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Summary

Originally published as an ebook that became a controversial media phenomenon, No More Mr. Nice Guy! landed its author, a certified marriage and family therapist, on The O'Reilly Factor and the Rush Limbaugh radio show. 

Dr. Robert Glover has coined the "Nice Guy Syndrome" for trying too hard to please others while neglecting one's own needs, thus causing unhappiness and resentfulness. It's no wonder that unfulfilled Nice Guys lash out in frustration at their loved ones, claims Dr. Glover. 

He explains how they can stop seeking approval and start getting what they want in life, by presenting the information and tools to help them ensure their needs are met, to express their emotions, to have a satisfying sex life, to embrace their masculinity and form meaningful relationships with other men, and to live up to their creative potential. 

©2000, 2003 Robert Glover (P)2017 Recorded Books

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A turning point in my life.

The same as what the author/narrator states, every chapter will resonate with the 'nice guy'.
The author has had enough experience dealing with nice guys to be able to hit on alot of signals associated with the issue to which i was not prepared for. To say he knows my deep seated issues is an understatement.
Quality of narration and subject knowledge is top class.
If you want to get the most out of this audio book, do not take this as a fleeting past time that you listen to on the way to work for 15minutes; dive into it head first, set a few hours aside regularly to do the activities and dig down deep to confront all the shit and sort out all that preprograming that is holding you back.

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for guys really struggling maybe... for others no.

this book is for guys who are really struggling in their relationship and life. I'm talking about guys who aren't allowed to go out, have the missus control the purse strings, have a dominant partner that treats then like shit etc. It endorses alot of support groups, 12 step groups etc

I bought this book to try and get some tips on how to say "no" to people at work and be a little more assertive... it focussed too much on a male being not too strong in his relationship at home and didn't really focus on work (although I'm sure transferable).

there is some good aspects of the book, but I felt 90% just wasn't applicable to my situation.

For: guys who are having trouble getting what they want at home (their own time, speaking up etc)

Not for: guys who feel their relationship at home is good, but feel they could do with some more assertiveness.

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Cult stuff

To pity to miss the story about way of being nice is the worst choise.

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The best book a man can read!

Where do I start? After trying to find a cure for struggling with life and love. Having read books on self help, spirituality and the meaning of life this book diagnosed me 100%. Yep I am a Nice Guy! This was like reading my own life story.... because it was! I read this book open mouthed and amazed, after 50 years of hell I now know the problem that has been my constant curse. I owe Robert Glover a debt of gratitude, because now I can hopefully become a "Man" and not a "Nice guy" anymore. If you're a male out there struggling in life and love and never getting to where you think you deserve to be you have to read this book. In fact I think every man needs to read this book to stop and to halt the nice guy/half man plague that has afflicted the male population. BUY THIS BOOK YOU WILL NOT BE SORRY 10/10

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Fantastic

More that I expected. I will listen to this time and time again. Thank Dr Robert Glover

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The best book for men I have read

I (as a woman) sometimes read books for men. Just to find one to recommend to struggling men, there are many books and the rare is good. This one is amazing. Thoughtful, sane, heartfelt but for men about men and how to be a better man for themselves. Yes, be a man not the nice guy!

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Combines all I couldn’t explain

I am codependent and though I have found amazing books on the subject I found it hard to apply to a male point of view, this book does it well.

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  • 23-05-18

Game Changer

I didn’t know what to expect from the book, but it helped me realise who I am and I can make big changes in my life now. A really helpful listen.

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Review stop seeking approval/ fear of acception

•Ask for what you want
•Put yourself first. Makes your needs a priority.
•Stop seeking approval!▪be you, you are ok, you are awesome
[•Face your fears]
•Be honest
●Authentic,Comfotable with his sexuality and masculinity,Honest, Bondouries,Integrity =an integrated Man
■If you didn't care what other people thought of you, how would you live your life?
■Bondouries. If this behaviour had occurred on the second date, would there be a third? How a healthy male would manage the situation?

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Awesome book

it's a must read for every guy. it's a shame I didn't come across his book earlier.

