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Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't
- Narrated by: Dick Fredricks
- Length: 7 hrs and 21 mins
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- Categories: Health & Wellness, Psychology & Mental Health
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Too many of us have invested in relationships that have gone wrong. Maybe you've been judged, manipulated, or controlled. Or maybe you've trusted the wrong people in the past. It's easy to make the same mistakes of judgment over and over - or, worse, to give up on trying to have great, authentic relationships again. But it doesn't have to be that way.
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Safe People will give you the tools you need to recognize what makes people relationally safe, form positive relationships, and even become a safe person along the way. Drs. Cloud and Townsend share expert insights that will help you ask important questions:
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- Why do I choose people who let me down?
- How did I end up with this critical boss?
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It's time to revitalize your connections and finally start enjoying the healthy, balanced relationships that you deserve.
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- Ingrid Faro
- 30-11-14
Good very Good
What made the experience of listening to Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't the most enjoyable?
If you can ignore the very annoying God God God talk, there is Great wisdom there.
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- katma
- 17-06-21
Perhaps some useful tools but very preoccupied with God
I’m afraid I couldn’t get past the constant references to god, so where the two therapists, who presumably do have some scientific background(?!), may have useful tools and concepts to offer, I couldn’t reach them through the layers of religious treacle.
What a shame!
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- Carmen Carrol
- 19-06-20
Helpful Book
I enjoyed this book, it really highlights the difference between safe and unsafe people, in a variety of settings no matter how subtle. I will refer to this book on creating the ability towards find attracting more safe people.
I recommend this book if you've struggled with relationships.
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- Lyndsay
- 16-02-20
great
helped me so much in all aspects of life. I really love this book and will listen over and over.
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- Mum of 4
- 20-08-19
A very helpful book
I found this Audiobook very interesting and helpful and easy to follow. I'm glad I chose it.
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- Anonymous User
- 28-11-18
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I like the book very much, but not the narrator. made it unenjoyable to listen.
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- Amazon Customer
- 26-05-21
The narrator wasn’t right for me
Unfortunately I’m returning the book. Above everything I found the narrator too animated for the subject matter which really affected how I was able te receive the content.
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- Kindle Customer
- 27-02-21
one of the best books I've ever read. A must read
This book is like getting counselling, in book form. I only wish i had read this years ago, as a child or teen. i could have avoided so many unsafe relationships, or known how to deal with them.... and how to find good friends. If time travel was possible, I'd go back to read this! and I'll be reading it again, soon
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- Gordon
- 16-02-21
Exceptional!
Useful for building meaningful relationships. Good, sound advise built on biblical truths. A must read.
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- Oluwakemi Akingbade
- 06-10-18
Great and worth listening to over and over again.
Beautiful and great. It is a must listen to for everyone. We all need safe people in our lives.
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- Weedarkone
- 14-06-12
Excellent analysis of Safe and Unsafe People
Nota Bene: this book is written by Christian therapists who look at things (at least in this book) from a Christian point of view. That said, if you are a Christian, you will find this analysis exceedingly useful. If you are not a Christian, I would imagine that you could still find the book useful, although, you might get annoyed by the constant references to God and what God wants for our lives. It depends on your tolerance for that kind of talk, I think.
That said, I (as a Christian) found this book to be SO helpful, I have listened to it at least ten times since I bought it about a month ago. I will listen to a chapter, then listen again and again, taking notes and trying to remember the endless amounts of good advice and analysis provided.
This book is split into parts, with lots of lists (something I loved).
The first part discusses in detail the characteristics of Unsafe People.
The second part analyzes why we befriend Unsafe People.
The third part discusses the characteristics of Safe People, how to become one, and how to befriend them.
I highly recommend this book to anyone who has trouble making and keeping friendships with people who make them feel good and happy, and who help them to be the best people they can be. You need this book if most of your friends are dysfunctional people (aren't we all) who persist in their dysfunction, instead of who seek to grow and move out of their harmful ways. Or for those who have simply given up on trying to make new friends because they have been let down so many times, they just don't see the point anymore.
