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Summary

A New Resource for Those Experiencing Loss

With It's OK That You're Not OK, Megan Devine offers a profound new approach to both the experience of grief and the way we help others who have endured tragedy. Having experienced grief from both sides - as both a therapist and as a woman who witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner - Megan writes with deep insight about the unspoken truths of loss, love, and healing. She debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, "happy" life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it.

On this unabridged audio recording read by the author, Megan offers stories, research, life tips, and creative and mindfulness-based practices to guide us through an experience we all must face. With Megan's gentle but direct guidance, you'll learn:

  • Why well-meaning advice, therapy, and spiritual wisdom so often end up making it harder for people in grief
  • How challenging the myths of grief - doing away with stages, timetables, and unrealistic ideals about how grief should unfold - allows us to accept it as a mystery to be honored instead of a problem to solve
  • Practical guidance for managing stress, improving sleep, and decreasing anxiety without trying to "fix" your pain

Many people who have suffered a loss feel judged, dismissed, and misunderstood by a culture that wants to "solve" grief. Megan writes, "Grief no more needs a solution than love needs a solution." It's OK That You're Not OK is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves - and each other - better.

©2017 Megan Devine (P)2017 Sounds True

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Wise & compassionate

A wise and compassionate book. Well read. Useful for anyone who has been bereaved, and for those who support them.

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Well meaning intentions but lecturing

Some empathy. Narrator's deliberate pauses made it sound insincere. Lecturing in places. Unhelpfully spiritually cynical.

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  • Robert B. Davis
  • 20-10-17

Transfigurative treatise on grief

This audio book is articulated with poignant authenticity. It is a seminal work on living with tragic loss. It has personal reflection, research, powerful quotes, and useful activities. I highly recommend this book. I plan to listen to it often. Thank-you!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 30-10-17

someone understands

this book is a beautifully understanding and gentle reminder that grief is not something you just get over. it has brought me comfort and helped me with some ways I can move forward with my grief.

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  • Erica Willenbring
  • 13-06-18

By far the best "grief" book

I lost my triplets 5 months into my pregnancy about 4 1/2 years ago. I've read many of books, listened to podcasts, gone to group and private counseling, but this book said it all. I grasped every word and related to every feeling. Grief cannot be healed, it will always exist. Reducing the suffering is the only thing we can control and even that takes times. Allowing one's self to be okay with not being okay is very freeing.

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  • Jimann Jones
  • 13-12-17

From a broken heart

This book has helped me with the loss of my daughter. It is a suggested must read for those that grieve

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  • Nicole G
  • 28-03-18

THANK YOU

The is by far the best book I have read on profound loss.
Finally, a place to find validation and some measure of peace in my truth, without being told how to "fix" my pain, but instead showing me how to live within it, through it.
A million thanks to the author for giving all of us this rare and precious place, this refuge from the well-meaning but clueless masses.
Thank you.

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  • Angela Lindsey
  • 25-01-18

Thank you!

She really got it. All the sad and ugly truth of losing someone. I’m really glad I found this book.

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  • Mary Ann Neevel
  • 10-12-17

real grief for real people

Megan lends invaluable insight into the world of grief and why it can make us feel so crazy. This book will revolutionize your experience and understanding of our cultural model of grief, how simple tending and pure acceptance is often withheld. You are ok, however you are not ok - feel that, take it in, know you are not alone in tending your loss and new life with Megan, this wonderful book and the brave community of the grief revolution as companions.

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  • Kristin Rose
  • 16-09-18

Completely wonderful!

This book is not your typical book about grief. It teaches us how to deal with it better without all the rah-rah stuff involved. It is allowing you for once to feel your pain as if it is heard because our society does not give us permission to feel sad. Society teaches us that we have to be everything else, but we are actually feeling. Here is the simple truth: it is OK to be NOT be OK. We are allowed to process our feelings in our own time and accept the events that happened to us in our own time. This book is beautifully written. I would give it to anyone who like myself experienced loss in any capacity.

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  • Arelis
  • 08-09-18

Thank you Megan

I've already shared it with three of my closest friends, one also grieving like me and two supporters. It was so easy to understand and it validated each and everyone of my concerns on grieving, being supported and feeling the way I feel. I'll be listening to it a few more times for sure.

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  • Risa Simon
  • 26-08-18

Off the chart authenticity, candor and realness

Had no idea how powerful this book would be. The author is an incrediblly knowlegable and insightful mentor. From her personal experience to her professional expertise, this book was mind-blowing. If you're looking for how to live in a broken world, this tell it like it is author will open that door. As a person wanting to support another's grief, I learned so much and I'm so grateful that I got my hands on this book. This is a must-read /must listen to, go-to resource--- even for those who aren't experiencing grief, it's a proactive course on understanding it from a proactive inside-out point of view. I found the words in this book, and MS. Devine's authentic voice inflections, not only powerful and life changing, but also immensely liberating. Bless you for sharing your gift.