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  • Charles Mckeever
  • 25-03-18

Nailed me right between the eyes

As a 46 year old male, ex-Marine, and self professed “nice guy” I finally understand that all this time, I have been causing my own pain. It hasn’t been my career, my spouse, my friends, my environmental conditions. The common factor in all those things has been me. No more Mr. nice guy described many of my own internal feelings like someone was reading my mind. Things that I’ve never told anyone. Now that I have clarity on these issues, I now have a way to work through them to be set free. I’ve already applied some of the techniques with immediate results. Mainly because the change started with me, which then encouraged positive responses from others. So basically, now I’m in the process of reviewing all of my thoughts and actions to challenge and change the defaults. If you even think this book might help you, take a chance. I did and I’m so very thankful to the author.

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  • 05-02-18

literally fixed me

I struggled to find the answer to why my marriage failed and my ex girlfriend cheated on me. the book cured me of my condition. real help inside. actionable and practical.

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  • MatthewFF
  • 04-07-18

This book changed my life

Absolutely the worst best thing to ever happen to me. Finding this book saved my life. If you have ever been called a nice guy too much or consider yourself a nice guy read this book!

The first chapter was a punch to the gut and a knee to the face. my world was turned upside down immediately for the better. don't take my word for it. Get this book!

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  • N. Howard
  • 28-04-18

Almost returned it halfway through.. glad I didn't

"Self-help for Cucks" was my initial impression of this title early on, and in a way, it is. The first half basically introduces the beta personalities that will be used as references and examples later on. The author is obviously a talented psychologist, and his motivations for writing this book admittedly stem from helping himself, and eventually groups of others deal with loveless, sexless, toxic relationships and personalities. Personally, I was having a difficult time and a little bit of buyer's remorse when trying to relate to the cases featured, as many others may experience. His insights and way of dissecting human behavior resonated with me just enough though, so I kept going.

The second half was where I found gold. I would like to point out that although the title and narrative is aimed at men, the insights into subconscious human "hangups" and motivations scattered throughout the book transcend gender, class, race, and any other "ism" that you may come into this pre-loaded with. Personal growth as a human being requires understanding the side of yourself that you probably aren't aware of, and he does an excelent job of pointing you in the right direction. Do not let your ego distract you from really listening, I promise that it's worth it.

Many of the psychological tactics employed here are lost on myself, and probably a lot of other people that are familiar with them... letting go of mental baggage, affirmations, etc. However, there is merit to these exercises, and they will do a world of good for the core audience that the book is aimed at. For others that are further along on your path, there are more than enough gems here to justify the digging. All in all, a very valuable book in terms of personal growth and understanding, and I highly recommend it.

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  • Bjorn Thorkelson
  • 30-12-17

Practical guide for people pleasers

This book really resonated with me. It details many of the reasons and solutions for overcoming toxic shame. This is the updated version of the book. I’m not sure if the previous version had a pdf, but this one doesn’t. Tough to practically implement the recommended exercises without that.

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  • Sebastián Godoy
  • 10-09-18

awesome

an awesome book, a must read for every modern man, it helps a Lot to overcome the Nice guy syndrome

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  • Salama´s Family
  • 09-09-18

Loved this book

Explains who I was and who I am becoming. This book is awesome in that aspect. This is not the only one that I have read to help my growth but it's definitively in my top 10

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  • Paul
  • 05-09-18

If you feel people walk on you, this is your book!

I mean it. Do you ever feel like lots of people in your life walk all over you? If so then you really need to read this book! There is however one downside! You will have to realize that you are the problem. That people only treat you how you allow them to. This book will help with that. Perhaps a little of a bitter pill, but this is the medicine for you "Mr. Nice Guy".

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  • Mateusz Canova
  • 04-09-18

Eye opening description

In my opinion, the best self-help book out there. You will be suprised, how well the author describes some of your behaviours and character traits. He does not only write about them, but also shows, what they really mean and how they affect your life. What is even better is that he gives some hints how to remove them. All in all, great book.

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  • Balint Biro
  • 30-08-18

I like this book so much

From time to time I listening one book from this subject, and I think this one was very useful. Worth the money, thanks a lot!