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Summary

Nearly all of us have an ideal of what a "dream" relationship would be, but very few of us are living in one. Three decades of research and clinical practice have led Harville Hendrix to pinpoint four essential "non-negotiable" keys to creating and sustaining a healthy, loving relationship.

In this workshop, he will help couples: understand what prevents them from achieving the type of relationship they aspire to; discover how to cultivate those habits that can create the conditions that permit such a relationship to blossom; and practice the Imago Dialogue, a three-step process that offers us a highly effective tool to transform our dream about our relationship into reality.

Harville Hendrix is one of the foremost therapists and authors in the world on the subject of relationships. This presentation explores the role the unconscious plays in choosing a partner and will show you how to avert anguish, stimulate growth, and gain insight to your patterns of attraction and conflict.

You will learn to pinpoint unmet childhood needs and replace self-defeating traits with effective skills. Whether you’re in a relationship or are having trouble connecting with the right person, this lecture will show you how to get the love you want!

Harville Hendrix, PhD, is a clinical pastoral counselor who is known internationally for his work with couples. He and his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, co-created Imago Relationship Therapy and developed the concept of "conscious partnership". Their own partnership and collaboration has resulted in nine books on intimate relationships and parenting, including the best-selling book Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples.

©2013 Harville Hendrix (P)2012 BetterListen! LLC, all rights reserved.

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"I have learned a lot from Harville Hendrix. His work is profoundly insightful." (Marianne Williamson)

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It’s a lecture not a book

I did enjoy this but it wasn’t what I was expecting. It was 2 recorded lectures rather than the book I was looking for. Did I miss the description somehow?

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  • White Night
  • 31-05-20

Enlightenment on the crux of any good marriage.

I had to listen at 1.5 -1.7x speed but the the conversation was golden.

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  • Melanie
  • 14-08-18

A turtle and a hailstorm

amazing information. entertaining intelligence. so amazing to hear this information. I am sorry that I have filed for divorce before hearing this. i will try to intentionally relate though and not just react. it is sad how mean we are to each other and how truthful this information is.

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  • Ed Shaker
  • 07-06-15

A great performer, too!

Hendrix was recommended to me because of his insights - and listening to this recording of his lecture I discovered that he is also a great speaker. Performer, even! I have never laughed so much at descriptions of my own shortcomings. He cracks me up with harsh truths as if they were stand-up comedy. Finally, I am no stranger to relationship theories, but found a certain depth about Hendrix that made me think, again and again, fresh thoughts. I'm looking forward to listening to more of his stuff. Wish I read this 30 or 40 years ago!

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  • Vicky Grant
  • 31-07-21

Biggest waste of my time and money

The stream of the authors consciousness is so fragmented. He jumps around so much I lost interest. Very disjointed!!!

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  • Michelle
  • 05-05-21

Very Helpful

I found it totally interesting and could relate to majority of the reactions and behavior within my relationships. I only wish I had listened to this sooner as it would have helped me nurture & save the relationship I was just in. However the information was profound & easy to understand.

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  • Gagandeep Rajpal
  • 22-10-19

Great intro to his work

Great intro to his work. The slides used in the lecture are missing though. It would have been much better to have had them available as a downloadable pdf.

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  • Barbara J.
  • 10-04-16

Life Changing

We now have the technology to build it! Build what? A Dream Relationship!!!! Thank you!