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Please Yourself: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Transform the Way You Live

How to Stop People-Pleasing and Transform the Way You Live

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Please Yourself: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Transform the Way You Live

By: Emma Reed Turrell
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About this listen

We are all people-pleasers in one way or another – even those who deny it.

Whether at work, home or in our relationships, we all know how it feels to want people to like us. The problem comes when we give up our own needs along the way.

In this life-changing book, psychotherapist Emma Reed Turrell explains the different ‘types’ of people-pleaser and provides practical, reassuring advice on how to better understand – and stop – people-pleasing behaviour when it starts to affect your own needs.

Please Yourself will help you care for others in the right way – and ultimately, help you take better care of yourself.

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'Utterly brilliant. Emma Reed-Turrell is a wonderful writer, a compassionate guide and the therapist we all long for. Every page of Please Yourself contains a truth bomb; every sentence a golden nugget of wisdom. If you're a people-pleaser (and you probably are) this book will change your life. My only regret is that it didn't exist earlier as it would have saved me – and everyone else – a whole lot of bother’ Elizabeth Day, author of How to Fail

‘Even if you don’t think of yourself as a people pleaser, it turns out you’ve been pleasing everyone your entire life! Prepare for some home truths and some life changing adviceCosmopolitan

‘As a recovering people-pleaser who often falls back into its tempting trap, I absolutely loved this book. Informative, entertaining and empowering’ Emma Gannon, author of Olive

A helpful, reassuring book that will give you insight into discovering your no is even more valuable than your yes. And in discovering it you'll find you like yourself more and others will too…’ Julia Samuel, author of This Too Shall Pass

Realistic, non-judgemental and genuinely helpful: your one way ticket to growing a backbone. It took me decades to learn why I people pleased and how to stop. Thanks to Emma Reed Turrell, you don’t need to wait that long’ Sam Baker, author of The Shift

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There are so many great insights in this audiobook that I just wasn’t expecting. I don’t ‘do’ self help books but listened to this as it was part of my monthly book club. I wasn’t expecting much but it’s so well put together that I’ve genuinely taken action already based on realisations from this. It’s a real confidence booster and not airy fairy at all.

An actual lifechanger

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If you are a people pleaser or think you might be one, just read this. It tells you how to value others and just as importantly yourself. It shows you how to address the issues and move on. It's authentic and true. Highly recommended.

Authentic and True

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highly recommend if you recognise that you, or someone you love has people pleasing traits, excellent advice from a trained female psychotherapist and useful relatable case studies 10/10

Very insightful and enlightening

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This is one of my favourite books to date! Brilliantly read by the author, it gives straightforward advice on how to recognise and change these harmful habits, reminding the reader that they have to take responsibility for their own happiness. I cannot recommend it enough and will listen to it again in future.

Honest and straightforward

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Loved it... I'm not into reading books.. So downloaded this audio... This book relates to everyone in US.. I found myself comparing to alot in this book.. To the point I would replay different parts to listen to again. Listens to this within 2 days even whilst driving home from work too! I just hope that I can put things into practice now.

Excellent...must listen to book.

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