I see a lot of self-help videos and books telling people to "stand straight" or "look people in the eye" in order to look more confident.
But you don't want to look more confident, do you? You actually want to be more confident, to feel it deep inside you.
This is exactly how I felt when I was starting to research self-confidence. I thought to myself: "Ok, I'll look people in the eye when I talk but, what do I say?"
Sure, I'll speak up more in meetings, but how? When the voice inside my head is going crazy about how I might sound weird or the question I'm asking might sound dumb.
My problem wasn't that I was struggling with "getting out of my comfort zone" or "speaking up more", it was more my inner voice worrying and overthinking. An inner voice that was holding me back from my true potential.
In fact, it might sound contradictory, but inside my own head I was pretty confident. I liked who I was as a person, I was just introverted and didn't feel the need to fake a personality or fake interest in a conversation if I wasn't feeling like engaging. This left me being the quiet one in the room and although I was sure of who I was as a person, I felt like people were thinking that I was too quiet or shy.
So is confidence about how I feel? Or how they see me?
These are the questions I wanted to answer in my book. What does TRUE confidence really mean and how does it feel. I knew it wasn't just about looking taller or having the loudest voice in the room, so what was it really about? and how can I get THAT.
So I created my book, The Mindset of Confidence.
There's nothing in this audiobook about trying to "appear" to be confident, it's about figuring out what confidence really is, how it really feels, and how you can truly achieve confidence from within.
This audiobook includes:
- A look into my personal battle with being introverted/shy, and how that can co-exist with confidence
- A secret method that I created that allows you to look confident without feeling like you're pretending to be someone you're not
- An action plan you can take to fight overthinking and the destructive inner voice that kills confidence
- A plan of attack for how you can take the methods in the book and actually apply them to your real life
When I discovered what true confidence really meant, it was a complete game changer. I no longer have to have that battle in my head about being introverted or shy while also being confident. I can honestly say that I am both introverted and confident, and I don't have to pretend to be outgoing and extroverted to feel confident and show confidence to others.
If you'd like to achieve this level of true inner confidence, I urge you to grab a copy of my book, The Mindset of Self-Confidence today.