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Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to? Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel you are "walking on eggshells" to avoid the next confrontation? If the answer is yes, someone you care about may have borderline personality disorder (BPD) - a mood disorder that causes negative self-image, emotional instability, and difficulty with interpersonal relationships.

Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped more than a million people with friends and family members suffering from BPD understand this difficult disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones stop relying on dangerous BPD behaviors. This fully revised third edition has been updated with the very latest BPD research on comorbidity, extensive new information about narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), the effectiveness of schema therapy, and coping and communication skills you can use to stabilize your relationship with the BPD or NPD sufferer in your life. This compassionate guide will enable you to:

  • Make sense out of the chaos
  • Stand up for yourself and assert your needs
  • Defuse arguments and conflicts
  • Protect yourself and others from violent behavior
©2020 Paul T. Mason and Randi Kreger (P)2021 Tantor

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Low hanging fruit

There is a lot of reasonable advice, but it all seems self-evident and easy to do. The hard decisions are not given as much attention in my opinion. Also, the assumption is made that the reader is psychologically healthy and that their loved one has borderline or narcissism. From this assumption, it is always assumed that criticism the loved one provides is not the point of any conversation, because it must be based on out-of-control emotions. The reader is constantly reassured and less emphasized is a more critical approach to oneself.

Given that many people with borderline have frequent interaction with healthcare, I find this subject glossed over rather superficially. Also, I don't agree with some of the advice on this topic.

The narration is great. The only point I will make here is that it might be a good idea to add a pdf with references and websites and such, instead of reading each URL aloud.

So the target audience is the person who believes their loved one has borderline or narcissism, believes they themselves are to blame for everything that happens in the relationship. For this person, this book could be quite helpful. If you are a healthcare professional or researcher, this book might not teach you much.

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  • 07-02-21

Who knew?!

This book was a huge help. It helped me understand my twin sister who I assumed was just hostile and angry like our father. Turns out she and my Dad both have BPD. All these years I took everything she said personally, and through her years of manipulation I felt I was the problem.

Now I know, that her BPD turns logic and reason into an endless argument. She will always victimize herself after she berates me and says the most messed up nasty things she can think of.

It’s very liberating to know she has a disorder of the mind and can’t help what she says. Also a load off knowing it’s not me that’s the problem, it’s the hurt within herself. I literally felt the stress and worry lift from my shoulders after listening to this audible.

Thank you for writing this book!!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 26-03-21

I wish I would have read this sooner! Please read!

I couldn't put it down! My situation was poster child for BPD. it will help you deciding if your relationship is worth saving.

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  • annedivito
  • 30-06-21

Amazing!

I feel like someone has been following me around and documenting my life! This book has helped so much, I now understand that I am not alone, I have lived with a man with BPD for over 20 years and was at a breaking point. I honestly can’t begin to tell you the relief I have from this. Thank you so much for all the information provided. It has changed my life!

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  • Davinia Lee McComb
  • 07-06-21

mother of a bpd son

This book was very helpful. It is one hell of a rollercoaster loving someone with BPD. I will take any education that I can get to help my son and myself !

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  • Anonymous User
  • 13-07-21

great souce of information

This book is a great source of information, I wish more authorities will be more educated on this topic, this could save many people, and help us to have a better communities. The need of experts on bpd in court rooms is evident, each judge should be working hand to hand with a specialist. This book should be mandatory to read for all judges. Excellent book! 👍👏

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  • Elizabeth Monahan
  • 07-07-21

I didn’t want to believe

I do know it’s true now. I am out of the relationship and going through a horrific divorce.
I would recommend definitely…
This makes so much sense of his inability to release prostitutes and engage in a marriage! I blamed me!!!!

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  • Martha B.
  • 20-06-21

understanding bpd, perspective, tools, and choices

Excellent. Will read several times and share with others.
Essential to improving my life. Will recommend.

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  • James Guenther
  • 31-05-21

This book should be more widely read

I think this book would have saved my brother's life if he had known to read it

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  • karen steiner
  • 27-05-21

Very informative

Well written and well narrated. Really learned a lot about BPD. Highly recommend good luck

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  • Buddy
  • 06-02-21

interesting

This book has helpful information for the one who is in these types of relationships.