • William Porter
  • 05-03-18

A new meaning of love, dating and sex

Wow.... I have a lot of bible in me, I know the word but this book shined a light on this that gave me a whole lot more depth and understanding! I have already recommended it to 3 people.