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In this groundbreaking book, Dr Michaeleen Doucleff looks back to our ancestors for solutions to our failing modern-day parenting theories.

When Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff became a mother, she examined the studies behind modern parenting guidance and found that the evidence was frustratingly limited, and the conclusions often ineffective. She began to wonder if an opposite approach was needed - one founded on traditional wisdom, like the knowledge and experience passed down over hundreds, even thousands, of years within ancient cultures.

With her young daughter in tow, she travelled across the world to observe and practice parenting strategies alongside families in three of the world's most venerable communities: Maya families in Mexico, Inuit families above the Arctic Circle and Hadza families in Tanzania.

Dr. Doucleff soon learned that these cultures don't have the same problems with children that Western parents do. Most strikingly, parents build a relationship with young children that is vastly different from the one many Western parents develop, built on co-operation instead of control; trust instead of fear; and personalized needs instead of standardized development milestones.

In Hunt, Gather, Parent, Doucleff introduces us to families where parents help little ones learn to control their emotions and reduce tantrums by the parents themselves controlling their own frustrations; foster self-sufficiency by safely giving kids the autonomy to manage risks and explore their limits; and motivate children to help with chores without using bribes or threats. Doucleff also talks to psychologists, neuroscientists, anthropologists and sociologists and explains how the tools and tips can impact children's mental health and development.

Packed with practical takeaways, Hunt, Gather, Parent helps us rethink the ways we relate to our children, and reveals a universal parenting paradigm adapted for modern American families.

©2021 Michaeleen Doucleff (P)2021 HarperCollins Publishers Limited

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A revelation

Prepare to be amazed. The super parents around the world have some tips and tricks that will change western culture for the better. I am in love with this book!

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Great book on parenting

I love the book. It has lots of practical tips and an alternative view of parenting than we learnt in the west. The voice is very good to listen too. I will definitely listen to some of the chapters again.

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Missed the mark

I was hopeful during the first couple chapters but unfortunately didn't make it to chapter 6 as I found the language betrayed the author's lack of any real understanding of what their research discovered... The author traveled around the world to observe parenting practices based on mutual love, respect and communication and yet still refers to it as "training"... The emphasis is STILL on creating an obedient and convenient child; moulding them into the person they want them to be instead of accepting them for exactly who they are right now. If you are hoping that the author eventually experiences a paradigm shift and learns that children are people deserving of respect and human rights ALREADY, instead of not-yet-ready people who need to be shaped with operant conditioning (whatever quadrant you use; positive reinforcement or punishment, using external motivation to change behaviour can cause serious problems) however you see fit, then you will be disappointed.
The narrator also struggled with some pronunciation "adought" instead of "adult", "resort" not "result".

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Fantastic book!

This was one of the best parenting books I’ve read. Really made me think, question and learn so much and feel inspired to let go of control and go back to an innate way of living and parenting. It made me long for living in one of the tribes that the author talks about! The stories were also so captivating that I couldn’t stop listening and imagining!

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Life-changing

A book to change everything you think you know about kids, parents and the society we live in.

I wish it had been written 15 years ago, but I’m grateful to Michaeleen for doing this work now. With a little effort, it’s never too late to turn things around!

Insightful, revolutionary full of deep human truths.

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The most liberating and refreshing parenting book

This is a must-read and must-listen book! Liberating, refreshing, genuine and heart-centred. It's about teaching adults to treat children with the love, respect, compassion and autonomy that they deserve instead of treating them like aliens that need to be constantly controlled. This is a thought-provoking book and if I had this book a few years ago, it would have made everybody's life so much easier. Thank you Michaeleen Douclef for giving us "Hunt, Gather, Parent". I feel so much more relaxed and assured as a parent having read this book.

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A revelation

I devoured this book, which has been a total revelation to me. I will listen again shortly, and am already putting the ideas into practice. Doucleff's story of her own Western parenting resonated so strongly with me, and it feels like a weight has already been lifted just to consider other ways of parenting.

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Game changer

This book is one of these few book which will shake your world and change your view on parenting the way we are told to do so.

The narrator does certain throat screaching noises which remind me the letter ein in arabic which were annoying while listening to it. The audio wasn't perfect. Once whole sentence was repeated twice.

Last three hours were little boring. The book was way too long. The content could be simplified in just about under two hours but it was enjoyable and entertaining to listen it.

I hope to read more from this author in the future.

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A new take on parenthood

An eye opening study/documentary of 3 different communities, their parenting style and its effect on thier their children, in traits like confidence, calmness, helpfulness, responsibility and relationships. Offers very actionable insights for day to day parenting that is more enjoyable, much less stressful and improves child development and parent-child relationship.

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It’s great to hear another view on parenting

If you search for answers in how to parent in a different way, this book makes you think! I can’t wait to try it out! De