This book is for you.
As for the reader, he does a fantastic job of reading this book, even going to the point of using different voices for other men, women, or children. It's actually quite endearing. He does a great job of capturing the emotion behind the author's words, but without being maudlin. Great job, reader!
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- ria
- 02-10-12
excellent for learning about yourself and others
Where does Safe People rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?
I have listened to many audiobooks for learning about myself and others, this is by far up there with my top 3
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- OrangeJuice
- 12-09-17
Bad News First. Good News last.
The bad news:
1. Book is outdated. Wish I would have realized I was buying a dinosaur. Unfortunately I forgot to check the publishing date. The fact that the field of psychology has grown immensly since this book was written makes this book feel OLD SCHOOL by today's standards.
2. Authors lean toward victim blaming. I find their lack of compassion toward those that have been abused appalling. They literally list ABUSE as something that you need to simply GET PAST as if trauma has nothing to do with your inability to do so. This approach is shallow. At times during the book they say the best way to resolve conflicts is to facilitate change in others by changing yourself without discussing the danger of doing this with a cluster B personality disordered person. It's as if they would say a rape victim is at fault if they have lingering issues and if they would change themself then they can change the rapist. Sorry, but this ideology is ridiculous regardless of when it was written.
3. At times they compare your ability to resolve relationship conflicts with the ability of Jesus - as if they should be the same. I found myself getting angry as they needlessly pointed out that I am not God. (which I already knew as I am born again) They say to "do what Jesus did " without even discussing the difficultities or presenting HOW TO'S presented as real solutions. Telling me to be like God reminds me of the wwjd movement. How helpful is it when you are already trying and failing. If that is all you needed to know, then you would not be reading this book.
4. They lack ability to identify with people that would actually need what this book promises - a new found ability to have people in your life that care about you and that dont desire to hurt you. They promise they have the answers to helping you find SAFE PEOPLE when in fact they have no "real world" experience doing it at all. This became evident as they described their worst relational experience as having a college girlfrend cheating on them. While that is hurtful, it certainly would not erase all other important people from their life. Their personal lack of need for finding SAFE PEOPLE in the first place makes this book nothing more than a research project. For those of us that ARE or have been isolated, their attempt to relate through this "experiment" feels like a big slap in the face. Kind of like... "wow, that's the worst thing relationally you ever experienced?". It's like having someone who stubbed their toe telling a veteran that lost both his legs to "just get up and walk", afterall, they didn't let their stubbed toe stop them. Additionally, you should have never gone to war in the first place. Oh and dont forget Jesus told the patalytic to get up and walk..." Is this banter helpful or hurtful to the soldier? I say hurtful and a waste of time.
5. At times they make Jesus sound like a narcissist. Not sure if it was the writing or how it was read or both, but many times it contained mocking tones that bothered me. Also, the continuous lip smacking by the reader was irritating.
6. They discuss good news and bad news, but don't tell you what they are handing you until after. By then you are so confused that their point is easily lost. Re-reading the book several times will help clarify.
NOW FOR THE GOOD NEWS:
1. The authors are Christians. Their desire to be helpful seems clear. At times they hit on issues in a clear manner and the idea of Christian psychologists with a PHD attempting to help others is potentally heart warming.
2. Their list of 20 things to look for in safe people is helpful. You will be encouraged that SAFE PEOPLE do exist and be given above average tips on how to find them. However, they themselves are wishy washy in their point that implementing the ideas of this book may or may not help. kind of like a disclaimer that leaves you feeling indifferent about their own confidence
3. Even better are the tips of what "not to do" when looking for SAFE PEOPLE. This seemed like good advice and could save you some time - perhaps years.
4. You will find that chatacters in the book are often humbled and can be fooled by non-safe people - even people with great status. This is helpful for not feeling so alone as a mistake maker. (just not the authors, as they seem to be ABOVE you and I)
5. The reader voice quality is above average. He makes it feel like a story. While I was ok with it, at times the fact that this subject was directed to be read in this manner dumbed down the overall clinical approach self help theme of the actual book.
SUMMARY
If I sound cynical in THE GOOD news portion of my review, it is only to reflect how they express good news with blame shift. I hope you get the point.
If you want to be blamed for being alone and not having SAFE PEOPLE in your life more than you are taught how to find them, then you will love this book. If you can stomache their blame, the tips they present for finding and needing SAFE PEOPLE it could definitely still be worth the read. Just be sure you are solid in your entire recovery approach first. My concern is that anyone with a DEEP NEED to get connected will find themselves reeling in pain if they read this book. I know I felt great pain as I was essentially shamed for not doing enough and for having a need to begin with. If they were compassionate in their writing I would tell you, they simply are not. As a Christian, it greatly dissaponts me to see such lack of compassion in the writing when the book itself was likely born from God's desire to see his people connected.
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- krista
- 28-05-13
Great insight with helpful action steps.
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This is one of the most helpful self-help audiobooks I've listened to.
What was one of the most memorable moments of Safe People?
“When we ask we are owning our needs. Asking for love, comfort or understanding is a transaction between two people. You are saying: I have a need. It's not your problem. It's not your responsibility. You don't have to respond, but I'd like something from you. This frees the other person to connect with you freely and without obligation. When we own that our needs are our responsibility we allow others to love us because we have something to offer. Asking is a far cry from demanding. When we demand love, we destroy it.”
How did the narrator detract from the book?
The narrator's over-dramatization and use of different voices (most of which sounded like they were drunk or derranged) for every little case example was odd for a self-help book. It was a little distracting and very perplexing but did not ruin the book.
Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?
No- too much to absorb in one sitting.
Any additional comments?
This is from a Christian perspective but still has valuable insight to offer a non-Christian.
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- Linette
- 28-11-11
A big help to my life
I have listened to this book over and over again as it has really helped me to move forward from my most recent breakup. I was devasted by the breakup and it made me to be able to question my character decernment. I needed help and this book is like haveing a counsler in your back pocket, when you need it. I will use these principles to seek out a new relationship. Normally, I would have retreated from relationships but now I am not afraid to move forward and be open to finding the love i deserve. I will seek out safe people and become a safe person as well
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- Jamie Jones
- 25-01-19
Homophobic
I knew this book was based and Christianity, but I didn’t realize that it was going to be homophobic. I had to stop listening after the book claimed that homosexuality was a social ill.
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- Papa Wade
- 16-04-13
Excellent read on discernmet of relationships
Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?
Yes, because with a busy scheduled, I am able to get more time doing other things while listening.
What other book might you compare Safe People to and why?
Boundaries set to basis for this book on relationships with examples, which are necessary in getting the average person to understand to points made.
What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?
Understanding relationships which are not open to honesty show themselves as always positioning themselves superior or focusing all the attention on to themselves. Healthy relationship know how to receive each other as equals and yet remain with their separate identities and sustainable lives apart from each other.
Any additional comments?
This book is a must read for people who are humble, and willing to open themselves up to healthy relations directed by the Holy Spirit to the Glory of God and not man.
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- Lynne Sbaraglia
- 15-08-12
Safe Relationships
If you could sum up Safe People in three words, what would they be?
This book should have been called Safe Relationships because it applies to any kind of relationship you might have in your life as well as the ones you are considering for the long term. Great book but I wish I had the hard copy to refer back to although this was easier to flip between the chapters than most.
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- flash07
- 15-11-15
A must before thinking of divorce.
If anyone is hearing the enemy telling them they need to leave their marriage because of all the things their spouse is doing this is a must read. But finish the entire book. You need it all, looking at yourself first and then to your spouse.
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- Kudakwashe
- 18-01-17
Great Insights
Am reading with friends and from this book we know we have issues. This books is helping us cultivate healthy relationships
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